Why do people make these types of comment? Is it purely to show off?

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I have a friend who will say things like:

'We just bought a new tv - guess how much it cost?' Then will go on to tell me a really expensive amount and wait for my reaction.

'We just renewed our life insurance so if anything happen to partner I will get £1 million' awaits my reaction.

'I made this amount this week' awaits my reaction.

'Guess how much is in my everyday account? Guess how much is in my savings' no idea, she tells me, awaits response.

'Do you like my bag/hair/jacket etc.?' As soon as I enter the door.

If I speak about doing anything, she has to do it too. For instance, I say I'm taking daughter to the cinema, well her son is going with his gran. I'm getting my nails done, so is she. I've gutted the house out, well she's been productive too.

It's actually getting really annoying to the point I am avoiding her more and more.

Would you find these comments odd/annoying/boastful or AIBU?

It's annoying and she's an elevenerifer

If you can bear her otherwise, just nod and smile and change the subject.

Is this one of those situations where you're allowing her to ignore your feelings whilst you are careful of hers by not telling her to shut the fuck up?

Very annoying. Reminds me of Laura from Him & Her.

In my world, she is desperate for attention and thinks this is the way to get it.
I had one person who, in an inverted slur, in company, asked if I still drove a fiat panda.
My response was yes, when I'm not driving the Porche. ( We had both at the time - one for work (obviously) and one for fun.)
Life's too short to bother with people like this and, as you can see from my example, we are changed to the worse by such things.

Just start answering her "guess how much" questions with really exaggerated guesses.

How much do you think my new trainers were?

£5000?

She’s insecure and thinks by bragging and making you jealous, she will feel better than you, and therefore about herself.
Ignore and phase her out. She won’t change.

You do realises you can actually choose your friends?

Quite why you'd choose one like that is beyond me.

@Tyrozet

Just start answering her "guess how much" questions with really exaggerated guesses.

How much do you think my new trainers were?

£5000?

Or the opposite:

'How much do you think my new handbag was?'
inspecting closely
'A fiver?'

Similar to pp,I'd make up a ridiculously high price and if she says something lower,I'd say "oh is that all"!! But honestly,I'd drop them. Can't be doing with that.

Reminds me of Catherine Tate.

I had a friend like this once, had being the operative word.

She asked me some "guess how much question one day" and I replied "Guess how much I care?" And she never spoke to me again 😂 problem solved ...

I just don’t have this kind of person in my circle of friends. My non verbal reaction would have (thankfully) put them off I reckon.

@TheSillyMastiff

I had a friend like this once, had being the operative word.

She asked me some "guess how much question one day" and I replied "Guess how much I care?" And she never spoke to me again 😂 problem solved ...

Genius. I’m borrowing that if you don’t mind.

Reminds me of Pauline off Mum

Ah, we call someone like that a two shitter. As in, you go for a shit, they have two. Yanbu op, it's annoying.

I suspect I'd end up saying something like,
"Oh well done, you must feel really pleased about that."

And intend to say it in a genuine voice, but it would actually come out really sarcastic....

I end up sounding really sarcastic at the best of times, so this would definitely test my acting abilities beyond their limits

I’ve never met a person like that in real life, and if I did I’d avoid them like the plague.

Always tempting to react as if you think whatever sum involved is a pittance.

New TV: 'Wow! That sounds like a bargain - was it in Argos clearance?'

See, I wouldn't guess a high price (that will make her think whatever she's showing you looks valuable) I'd low ball it. How much for the tv - $300? You paid what? Oh my, um do you think you might have been ripped off?

Clothes, handbag etc - it's not my taste, but as long as you like it, that's all that matters.

For account balances, I'd high ball those. $50k? No? Oh, so just a normal amount then?

@k1233

See, I wouldn't guess a high price (that will make her think whatever she's showing you looks valuable) I'd low ball it. How much for the tv - $300? You paid what? Oh my, um do you think you might have been ripped off?

Clothes, handbag etc - it's not my taste, but as long as you like it, that's all that matters.

For account balances, I'd high ball those. $50k? No? Oh, so just a normal amount then?

Hahah I like this idea

'We just renewed our life insurance so if anything happen to partner I will get £1 million' awaits my reaction

My reaction would have 100% been to ask her if she wanted the number for a hitman.

Some suggestions

'We just bought a new tv - guess how much it cost?' go really high.

'We just renewed our life insurance so if anything happen to partner I will get £1 million' ‘sounds like motive…’.

'I made this amount this week' gosh. Will you manage?

'Guess how much is in my everyday account? Guess how much is in my savings' oh dear. All is not lost! Do you want the number for my investments guy?

'Do you like my bag/hair/jacket etc.?' i can see why you dont, but just give yourself time to get used to it.

You need to be more selective about who your friends are.

I have relatives like this. One told me their new salary and I wasn’t sure whether I was supposed to be impressed or commiserate with them as it wasn’t a very high amount. Turns out I was supposed to be impressed and probably offended them.

I know a woman who does this, would also comment on anything new someone else acquired asking how THEY could afford it! I took delivery of my brand new car at beginning of the year to which she said it wasn't right I had a car newer than hers. She hasn't spoken to me since thankfully.