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Driveway annoyance

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Newjourney2894 · 18/04/2022 09:16

Hi all, just wanted some advice on whether I was being unreasonable or not about my new home which I have waited several months to move into! 😅

My DH and I have just bought a gorgeous semi detached on a lovely quiet street which has long drive way and 2 x grass patches between each houses. Our house was vacant for about a year until we moved in and as a favour to the previous owners next door would park on the drive now and again.

The previous owners cut one of the patches of grass away to widen the drive so you can fit 2 cars next to each other but still left 1 patch of grass between the attaching houses attached.

Now it is the house not attached that would occasionally park on the drive until we moved in that I have the slight issue with. They use the middle part of the drive which is the original part of the drive to reverse their cars off the drive so they don’t have to ask the other one to come out and move the car.

They’ve kept their patches of the grass intact which is up to them but that doesn’t mean they should keep using my drive to reverse out. AIBU to start parking one of my cars further back so they can’t get out or go and speak to them? Or let it go which is what DH thinks 😂

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Ikeptgoing · 18/04/2022 09:26

Can't picture what you mean OP. You need a diagram...

liquidrevolution · 18/04/2022 09:28

Diagram needed. Its actually against the rules to not post one. Even crap ones appreciated. Grin

TheHoleNineYards · 18/04/2022 09:31

Are you new to MN too? If not, you know the rules: DIAGRAM Grin

sunshinesupermum · 18/04/2022 09:36

Can't understand without a diagram please!

DivaRainbow · 18/04/2022 09:36

Can't comment until we have a diagram Smile

Hoppinggreen · 18/04/2022 09:38

I’m usually not too fanatical about the diagram rule on MN but I genuinely can’t picture what you are talking about

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Newjourney2894 · 18/04/2022 09:38

Apologises I am not new to mumsnet but I’ve never wrote a drive way one before. Please see attached an image, apologises I did the best I could 😅

So drive 1 & 2 belong to me in house 1 and house 2 is the one that has all the grass intact and theirs is drive 3. House 2 who own drive 3 are constantly reversing their car sideways across my drive 1 to get off rather than asking the other person in the house to pull the car out so they can get the front car out 😒

They’ve got all their grass intact and if they don’t like the space then they can pull up some of their grass and widen their own drive.

Driveway annoyance
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Noshowlomo · 18/04/2022 09:39

I came for the diagram

Noshowlomo · 18/04/2022 09:39

Cross post… thank you!!

SuperAsymmetry · 18/04/2022 09:44

Start parking on your drive 1, this would annoy me too.
You'll probably get people coming here to tell you YABU though

C25kBecky · 18/04/2022 09:45

You are the middle house?

I'd get fences or something up ASAP.

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Newjourney2894 · 18/04/2022 09:46

We do park on drive 1 but right next to each. There is enough room to fit 6 cars down each side but we just don’t want the car using ours all the time.

We’ve waited months to move into our dream home and next door have gotten comfortable whilst it was vacant and are using it as a shared drive 😣

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Newjourney2894 · 18/04/2022 09:47

@C25kBecky yes on the diagram we are house 1 with the extra wide drive. I drew house which is on the other side of our drive to show it is not the attached house that is being annoying with parking but the house on the other side

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DaffodilGreen · 18/04/2022 09:47

I’d be installing one of those nice little low fences between drives 1 and 3 OP. I’d let them know you were doing it and paying for it and ensure it was on your land.

CarmenThePanda · 18/04/2022 09:49

How many cars do you have? I would park on your drive 1 because I prefer cars not to be in front of my window. And if I only had one car I would grass over your second drive, because it is better for the environment.

Rosebuud · 18/04/2022 09:49

Do you wish to reinstall the grass? If so just tell them. If they just use it to quickly reverse I personally would not have a problem but plenty would.

sunshinesupermum · 18/04/2022 09:49

Talk to them first and remind them it isn't a shared drive but perhaps you need a low fence or hedge barrier? Seems odd though that your grassed area is right outside their house.

billy1966 · 18/04/2022 09:51

Absolutely stop this.

They are CF's and know exactly what they are doing.
They are making mugs out of you.

You have moved in.
Rectify this asap.
Tell them and put a divider up, but do not allow this to continue.

Dasher789 · 18/04/2022 09:52

Definitely a fence, it would annoy me too

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Newjourney2894 · 18/04/2022 09:53

The diagram isn’t great but house 3 isn’t te problem. I’ve drawn theirs to show that theirs has a slightly different lay out but they aren’t the problem. Drive 3 have got rid of 1 and a half of their grass areas so they’ve got 2 full length drives same as ours and then they’ve con created half of their grass area.

My last grass area is in front of my window in front of my house which I’ve labelled house 1. House 2 is the one who is driving their car from drive 3 over our drive 1 to get off so they don’t need to swap the cars around or park on the road.

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vivainsomnia · 18/04/2022 09:53

So their reversing, which last about 10 seconds doesn't impact on you in anyway.

You're just annoyed because you pay for something and they didn't. I'd let it go. There might be a time you need a favour from them. That will be the time to remind them of the reversing issue.

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Newjourney2894 · 18/04/2022 09:55

I was thinking as a solution park the family car which needs more room to allow the children to get out of the back further back down the drive so it blocks of their reversing space or is it that passive aggressive?

The last house we sold we had a good relationship with the neighbour until we both sold or houses and then she turned on us so it may be affecting my view on the matter but this is my dream home and I don’t want to be walked all over Hmm

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ChickenGotLegs · 18/04/2022 09:56

Just go and speak to them, no point getting off on the wrong foot by moving cars etc. If they become difficult then go on to plan B...6ft brick wall 😄

Mumdiva99 · 18/04/2022 09:56

It wouldn't bother me. I'm guessing you have one car up next to the house. One on the extra drive. So they use the end of your drive just to get on and off occasionally. The alternative might be that they start parking on the road in front of your house so they can easily get two cars I'm and out.....

If its a major issue jist leave your car on the drive right in the middle close to your front door.....then they can't do it.

DDivaStar · 18/04/2022 09:57

I can seevwhy this is annoying. I can also see why neighbour wouldn't faff around moving cars when they can just drive around it.

You could speak to them or put up a fence but that will ve making a statement that your not flexible and thet may take a similar stance eith you in the future.

Can't you make it difficult for them to use your drive if you park near to the road on drive 1 to block their exit ?

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