To ask: what irrationally annoys you?

[PlasticineMeg]

DD (9) went to a sleepover last weekend (as in 8 days ago) and took her iPad and bike as they went on a bike ride. When I went to pick her up I checked her bag and said “Have you got your charger?”. She didn’t, so I asked her to go and check friends room. Her friend and her family are lovely people but if you remember that TV show “how clean is your house” - that’s what their home is like. Which is fine, I’m not judging, but in that kind of chaos she couldn’t find her phone charger, it wasn’t where she left it. Her friend is one of five and they couldn’t figure out who’d taken it. She also couldn’t find her bike helmet, it wasn’t with her bike. I had to go pick DS up from football so left and the friend’s mum said when she found them she’d bring them over. Which she never did.

I’ve messaged the mum a number of times over the last few days asking if she’s found them, and she hasn’t. It’s now pointless asking, I’ve done all I can and I’m not getting the stuff back.

Yes DD is old enough not to lose stuff, but I’ve had to spend £35 on a replacement charger from the Apple Store (the knock off ones are shit and I refuse to buy them) and £30 on a replacement bike helmet. If a child came over to my house I’d be mortified if they left with expensive items not having been found and wolf do all I could to track the items down. On the day I felt like Carrie from SATC when she loses her shoes in her friends house and her friend couldn’t give fewer shits this other mum acted like I was making a big deal out of nothing.

I’m not asking for advice as like I say literally nothing more can be done, I’ve asked and asked and they haven’t been found. But I’m irrationally angry about this. I once got punched in the face on a night out in a case of mistaken identity and I got over that more quickly than I have this. An exBF also cheated on me and I wasn’t this angry. Its stupid as I’ve had a solution but for some reason I’m a weirdo who’s still seething So help make me feel better and tell me what makes you irrationally angry. Please help me feel normal

Maireas

You got ID requests for alcohol or whatever? It's probably some 19 year old on a minimum wage asking, it's not the wisdom of Solomon.

Oh my Lord, thank you for this. I've got to bust this one out next time my SIL brags.

@BogRollBOGOF if by "the ring in the shower" you mean that irritating little extra bit on the pole that people who simply stand under the coursing water seem to think is the bee's knees...

(a) that is Not Irrational [gavel]
(b) when you take the shower head off to descale it or whatever, take the hose out of the little ring before you put the head back on. I can guarantee that the rest of the household will neither notice nor be arsed to put it back. (My life got so much better once it occurred to me that actually, I Am In Charge Now and I don't have to do things that annoy me just because it was once set up that way.)

Fucking hell! Is that ring on the shower riser pole supposed to have the hose going through it?! I just thought it was for hanging a shower gel from or putting a razor handle through while you're swapping which leg you're shaving!

When people write a post on social media about something and then write confused.com after it. It makes me so annoyed

People who walk behind you when you are reversing in a supermarket car park, rather!

Raah I mean, not rather!

People who chew with their mouth open.

People who diagnose themselves with ocd because they clean and tidy their house

People who say 'for sell' instead of for sale, or try and sell something saying it just needs a good clean (if you're trying to sell it, clean it!)

When you order food,there's always someone"not really hungry"
Who then get forks and try to rob your food

Nope,not on my watch.
I will stab you with said fork😂

my GP driving round in a brand new bright red Porsche when I haven’t been able to get into the surgery to see him in two years.

The cat that my son rescued but now ignores. I don’t even like cats

not being able to park anywhere near my house.

my selfish brother

My job that I hate but I’m too scared to leave

I listen to radio 2 all day everyday day, except for her show. Her laugh is like claws on a blackboard. I want to silence her for ever.

People who put up cryptic emotional posts on social media but don't say what's actually upset them. Either you want people to know your business or you don't, stop drip feeding information in your own little show. Also the inevitable gaggle of followers who reply 'I'm here for you hun' or 'pm'd you hun'. Surely if they've sent them a message they've seen the notification, so why do they need to tell them? Is it just to show everyone else they have a role in this drama while we are all just the audience? I shouldn't let it irritate me really, but it's all so predictable

Official publications containing spelling mistakes. I've jut read breaks when it should have been brakes. FFS.

Mentos gum looking too much like Mentos sweets.
I don't buy either, but it annoys me to see the gum version at supermarket checkouts looking all sweet-like.

People who pout and pose in photos.
Botox and lip fillers
tattoos
Not Being able to find a telephone number for a company. Being cut off mid call when you have waited half an hour listening to Musak .
Overpriced badly cooked food in restaurants, clearly just heated up stuff from CostCo
Rude, lazy waiting staff who haven’t a clue what’s on the menu.
Awful films with ridiculous plots and actors who clearly never went to drama school
People who say ‘Enjoy’.
customer service people who ask you what you’re doing today/ or other nosy questions when they have no interest in the answer.
Strangers who call you by your first name.
Poor grammar
Saying ‘I’m excited FOR’ not about
people staring at their phones when with their children.
People staring at their phones when I’m trying to talk to them
People who never read books.
Cancel culture
Nearly every thing on TV.
The news

People who 'dont mind' but then really do mind. Eg...
Friend: any preferences for where you want to eat?
Me: No not really, how about you?
Friend: Yeah same here really.
Me: Ok, how about the little tapas place on the corner, or the Chinese restaurant in town. I could also do McDonald's
Friend: How about Nandos?

😬😡I cannot even explain the amount of rage this gives me. If you just want a bloody Nandos just say so to save me 15 minutes of looking up places. This happens a fair amount, different friends.

People who allow their dogs to jump up on you and don’t apologise or try to call their dog off.

People who let dogs lick their mouth.

My friend was stroking a puppy we stopped for and it excitedly jumped up and licked all round her face and mouth.

I like dogs and this pup was gorgeous but bleugh, made me feel a bit queasy 😱

"You got this mama"

The people who put their every thought on Facebook eg "why does no one know how to use roundabouts" "so tired this morning" "need a coffee"

Thought of more

• Gender reveals
• Clueless men shopping with their wives, and standing gormlessly (normally on their phones) in everyone's bloody way. Just wait outside or sit down somewhere ffs.🙄
• Couples who write Facebook messages to each other when they are in the same house/room/sofa
• Cryptic Facebook status' ... Jane checked in at London Royal Hospital saying she's really worried. Go to ask Jane if everything's okay and you get a 'PM me hun' or 'fine thanks'
• People indulgently watching their toddler running, let them bump into me without trying to correct them or steer them away, then looking at me like it's my fault 🤔
• Hubby/Hubster
• People who talk quietly, then when you ask them to repeat, do so whilst looking away (DH is prime culprit here)
• People who don't reply to a text for months because their 'bad on their phone/got distracted/started writing a message then forgot' yet are ALWAYS on their phone. D'Friend' does this all the time, but would be most offended if I cut her out or stopped being friends...
• people who say 'it is what it is'
• lack of manners
• smug couples who post 'out with this one' 'living our best lives' 'boy did good'
• When young people complain at how old they're going to be next birthday. Gives me the rage. One woman used to constantly moan about how she was turning 25 next month when sat in an office of 30/40/50 year olds. In the end we all told her to shut up (jokingly). She did turn 25 without shrivelling up like a prune.
• when someone breathes through their nose and whistles
• Penis portions, then watching the man struggling to finish his overspillling plate whilst the women have long finished and are sat waiting (and still hungry)

DH always selects the nicest banana in the fruit bowl rather than the one that is still fine but verging towards overripe. You should always take the ripest banana.

People who post photos claiming it's the natural light that has made the colours pop, when it's clearly been over edited.