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To be annoyed that an Insta-mum told DS3 to get out of her photo?

146 replies

Quirk1 · 18/04/2022 14:33

We're on an Easter trail. I get that, for lots of people, it's all about the photos. But seriously, there were A LOT of plastic tat photo oops available. DS3 is busy enjoying "trying to read" a sign, when Insta-mum comes up, kids in tutus, bends down to DS and tells him to get out of shot. Didn't even look around for a parent or whatever! I dutifully removed him, don't worry. Is she a CF, or is it just me not getting with the times??

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Figgygal · 18/04/2022 18:15

What a vapid berk
Id have told her to pee right off

Insidelaurashead · 18/04/2022 18:20

The poster saying they purposefully ruin as many of other people's photos as they can is nasty and I hope someone ruins your enjoyment of whatever it is you like as often as possible too. It does you no harm when the majority of people take a photo of something, or a selfie, so just let them and stop being a dick.

I write a travel blog and I love photography. If I line up a shot and someone walks into it, I patiently and silently wait until there's no one in it, if that's the shot I'm going for. When my friend and I take photos of each other and someone apologises for getting into the shot, we say no, absolutely no problem, we don't expect anyone to wait for us or move for us, please go about your day!

CambsAlways · 18/04/2022 18:33

No way on this earth would I have moved him! Who in gods name does she think she is CF

Vladi10 · 18/04/2022 18:35

I voted YABU but that was for moving. She was rude and entitled. I hate it when it’s all for show, spend time with your kids and enjoy it (her, not you)

Alightjacket · 18/04/2022 18:43

Ooooh give us more clues!

MMMarmite · 18/04/2022 18:55

[quote viques]**@MMMMarmite* I was at the Uffizi in Florence, trying to see The Birth Of Venus, but an idiot was standing in front on it videoing* the damn thing, for at least five minutes, ok possibly three, I don’t know if he thought she was going to step out of the picture and give him a kiss, or sail away in her cockleshell or something. I doubt he has ever watched it back, I wanted to suggest he went and bought a postcard for the same effect .[/quote]
Maddening! I'd have enjoyed seeing their reaction if you'd made the postcard suggestion.

RedWreck · 18/04/2022 19:08

I was rudely asked to move on holiday once so someone could get their perfect bikini shot. I pretended not to understand English (or any other language they tried!) & moved when I was ready.
YANBU, she sounds an entitled twat.

RantyAunty · 18/04/2022 19:11

You're being a bit precious. Your child is 3. They've forgotten about it 5 seconds later.

Nothing I love more than trying to quickly snap a photo of some birds and a bunch of kids come up screaming scaring them all away, climbing on the fences, throwing things at the animals.

Or wander into your shot twirling around, jumping around and I wait patiently and wait and wait and finally the parents tells them to hurry up.

Some of us like photography and aren't insta anything.
May be trying to capture a certain texture, colour, shadow to draw or paint from later.

Don't even get me started on trying to paint en plein air.

PinkSyCo · 18/04/2022 19:24

I voted YABU because you were for making the rude bitch even more entitled by moving your DS for her. Why did you do that? She is not more important than your child? Confused

JudgeJ · 18/04/2022 19:58

@RedWreck

I was rudely asked to move on holiday once so someone could get their perfect bikini shot. I pretended not to understand English (or any other language they tried!) & moved when I was ready. YANBU, she sounds an entitled twat.
Que?
BoredZelda · 18/04/2022 21:30

Why do people assume anyone taking a photo of their kids is doing it for social media?

RussianSpy101 · 18/04/2022 21:33

@BoredZelda infuriating isn’t it! My middle son has a degenerative disease and I take loads of photos everywhere we go. He has a younger brother who may not remember him one day and these photos will be all he has.

BoredZelda · 18/04/2022 21:37

@RussianSpy101

It's maddening. My mum
has boxes full of photos of us as kids, mainly staged in some way. It's lovely to look at them. People were taking stages photos of kids long before insta!

I think someone is just trying to be one of those people who brags about never being on social media.

RussianSpy101 · 18/04/2022 22:02

@BoredZelda my mum has the same! Me and my sister in matching outfits stood in front of things. It was early 90s so not for SM. Just a normal mum taking normal photos of her normal kids 🙄

BoredZelda · 18/04/2022 22:20

@RussianSpy101

Early 80s for me. I'm guessing our matching outfits were way more hideous!

KittenKong · 19/04/2022 08:38

Yes! I’m quoted in t’press!🤣

5foot5 · 19/04/2022 09:16

[quote viques]**@MMMMarmite* I was at the Uffizi in Florence, trying to see The Birth Of Venus, but an idiot was standing in front on it videoing* the damn thing, for at least five minutes, ok possibly three, I don’t know if he thought she was going to step out of the picture and give him a kiss, or sail away in her cockleshell or something. I doubt he has ever watched it back, I wanted to suggest he went and bought a postcard for the same effect .[/quote]
@viques
Yes I have seen exactly that, same picture! Fortunately the day we were there the attendants were being quite vigilant at stepping in and preventing people doing things like that. I couldn't get over the number of people wanting to take selfies of themselves in front of famous works of art. Just why?

5foot5 · 19/04/2022 10:00

@BoredZelda @RussianSpy101

If I could butt in to the conversation?

Of course it's nice to have lots of photos to look back on. Our DD is old enough that all the photos of her very young are actual physical photos as we didn't get a digital camera until she was about 7. I love looking back through the old albums. And we still take lots of photos when we go places now - even more since smart phones with decent cameras became a thing.

But surely it is obvious that this perfectly normal behaviour is not what people are being scornful of here. It is:
a) the rude people who expect everyone to move out of the way for them and
b) the "fake" or "staged" shot where people are not just recording happy moments with their kids but are living their life entirely through their camera instead of living it

Thewolvesarerunningagain · 19/04/2022 10:22

These photo trails are new to me. I booked one unwittingly after lockdown and we were pretty baffled that the ‘adventure woodland trail’ was literally a whole bunch of artfully arranged props that you could photograph your children in /on /near. For the same price we’d usually go somewhere with activities/rides/experiences on offer so we wandered about a bit flummoxed and then left. I feel old!

10HailMarys · 19/04/2022 11:12

Absolutely YANBU. If the other mum was taking photos in public places, she should expect there to be other people around enjoying themselves. It's not a photoshoot.

Original poster
Quirk1 · 19/04/2022 14:18

@5foot5 thank you - my thoughts exactly.

@LaTangerina that's hilarious, thanks for linking!!!

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Angelil · 19/04/2022 17:35

She’s a CF who should’ve waited. HOWEVER I also actually appreciate having a chance to get my kid out of the shot of others’ photos, so that next thing I know my kid is not in the background of some randomer’s photo all over IG for all to see.

DdraigGoch · 19/04/2022 17:41

@BoredZelda

Why do people assume anyone taking a photo of their kids is doing it for social media?
It's usually pretty obvious when someone is taking photos for the primary benefit of social media rather than mere family snaps for the grandparents to enjoy.
cherish123 · 19/04/2022 18:16

Very rude of her. I would not have moved my son.