Why do people make these types of comment? Is it purely to show off?

[dissertationhell]

I have a friend who will say things like:

'We just bought a new tv - guess how much it cost?' Then will go on to tell me a really expensive amount and wait for my reaction.

'We just renewed our life insurance so if anything happen to partner I will get £1 million' awaits my reaction.

'I made this amount this week' awaits my reaction.

'Guess how much is in my everyday account? Guess how much is in my savings' no idea, she tells me, awaits response.

'Do you like my bag/hair/jacket etc.?' As soon as I enter the door.

If I speak about doing anything, she has to do it too. For instance, I say I'm taking daughter to the cinema, well her son is going with his gran. I'm getting my nails done, so is she. I've gutted the house out, well she's been productive too.

It's actually getting really annoying to the point I am avoiding her more and more.

Would you find these comments odd/annoying/boastful or AIBU?

I have ditched ‘friends’ for this behaviour !

However I do have one in my friend group —-
It is soooo annoying !!!

Tells me how much in her bank account
How much in savings accounts
So many times !!!

Always on about saving money / not wasting money

When I was off to Tesco, she was going to Sainsburys - brag grin …

Ugh 😩

Agree @dissertationhell It IS annoying, but just ignore them. People who feel the need to brag about things are insecure, and have very low self esteem.

They often ask/try to find out how much YOU have spent on things too, and are often curious about how much you earn, and how you can afford certain stuff/if it's on credit or if you paid for it outright etc..

I never tell anyone anything, because I enjoy keeping them wondering, PLUS it's got fuck-all to do with them.

Is she newly affluent? Sometimes when people's circumstances change for the better, they are just so excited and happy they can't help themselves from telling other people. It often wears off once they become accustomed to their new situation.

She sound v insecure

I'm totally like this but I love a bargain so try to get people to guess how cheap things were 🤣

When my partner and I moved his sister and her husband showed up with details of a house costing about £100,000 more and proceeded to tell us that it was what they could afford if they decided to move! One upmanship at the next level! She always makes sure we know what things have cost. You have the option to go NC with your annoying friend but we are stuck with his sister and her ghastly husband, although we are very low contact now.

I had a friend like this. We met at a baby group and she constantly talked about how much her house was worth/how much her husband earned. My sister was starting a medical degree and when I told her she looked scornful and said “there’s not much money in THAT,” as if that could be the only motivation someone could have for going into medicine. Ridiculous woman.

I've got a friend who is a complete elevenerifer. Best one ever..... we were sitting in a mutual friend's garden and two pigeons landed on the fence and started getting amorous. Friend whose garden we were in said,
"Those fat pigeons are back. They're such a pain."
Elevenerifer responded with "the pigeons that land on my fence are much bigger than that."
No situation can pass by without her taking the opportunity to get one up on someone!!

It screams of insecurity. Sad really. I work with someone like this and she annoys everyone in this way.

I know 2 people who talk a very great deal about how wealthy they are, and like to 'suggest' things to others which are really only a device to tell people how wealthy they are. For example, when a friend was house hunting, BoastyMcBoasty helpfully suggested the friend looks at local manor house that had come onto the market for 3.5 million, because they had been to view it and although it did not meet their needs it might meet friend's. (Friend;'s budget was under £500 k which was known).

@dissertationhell

I have a friend who will say things like:

'We just bought a new tv - guess how much it cost?' Then will go on to tell me a really expensive amount and wait for my reaction.

'We just renewed our life insurance so if anything happen to partner I will get £1 million' awaits my reaction.

'I made this amount this week' awaits my reaction.

'Guess how much is in my everyday account? Guess how much is in my savings' no idea, she tells me, awaits response.

'Do you like my bag/hair/jacket etc.?' As soon as I enter the door.

If I speak about doing anything, she has to do it too. For instance, I say I'm taking daughter to the cinema, well her son is going with his gran. I'm getting my nails done, so is she. I've gutted the house out, well she's been productive too.

It's actually getting really annoying to the point I am avoiding her more and more.

Would you find these comments odd/annoying/boastful or AIBU?

Oh it’s such a bore isn’t it!

Yes my BIL is like this - everything is about money, everything is a competition. I swear one day I’ll respond with ‘although that’s terribly interesting I’m just off to talk to my dog now’.

What’s even more sad is if you don’t respond in a way they expect you’re then seen as somehow jealous 🤣

Does she not know that boasting about money is really bad manners?

One word. Insecure.

@Tyrozet

Just start answering her "guess how much" questions with really exaggerated guesses.

How much do you think my new trainers were?

£5000?

haha this, when she gives the real price go "oh" like you're disappointed.

You have to pity someone when so much of their conversation (and presumably self worth) centres around what their belongings cost and what they have compared to others. Somebody truly secure and happy wouldn’t continually need to try to impress other people with money like your friend does. Why don’t you just shrug and pull a face which conveys a ‘What a ridiculous question. Who cares?’ kind of expression and not guess. The silly game only works for her if you participate. I don’t think I’d have someone like this as a friend tbh as my values are too different and I’d find it unpleasant enough to distance myself.

Thank goodness I don't know anyone like this. It sounds very tiring and gauche.

I think if I liked the friend apart from this habit I'd try something like 'guess how much money is in my current account'..."oh X, I do love you but I really don't want to know about the money in your account/cost of that bag/what you earnt, it's your business not mine and it's not what friendship is about for me'. If she's a decent person she'll get the message. If not, I'd give up.

I had a friend like this. She and her husband would always retire to the drawing room after supper. Fine but it was 12 feet square in her two bedroom bungalow.

Just laugh or dump her.