Hi just some advice please and I’m sorry for the long essay.
My husband and I have been married for 3 years, we don’t have kids yet; I’m 28 and he’s 30. We had an argument 3days ago which was his fault and we haven’t spoken since then although we’ve cooked, gone food shopping etc together without speaking to each other unless we have to. When we argue we’re usually both good at sitting down and communicating and resolving issues, either he calls for the discussion or I do but I’ve noticed that of late he may notice I’m upset about something that he’s done and won’t apologise or ask to speak about it so that we understand each other’s view, and then I just end up letting let it go. I chose to sleep in the guest room for the past 2 nights because I needed to play music to sleep as I’ve been quite upset and I know he needs silence to sleep.
There are things I want to discuss with him but I’m more upset because he’s not tried to sort things out or apologise, we both love and care for each other but I think he has a lot of growing up to do, he knows he’s upset me but won’t try to resolve it I just don’t understand?
To make it worse, we were meant to attend his cousin’s house warming yesterday and we didn’t go but he’s ended up telling his family that I wasn’t feeling 100% to attend , in order prevent them knowing we’ve argued, and I’ve had them texting me to just check I’m okay, yet he’s not asked if I’m okay which I think is silly.
Anyway I’m tired of sitting in a room 24/7 all by myself and I’ve been feeling quite low and lonely, I’m thinking of going to visit my parents and siblings for a few days into the bank holiday, I spoke to my Dad this morning and told him I might come to visit as I usually do, and also WFH obviously not going to discuss anything with them as we don’t believe in discussing our marital issues with family and I just don’t like how I’m feeling atm.
I’m not packing out or anything like that and I don’t want my husband to think that, but I don’t want to be the one to sit down to ask him why he’s acted the way he did and all the other things he’s done which I told him previously I wasn’t happy with.
I think he's acting childish and showing lack of emotional empathy and I don’t want to encourage his behaviour or am I the one being childish? and is going home childish?
Thanks