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AIBU for thinking boob job isn't worth it?

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JonSnowsThrone · 18/04/2022 00:51

Name change for this one.
My poor tits have been ravaged by three children and weight loss ( very lucky to have had the kids and the weight loss was a happy one). They are much smaller and much more uneven than they once were. I would love to have a boob job to restore my once full bosom.

However research (and one friend) has taught me that if I was to go through with this then I would need the implants would need to be replaced every 10-20 years with a possible uplift (which leaves a huge amount of scarring). If the implants are removed you without replacing you tend to be left with breasts worse than you began with,

I have seen one surgeon who recommended an uplift and implant. When I asked about replacement surgery in 10 + years he acted shifty but sort of agreed it was inevitable?!

So if I have a boob job now, I need to be committed to having 10K put aside at any one time to have the implants replaced every ten years otherwise they may leak and cause other problems. Is this right?

So many women have boob jobs that I am shocked to learn the commitment to spending possibly 50k over the course of a life time on tits!

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whumpthereitis · 18/04/2022 15:43

@Fr0thandBubble

I think it's really sad that women mutilate themselves for men's titillation. Breasts are for feeding children, not to look nice for men.

God forbid a woman does something for herself that a man may find attractive.

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I’ve had mine done just over a decade now. No problems and I haven’t needed to think about replacing them so far. The scars were never on show and tbh they’ve faded so well you’d have to really look now.

I consider it money well spent and I have no regrets. I’ve never felt the need to live with something I dislike when its within my power to change it. It’s very individual though.

lameasahorse · 18/04/2022 15:44

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LuaDipa · 18/04/2022 15:47

@BillyAndTheSillies

I had an auto augmented breast lift a month ago. Lots of people don't know they exist and many surgeons don't offer it but if you can find one that does it could be worth looking in to.

They are now perky, full and my nipples point in the right direction. My own breast tissue was used like an implant and I am really pleased with the outcome. I didn't want implants due to maintenance and breast implant illness.

I’ve never heard of this but would definitely consider it. I’ve never liked the idea of implants as they are quite obvious but I could definitely use an uplift!

Minniemouse85 · 18/04/2022 15:47

I’ve had mine in for 14 years and never had an issue.
I think you are at an advantage as you have had your children. I had mine done before kids and they do change and they are now bigger than I’d like but I’m nearly 2stone heavier than when I first had them in. They do look fine though and I’m not looking to have them removed or replaced.

lameasahorse · 18/04/2022 15:50

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1forAll74 · 18/04/2022 15:50

Its a big money spinner for cosmetic surgeons, and they will always be in demand, as so many women wan't to alter their bodies.. i would not wan't an unnatural object put into my body for beautifying purposes., it's not like a new heart,or a liver, that keeps you alive.

NeedleNoodle3 · 18/04/2022 15:50

I know two women that have had them and you would never know, they look nice natural in proportion boobs. Neither have had to have a second surgery.

lameasahorse · 18/04/2022 15:52

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Indoorcatmum · 18/04/2022 15:53

Getting mine done was the best decision I have ever made and even though I dislike the fact that I am overweight, I look in the mirror and have a part of my body that I LOVE!

Kittykat93 · 18/04/2022 15:56

I've noticed on mumsnet threads about botox are usually well tolerated and recommended, whereas things like lip fillers and boob jobs everyone seems to be against. No one here can tell you whether it's worth it as for some people it is worth it and for others it isn't. Just like any other cosmetic procedure. Do your research and take a lot of time to really weigh up the benefits and risks.

lameasahorse · 18/04/2022 15:57

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fallfallfall · 18/04/2022 16:02

My 90 yr old mom has had her implants in 50 years never replaced.

ChinstrapBobblehat · 18/04/2022 16:10

It’s also the case that your boobs may change again when you reach menopause - mine were flat as pancakes after breastfeeding (had my youngest at 40) but they’re now bigger and perkier than they’ve been in years and I love them again!

I contemplated having mine done as I missed them so much (as did DH, though he never would have said so), but I’m so glad now I didn’t bother.

Great that so many people have had good experiences, but the whole replacement thing, potential detriment to health, and having to physically go through what is effectively painful major surgery (plus recovery time) just sounded like absolute arse ache to me. Got some good bras and styled it out.

WonderfulYou · 18/04/2022 16:11

I know a few people with them and honestly all of them look awful when you see them. But they don’t look as bad covered up in a T-shirt.
So it depends on your reasons for wanting them done.

It is very well known that they will need to be replaced eventually and it’s simply pot luck how often that it.

Remember it’s also an operation and you will not be able to exercise for a while afterwards so if intense exercise is part of your lifestyle that might also put you off.

I think if it’s something you really want then go for it.
But I’d look at other options too - like having the skin tightened or having non evasive surgery etc.

Glamora · 18/04/2022 16:11

he acted shifty really?

passport123 · 18/04/2022 16:12

Of course they're not worth it. Only those who are immensely shallow and probably lacking in self confidence would go through surgery for no medical reason.

HaggisBurger · 18/04/2022 16:12

I’d love to get one but my big fear (apart from the cost) is that I’d lose sensitivity in my nipples.

marmiteandminticecream · 18/04/2022 16:15

is there anything you can buy that helps nipple sensation

99victoria · 18/04/2022 16:22

@passport123

Of course they're not worth it. Only those who are immensely shallow and probably lacking in self confidence would go through surgery for no medical reason.

You sound like a nice tolerant person :) :)

fallfallfall · 18/04/2022 16:29

@passport123, I had good medical reason. It’s certainly been a physical health benefit.
Again I had a mastopexy no implants.
It’s allowed me to exercise with more comfort.

PussInBin20 · 18/04/2022 16:29

I would love implants as I’ve always been small (even worse after breastfeeding), however I just can’t justify in my head the risk to my health would be worth it.

What if you had constant problems/illness. I would just be distraught that I had caused it for the sake of vanity.

Look what happened to Leslie Ash - I know it wasn’t breasts but other cosmetic procedures and it’s basically ruined her life.

Think very carefully. I am staying small.

Crimblecrumble1990 · 18/04/2022 16:33

I can’t stand threads about boob jobs on here. In real life, everyone I know couldn’t care less about anyones boobs, let alone feel the need to scoff about their ‘shallow-ness’ and need to please men.

I guess I’m biased because I had mine done over 10 years ago and think they’re fab. My surgeon told me there was no reason for me ever to have surgery again but that I might find in 20 years time that my body had changed significantly - children/weight loss or gain etc so potentially I might consider surgery again in the future to keep them looking their best. I got very modest implants beneath the muscle that you would not know were fake so maybe that helps.

If you are umming and ahhing about having a boob job, I would probably say don’t bother. Because if you know you want one then I don’t think your mind can be changed. The same way I didn’t get mine done for anyone else’s interest/pleasure, is the same way I couldn’t give a crap about anyone else’s opinions on them. I would ask for a referral to a plastic surgeon from a GP and have a consultation with a specialist. Good luck OP.

HaggisBurger · 18/04/2022 16:34

@Kittykat93

In fairness (as someone who uses Botox and isn’t against a boob job or facelift) there is a VAST difference between having a well tolerated toxin injected into your face which takes all of 15 mins and having a full on unnecessary surgical procedure & general anaesthetic with all the risks that entails (ie minimal if done in UK with reputable surgeon). That’s really not comparing like with like.

Obviously in both cases, it’s no one’s business but the person themselves but this is the internet …

WonderfulYou · 18/04/2022 16:39

I have big boobs and when I’m older I probably will have them reduced.

But even though it doesn’t have the same risk as an enlargement, it is still an operation and still costs money.

My reasons are partly down to comfort and to make it easier to exercise but mostly it’s down to my own insecurities thinking they look awful like balloons.

But my insecurities comes from the voice inside my head.
If I had it done would that voice then make me insecure about another part of my body instead.

I think people need to work on their self confidence before getting any type of surgery else you’d go on forever.

whumpthereitis · 18/04/2022 16:39

@lameasahorse

This thread shows so many women still believe myths about breast surgery, including implants. Have them if you want, but don't believe what the surgeon tells you who wants your money, research it properly. There are risks and benefits with every type of breast surgery. And with implants, unless you expect to live less than another 20 years, you will need more surgery. I am always a bit shocked that women pay a lot of money for surgery like this without understanding the implications. If you do you may decide both the risks and future surgery are worth it, but go into it with your eyes wide open.

I don’t think any of this is unknown to the vast majority of women that have implants or any other type of surgery. I haven’t encountered any personally, but I’m sure there are probably some.

Saying that implants haven’t needed changing yet isn’t the same as saying they won’t need to be changed at all. My own surgeon was quite open with the risks involved with the surgery (there was nothing additional my own reading on the subject was able to enlighten me on, anyway), and I was always aware they would need switching out. I didn’t and don’t have a problem with that.

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