need some outside perspectives on what you’d do. DH and I keep flip flopping.
2 dcs, one 6 months and one nearly 3. DH and I haven’t left the country since 2018 due to pregnancy and lockdown etc. Truthfully, it’s been a real shit show of a couple of years, lockdown with a newborn was hard (severe pnd), several close relatives (DF on my side and a few other auntys on DH side) so a real shit. When Dh secured a lovely new job (nice pay rise) we said ok, let’s go on hols, nothing too fancy drive to France do self catering, but a break, I know hols with little kids aren’t ever too relaxing but we want(ed) to treat them for the feel good factor. We calculated it would be about £2k. We’ve put a £100 deposit down for the cottage.
here’s the snag, my pay is about to go to Smp and whilst I’ve saved for this, basically from the start of my mat leave there have been expenses that ate our savings, dc1 had nearly £1k worth of private medical bills (long story short GP ran lots of erroneous tests because she had blood in her stool once and then practice nurse advised that all signs point of something sinister like bowl cancer and then they refused to write referral letters to paeds and lost them, going out of our minds we paid to go private- another reason to need a break). We need units put in our main bathroom as we’ve just got some Argos / ikea freestanding ones that aren’t ideal for kids, DD needs a new bed, we need to convert the spare room into a spare room/ study so need to get new desks and a day bed, ideally we need to do the garden too but as it’s functional that can wait and then obviously the huge and hideous rise in the cost of living.
we now keep flip flopping, we’ve been at work for 4 years straight (mat leave and work in my case) without a break or holiday and in many senses t to look forward too, we’ve had a shitty time of it and the kids would love it so we know we ‘need’ a break, but then there’s the other expenses and the fact you can only spend it once.
wwyd? Cancel or go?