To ask: what irrationally annoys you?

[PlasticineMeg]

DD (9) went to a sleepover last weekend (as in 8 days ago) and took her iPad and bike as they went on a bike ride. When I went to pick her up I checked her bag and said “Have you got your charger?”. She didn’t, so I asked her to go and check friends room. Her friend and her family are lovely people but if you remember that TV show “how clean is your house” - that’s what their home is like. Which is fine, I’m not judging, but in that kind of chaos she couldn’t find her phone charger, it wasn’t where she left it. Her friend is one of five and they couldn’t figure out who’d taken it. She also couldn’t find her bike helmet, it wasn’t with her bike. I had to go pick DS up from football so left and the friend’s mum said when she found them she’d bring them over. Which she never did.

I’ve messaged the mum a number of times over the last few days asking if she’s found them, and she hasn’t. It’s now pointless asking, I’ve done all I can and I’m not getting the stuff back.

Yes DD is old enough not to lose stuff, but I’ve had to spend £35 on a replacement charger from the Apple Store (the knock off ones are shit and I refuse to buy them) and £30 on a replacement bike helmet. If a child came over to my house I’d be mortified if they left with expensive items not having been found and wolf do all I could to track the items down. On the day I felt like Carrie from SATC when she loses her shoes in her friends house and her friend couldn’t give fewer shits this other mum acted like I was making a big deal out of nothing.

I’m not asking for advice as like I say literally nothing more can be done, I’ve asked and asked and they haven’t been found. But I’m irrationally angry about this. I once got punched in the face on a night out in a case of mistaken identity and I got over that more quickly than I have this. An exBF also cheated on me and I wasn’t this angry. Its stupid as I’ve had a solution but for some reason I’m a weirdo who’s still seething So help make me feel better and tell me what makes you irrationally angry. Please help me feel normal

@yellowsuninthesky

People in a group who take up the whole pavement and don't move for you coming the other way THIS!

But the thing about people not knowing they have to pay is a bit weird. If you have a bag in one hand and a basket in the other, you can't get your purse out until you've unloaded everything onto the conveyer belt and potentially packed your shopping bag too. I am not a very patient person, but I think this is an unreasonable moan in most cases (obviously not if you only have one thing, and can't get your purse out expeditiously).

On that point, Can I add smug couples who refuse to unhold hands on narrow pavement because they think that singletons deserved to be run over in traffic because they are single and the scourge of society

... because they are single and a scourge to society

Facebook - photos of gin/prosecco/homemade cocktails, cosy lighting, luxurious cushions etc and the person is "feeling soo relaxed". Seems so braggy, " look at my lovely, cosy house/garden & the nice life I lead". We all know what a glass of g&t looks like too, it's a very common drink & it's nothing to brag about! It's very irrational of me, it does me no harm. I can choose not to look & I'm perfectly happy with my house & evening drinks 🤣 For some reason it irks me. Irl most of the culprits (bar one snobby, perfect one) are not braggy & just want to share their contentment with the world

People who have kids (no SEN) but have "absolutely no one they can leave them with." How do adults manage to get to the parenting stage of life without having built up one relationship with someone who lives within, say, an hour of them? I'm completely baffled and irritated by it. Even though it is no skin off my nose whatsoever...

Quite easy. (Grand)parents die, get infirm, or live far away. No other relatives nearby.

Parents may "know" people who are nearer, but not people they trust, or feel that they can rely on, or feel that they can put upon to look after their child(ren). A lot of people don't know their neighbours other than to say hello to, for example.

Slow walkers, slow cyclers, nosy neighbours, really fat smokers in mobility scooters, where the issue is lazyarsitus, people who block the aisle in supermarkets to stand and natter...the list is endless

The Lark Ascending is the perfect 2-minute piece.

I have to add Liz Hurley, seriously what is the point of her? And the way she drags her creepily identical son everywhere, Jesus Liz, let him drink warm cider in peace with his friends! Also fucking Cara Delevingne, she is ubiquitous. She ruddy well pops up everywhere, for once can we have people famous for actually having a skill, not being landed aristocracy or the child or ex of an actual famous person, looking at you Brooklyn and Romeo Beckham!

The phrase "A pop of colour" as used by fashion commentators/experts etc

It is... It drives me into a murderous rage😁

I hate this too. And people who walk really close behind me when I am out in the shops.

Also, I hate the word NARC (as in short for narcissist.) I know it's easier to write, but it just grates on me.

I have a different list for everyone I know.i feel so guilty.
and then those mixed ones for other people and places.
And on some days just everything or the most stupid thing will make me want to scream or cry or both.

When someone calls and you don't pick up so they call back 2 seconds later. I've not answered for a reason, I'll call you back when I'm free FFS.
Performance parenting. I was dropping DS at school and everyone was in the playground waiting to be let in and some absolute dick is having a game of catch with his DD, getting in everyone's way. Fuck off, nobody's impressed.
Lateness, although I don't think it's irrational. You're a grown adult and no I don't find your consistent lateness a cute personality quirk, I find it rude and entitled.
Grown men whizzing round on electric scooters.
My stupid little porch 😂

People who ask for a macchiato.
Beany hats.
Squirrels.
Small dogs that pant.
Any snot on a child's face.

3 year olds with dummies - grim
Under 5s eating McDonald's
Ear piercings on under 10s
Silly children's names that end in 'den
Silly hyphenated girls' first names
All totally irrational and has no bearing on my life whatsoever but it does bug me all the same!

Sitting here listening to music has given me another one: British musicians who consistently sing in an American accent.

@bringincrazyback Actually come to think of it on a similar level people who adopt accents and language completely alien to them. There's no reason why someone of say Boris Johnson's ilk should be using patois.

People who say Pacific instead of specific..... Sorry

Catching my clothing or earphone wire on the door handle as I walk in or out of a room. For some reason it gives me the absolute rage . Actually I have wireless earphones now, so at least that's something!

People wearing scarves and hats in mild weather. Very weird and irrational but bobble hats especially give me the rage.

People who are inarticulate and lumber painfully through the simplest of sentences. Why can't they just stay mute, or learn another 2000 words FFS?

@MrsAvocet

Oh how I agree with you.

Fantasia on a Theme by Thomas Tallis is the most boring dirge ever – and it’s so LONG. Goes on on on……..

People who throw their own baby shower. I always thought the point was your friends organised it to help provide things you need for a new baby. It seems a bit cheeky to plan your own. Gender reveals don't bother me so much, strangely.

Kirsty Allsop

My OH talking during TV shows. ("Oh, no - is he just going to get out of the car? He is! Who would do that? Why doesn't she does tell him to fuck off? I'd tell him to fuck off! Or maybe it's a trick? Oh! What if he's going to surprise her? That'd be a good twist. Oh, wait - who's that in the shadows? Rewind that. Who is it? Is it the brother?")

Kirsty Allsop

My OH leaving the bathroom window open mid-evening ('to air it out'), and then saying in the morning, "The bathroom window was open all night! Didn't you check before you went to bed? You ought to check all the windows before you go to bed! It's not much to ask, surely?")

Kirsty Allsop

People balancing the new bog roll on top of the old empty one. Take the old one off and put the new one on! Jesus, you are literally sitting there with nothing else to do.

Kirsty Allsop

OH not closing and locking the toilet door, and then screaming at you when you try to go in there. "I'm in here! Why don't you ask or something? Jesus - a little privacy!"

Oh, Stevie Nicks.

My OH not allowing anyone in the house to use the bathroom for about ten hours before people come over.

Most of these, you'll notice, concern the bathroom. In subsequent posts I shall cover every other room of the house in turn. This could prove to be a very therapeutic thread for me.

When people treat men and women differently when they are ill/post surgery. DH was instructed to stay in bed for 48 hours after his vasectomy. 36 hours after my c-section I was expected to walk from postnatal ward to nicu on the other side of maternity, deliver at least 4oz of pumped milk and then back to postnatal to pump, sterilize etc. Every 4 hours round the clock. Although sometimes the student midwife would take pity on me and take the 2:30am milk to nicu for me. It's been nearly 9 years but I still vividly remember crying in the milk kitchen waiting for the sterilizer to finish and wishing I could go back to bed.