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RURAL RACISM

328 replies

findingthepremise · 18/04/2022 22:44

So, I live in a predominately white area, an affluent area also. It has become apparent to me that even after decades have passed, the mixed or otherwise non white minority has never developed. I ask myself why? I find that in many rural areas this is the case and I cant understand why. Is having a housing stipulation under the council that requests that only people with family ties to the area can apply to put their name forward for the housing association schemes? is that possibly an undercurrent of racism?

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Mischance · 21/04/2022 15:06

I live in a very tiny village in the midst of nowhere. The pub is ruin by and Asian couple and their children and next door is a lady from Nigeria. In proportion to the tiny population that is quite high.

Neither say they have experienced any racism, thank goodness.

Mischance · 21/04/2022 15:07

Run - not ruin!!!!

LegMeChicken · 21/04/2022 15:11

desiringonlychild2022 · 21/04/2022 14:52

@Rosehugger its weird but a lot of posh commuter towns in the SE still have a white majority. There are plenty of BAME professionals who could easily afford homes there but they choose to stay in a more expensive property in London. Theoretically all the benefits of living in the Home Counties should apply to them as well- fresher air, gardens better access to countryside, bigger homes etc etc My DH just had a conversation with his british indian colleague where both were in mutual agreement and expounding upon the merits of apartment living (as both own apartments in London). I have yet to meet a white british person IRL who would tell me a London apartment is far preferable to a house with garden in the Home Counties!

In fact, the vast majority of people i know who leave london for the countryside/commuter towns are disproportionately white...

I can see why migrants prefer city apartments. Most are from more polluted cities anyway (so ‘fresh air’ not necessary), closer to business so they can get there ASAP (also used to working longer hours).

Most British-born London BAME professionals are born and raised Londoners, don’t want to live far away from family. Many of sais family live in ‘proper’ London, even in council housing, flats, proper houses bought in the ‘before ‘ time.

Obviously just my observation and deductions. Not scientific at all

MurmuratingStarling · 21/04/2022 15:12

On a TOTALLY different tangent, I am not a fan of the NEW ability to double/triple/quadruple/quintuple quotes on here. 😕 Like in @ancientgran's post at 14.07. It looks very messy. I have been on other websites in the past, and found that really offputting. (That's not a dig at you personally 'ancientgran') 🙂

I really am struggling to take to this new format!

PlainJaneEyre · 21/04/2022 15:25

This isn't racism but it is often a requirement in rural areas . If your family had been there for a couple of generations then your name would be on the list. It's a way of trying to ensure that local families are able to stay in an area where often there are many second home or outside buyers/renters.

PlainJaneEyre · 21/04/2022 15:28

Brainwave89 · 21/04/2022 11:59

So to be clear, I have never met a non-white person living in a village who has tried to do anything other than fit in. As an ethnic Indian. There is limited racism here in Norfolk (there is I am afraid always some wherever you live), but please do not tar my lovely neighbours wrongly. For some people access to people who sound and look the same is important as is access to different food and religious facilities and I do get that, but largely this is a genuinely fine place to live and my biracial kids love it as well.

You do know that if you were white you would be flayed alive for your use of language here?

Simonjt · 21/04/2022 15:40

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 20/04/2022 21:44

Maybe they don't want to live in those places.

If I was moving to a foreign country, I'd want to live in a city with easy access to shops, banks and an airport so I could go back home to see family. I wouldn't want to live in the middle of nowhere where I was dependent on a car etc. to get around.

I say that as someone who lives very rurally btw. I love it here but it can be incredibly isolated and you need a really strong local support network if you're unwell or can't drive etc.

So only white people are born in the UK?

Pinktruffle · 21/04/2022 16:01

Ethnic minority here, I'd love to live somewhere like the Cotswolds but would be reluctant as I would fear racism. I would particularly worry about my soon to be school aged DC and what they would experience at school. We are soon to move from a very ethnically diverse area to a semi-urban and I'm really worried that the move will be detrimental to the kids. It will be a better quality of life and a better house etc but we are likely to be one of the few ethnic minorities.

MurmuratingStarling · 21/04/2022 16:04

PlainJaneEyre · 21/04/2022 15:28

You do know that if you were white you would be flayed alive for your use of language here?

@PlainJaneEyre WTF is wrong with ANYthing that @Brainwave89 said? Confused

Stop reaching, and looking for flaws and problems that don't exist! Hmm

SockFluffInTheBath · 21/04/2022 16:09

@MurmuratingStarling i would guess it’s this bit that a white person would be flayed for saying:

For some people access to people who sound and look the same is important as is access to different food and religious facilities

Countdownis35 · 21/04/2022 16:12

PlainJaneEyre · 21/04/2022 15:25

This isn't racism but it is often a requirement in rural areas . If your family had been there for a couple of generations then your name would be on the list. It's a way of trying to ensure that local families are able to stay in an area where often there are many second home or outside buyers/renters.

This is where racism comes in though. The majority of the time people who have been born into a villiage life have lived a different type of life, they have been exposed to less... let's say bold things in life. If you are not used to being around ethnic minority food shops and people you can see how there could be an issue that would rock the boat.

Rosehugger · 21/04/2022 16:16

This is where racism comes in though. The majority of the time people who have been born into a villiage life have lived a different type of life, they have been exposed to less... let's say bold things in life. If you are not used to being around ethnic minority food shops and people you can see how there could be an issue that would rock the boat

Most places in the UK aren't that rural or isolated though. France on the other hand... Where I live for example is semi rural, I've got cows and sheep practically in my back garden (sometimes actually in my back garden, but I'll gloss over that). Yes we can commute to London and lots of people come to live here from other areas, and other parts of the world. People who have had experience of living in other places, who have done Bold Things even and have chosen to live here.

MurmuratingStarling · 21/04/2022 16:19

SockFluffInTheBath · 21/04/2022 16:09

@MurmuratingStarling i would guess it’s this bit that a white person would be flayed for saying:

For some people access to people who sound and look the same is important as is access to different food and religious facilities

Nope. Absolutely nothing wrong with that, and I disagree that a white person would have been lambasted for saying it. She was just saying people often feel more comfortable with familiar things around them, and people who are more like them. And that is true. Whether it's people of the same class, or ethnic origin or age group.

Have to agree to disagree here.

iloveeverykindofcat · 21/04/2022 16:24

@desiringonlychild2022 Interesting article. In Arab culture - or Iraqi at least, I don't want to generalize - walking for pleasure isn't really a thing. The climate doesn't permit it. The Iraqi idea of 'getting back to nature' is driving your air-conditioned vehicle onto the sandflats for a carefully controlled barbeque (complete with the 365 tupperware containers) and pretending to be Bedouin for an evening. My dad never did get used to the idea of walking somewhere when there was no physical need to.

desiringonlychild2022 · 21/04/2022 16:27

@Countdownis35 There are over a hundred nationalities/ cultures represented in London, I can't claim to be an expert in most of them! We can't know everything. Once I walked past a kosher bakery near where my DH grew up on a Friday afternoon and a man was rapping on the window, he could not understand why they had closed at such a strange time. I explained to him that they closed early for Shabbat. He looked utterly bemused. All the bakeries ( I can't think of a single non kosher one) on that high street are kosher which means they all close early on Friday as it is an area with a large jewish population but the majority of people who live there aren't Jewish. Maybe some people would be annoyed that there aren't bakeries on that particular high street which adhere to more conventional opening times. I think most Londoners just go to a different one and aren't bothered. There are probably many things from other cultures that I don't know about and would find it difficult to get my head around, but its honestly none of my business...

I do know that in some towns that Jewish people have moved out to like Borehamwood and Canvey Island, the locals complain that the prices kosher bakeries charge are too high...

Countdownis35 · 21/04/2022 16:34

@Rosehugger I THINK YOU HAVE MISSED OPS question completely. We are not discussing France and OP asked WHY they are lack of ethnic minorities in rural areas? So is that YOUR conclusion?!

Rosehugger · 21/04/2022 16:50

I think you have missed my other posts, and the one you quoted was replying to a particular post, not the OP's.

zingally · 21/04/2022 17:02

My mum lives in a small town on the Welsh border, having moved there from a large West Midlands city. She has often said that she struggles to recall the last time she saw a non-white person.

Choopi · 21/04/2022 17:05

Nope. Absolutely nothing wrong with that, and I disagree that a white person would have been lambasted for saying it.

Eh did you miss all of the racist accusations over Ukrainian refugees? Saying that you related to them because looked like you and lived a life similar to yours in similar apartments etc to you is absolutely not allowed in some quarters.

CharSiu · 21/04/2022 18:19

I live in a very white area and have a 50 mile round trip to a specialist food shop sometimes. That’s an obvious issue.

But it’s mainly jobs, people worrying about racism and actually some people from ethnic minorities preferring the company of people from the same background. I know my Dad did just to back up what @Brainwave89 wrote.

I think some white liberals just would not want to even contemplate that as an angle and yes they wouldn’t be able to say it.

FiddlefigOnTheRoof · 21/04/2022 18:19

Mischance · 21/04/2022 15:06

I live in a very tiny village in the midst of nowhere. The pub is ruin by and Asian couple and their children and next door is a lady from Nigeria. In proportion to the tiny population that is quite high.

Neither say they have experienced any racism, thank goodness.

Don’t mistake this for them not having experienced racism. I don’t talk to people about race (particularly not white people).

www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/30/why-im-no-longer-talking-to-white-people-about-race

oakleaffy · 21/04/2022 18:25

MurmuratingStarling · 21/04/2022 15:12

On a TOTALLY different tangent, I am not a fan of the NEW ability to double/triple/quadruple/quintuple quotes on here. 😕 Like in @ancientgran's post at 14.07. It looks very messy. I have been on other websites in the past, and found that really offputting. (That's not a dig at you personally 'ancientgran') 🙂

I really am struggling to take to this new format!

I noticed a 'Messy' look to the site today, almost 'Emailesque'.

Assumed it was something to do with my phone app, only to see it on laptop as well.
{Plus having to actually log in, rather than just stay logged in}

It's not a good look.

lameasahorse · 21/04/2022 18:29

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oakleaffy · 21/04/2022 19:05

@FiddlefigOnTheRoof
Good article.
I remember a programme back in the 1980's where Black and White people applied for the same housing , and so often the Black person would be turned down, with the landlord/lady saying the flat had been taken, and yet when the White person applied, they were told it was available.

But Britain isn't a ''Racist Country''..

Brother's oldest schoolfriend{White} is married to a Black woman, and they have teenaged DC.
They are very aware of racism, but as the Guardian article states, it is a lot more subtle these days, but it is still there.

I had to go to a Police station at a quiet time of day, a few years ago, and while waiting, heard a copper outside on a racist rant.
The copper I was giving a statement to, saw my look of shock, and went out to tell his colleague to be quiet.
He did apologise, but that's not the point.

The rant showed what that policeman thought of Black young men in particular.
also the person he was ranting to must have had similar views, otherwise loud copper would have buttoned his lip.

The Station has been shut down now.

Kendodd · 21/04/2022 20:09

godmum56 · 21/04/2022 14:57

i live rurally although that is gradually changing and yes the churches have fairs and carol festivals but nobody gives a hoot if you go or not. Yes one of the local churches has a female vicar but Vicar of Dibley esque it is not

I live in a small village. The only Muslim family in the village always attend the Christmas stuff at the church and Christmas celebrations in the village. They're not very observant muslims as far as I can see though. They don't eat pork (I know this because they come to our barbecues) but do drink alcohol. Plenty of villagers don't come to the church or Christmas stuff and nobody thinks anything of it, so they just go because it's fun rather than to try to fit in.