To ask: what irrationally annoys you?

[PlasticineMeg]

DD (9) went to a sleepover last weekend (as in 8 days ago) and took her iPad and bike as they went on a bike ride. When I went to pick her up I checked her bag and said “Have you got your charger?”. She didn’t, so I asked her to go and check friends room. Her friend and her family are lovely people but if you remember that TV show “how clean is your house” - that’s what their home is like. Which is fine, I’m not judging, but in that kind of chaos she couldn’t find her phone charger, it wasn’t where she left it. Her friend is one of five and they couldn’t figure out who’d taken it. She also couldn’t find her bike helmet, it wasn’t with her bike. I had to go pick DS up from football so left and the friend’s mum said when she found them she’d bring them over. Which she never did.

I’ve messaged the mum a number of times over the last few days asking if she’s found them, and she hasn’t. It’s now pointless asking, I’ve done all I can and I’m not getting the stuff back.

Yes DD is old enough not to lose stuff, but I’ve had to spend £35 on a replacement charger from the Apple Store (the knock off ones are shit and I refuse to buy them) and £30 on a replacement bike helmet. If a child came over to my house I’d be mortified if they left with expensive items not having been found and wolf do all I could to track the items down. On the day I felt like Carrie from SATC when she loses her shoes in her friends house and her friend couldn’t give fewer shits this other mum acted like I was making a big deal out of nothing.

I’m not asking for advice as like I say literally nothing more can be done, I’ve asked and asked and they haven’t been found. But I’m irrationally angry about this. I once got punched in the face on a night out in a case of mistaken identity and I got over that more quickly than I have this. An exBF also cheated on me and I wasn’t this angry. Its stupid as I’ve had a solution but for some reason I’m a weirdo who’s still seething So help make me feel better and tell me what makes you irrationally angry. Please help me feel normal

@elliejjtiny My goodness, that sounds terrible! reminds of someone who said along a similar line that if men had periods and essentially spent a whole week bleeding out of their penises with pain so excruciating there'd have been a solution by now that involves more than a paracetamol and a bit of 'you can manage' spirit.

That's a real low life move..or non move.
I end up leaning over, grabbing it and throwing it down.
Manners prevent me from snarling

Sorry this is meant to follow on from the shopping divider post

People who step off an escalator and just stand there looking round,so we all end up in heap behind them
People who park their supermarket trolleys alongside some shelf while choosing something from another shelf. I have no hesitation in ranking it out of the way.

Elaine Page , Joanne Page, Nsga Munchetty

I'm not keen on Elaine Paige either but I dislike Steve Wright more. It's her laugh , it's so false.
I'd be annoyed about the charger and the bike helmet too ! It's all extra money and I bet you , op, they might find them both and decide to keep them. I would like to think they wouldn't , but it's people isn't it?
I have a lot of hates, the latest one being road works and not being able to get parked in my town anymore because they keep building new places but not the infrastructure to accommodate all these extra people or build another car park or whatever! It's only going to get worse too

Neighbours who don't think planning permission applies to them so when other neighbours contact the Council, they come around bashing your door in and shouting abuse.

One law for them, one law for the rest of us.

Every. Fucking. Thing.

Bloody menopause.

When someone calls and you don't pick up so they call back 2 seconds later. I've not answered for a reason, I'll call you back when I'm free FFS

Oh yes, this. I press decline so they call back! No, I pressed decline because I am busy/driving/just don't want to talk to you. One time I was on holiday and it was Virgin Media. They must have called me about 10 times one afternoon. In the end I picked up and snarled "I am on holiday, go away" and they didn't ring again (until about two weeks later).

I will be making dinner, will stir whatever is in the saucepan, turn my back for a nanosecond and my DH is stirring what I've just stirred!!!
Drives me insane.

That and Joanna Lumley!

People who stare at their phones during a conversation. Even worse if they laugh raucously at something they've seen online while you're trying to have a conversation with them.
At first I thought it was just me, but the people who do this, do it to everyone they come across.

Which brings me to another thing that really annoys me.

People who hint about something I dont want to know about, so laughing dramatically at something they've seen on their phone, obviously wanting me to ask what's so funny, and when I do, it comes under very mild humour, like a picture of a smiling dog or something.
Or asking me to guess something.
'Guess who I saw today' is fine, but when I reply 'I dont know, who did you see?'
'Just guess, you'll never guess!'
'I give up, who did you see?'
'No, you have to guess!'

At this point, I've usually lost interest.

Same goes for guessing ages, how much your shopping came to, what someone said to you, what you ate last night.

I dont do guessing games! 😡

People that come put of shops, then stop dead- to chat, put bags away. Just move out of the way! Go a little to the side - not like anyone else wants to go in or out! And pavement hoggers walking right in the middle. Pick a side! And cyclists on the pavement / path (not cycle lane) behind you that expect you to be psychic and move. Buy a bell or use your voice to make a request. Or just wait! Or get off the pavement...ggrrr rant over.

I hate the 'guessing game' friends too
It seems a thing now to just say part of a story and hope the other person cottons on to the rest of it ( by mind reading I suppose !)
It is bizarre and means I'm permanently confused too , which isn't hard at my age!

Using 'mom' instead of 'mum' - fucks me right off.

I hate ' mom' too !
It's mum or mother. We are not American..

Most of these complaints are far from irrational.

This can be regional. It's always been Mom in some parts of West midlands due to dialect/accent.

BlackeyedSusan my period is due any minute and I'm sure I'm perimenopausal so I'm in the same boat as you - EVERYTHING is annoying me this week! Especially my inability to sleep past 4am or solidly until 4am! I gave up this morning and walked to the gym at 4.30 then got cross as the birds weren't singing and they normally are.

I will add the ignorance around the term “mom”.

Americans got many of their terms from Britain. 🙄

Oh yes, that reminds me of another thing that irritates me. Ignorant people unnecessarily picking on regional language use, or sneering about 'Americanisms' (sometimes incorrectly).

People smoking just outside the doors of shops.
People who ring you,and you ring back straight away.
And they take ages to answer.
You couldn't have got that far away from the phone that quick.

Always someone in the loo when I want to go.

I annoy myself quite often. It’s hard to explain. Today I’m particularly annoyed with myself for putting my foot in it.

Bluetooth.

Can never get the fucking thing to connect.

Oh no, that one's entirely rational. I share it. Especially when my earbuds keep insisting on connecting to every device except the one I want to connect to.😄

I just thought of another one: people propping up the bar. As in, being too lazy to actually go and sit down, thereby depriving others trying to order drinks of sufficient space in which to actually do so. Many persistent offenders in my local.

People who can't wait for you to finish unloading your shopping out of the trolley onto the belt before plonking theirs down and inevitably not leaving you enough room then they tut when you ask them to move their stuff back. I make sure this doesn't happen now by unloading from in front of the trolley so the length of the trolley is blocking the belt.

People who park forward instead of reversing into a space.

Just makes me think that cunt cant park and shouldnt be driving