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Family ask what size for the kids then ignore it everytime grrrr

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notsureaboutTAAT · 14/04/2022 15:09

Then seem to get annoyed when said item is unworn or I get children to try it on and it doesn't fit. My children are giants. The toddler is chunky too, the older one has slimmed out as he's grown. Why ask me what size and then ignore me ? This is various different family members from both sides. I am happy for people to buy clothes for the DC not fussy on styles.

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Goldfishjones · 14/04/2022 15:13

Sympathy. My family ask me what I want for my birthday/Xmas every year.....I spend time thinking of ideas/sending links and don't buy myself whatever the item is that I want. Then they don't get me the right thing. Or something completely different. So I have to store the unwanted item and buy the right one myself. Why bloody ask then?!

Galaxyrippleforever · 14/04/2022 15:15

My 3 year old is in size 4-5 and without family family buy 2-3, even when I have said 4-5. Weird!

Regenbogen22 · 14/04/2022 15:17

@notsureaboutTAAT literally every time it happens give them back the clothes and say "unfortunately this doesn't fit, it's the wrong size, would you like to exchange it or should I?". Every time.

2tired2bewitty · 14/04/2022 15:20

My family member’s speciality is buying say age 6-7 for the 7 year old who’s not going to get smaller. Annoys me, why not size up?

gogohm · 14/04/2022 15:21

I had the opposite, clothes 2 sizes too big, then they would ask why they weren't wearing them. My kids were normal to petite still are as adults

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notsureaboutTAAT · 14/04/2022 15:21

We obviously just don't know our own minds?

And @Goldfishjones I have the same issue with my parents on any gifts. They won't give me money either now, as I they gave me 100 pounds one birthday and I bought a tree for the garden. Apparently that's not appropriate, as it's not for me Hmm I look at the tree all the time and I actually love it!

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Walkingtheplank · 14/04/2022 15:22

I think all families do this.

I have tall children with end of summer birthdays. Every year they would receive summer clothes at the end of summer in their actual age size or smaller. Sometimes they could squeeze in e.g. dresses could be tops for a day - but very rare for a family bought item to be worn again and never the following summer - cue sulks from giftee.

Year after year.

Eastereggsarecoming · 14/04/2022 15:23

Our families do this too. They buy everything too small. They ask what size then buy the size smaller.

Just why? I don't get it at all.

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notsureaboutTAAT · 14/04/2022 15:23

@gogohm

I had the opposite, clothes 2 sizes too big, then they would ask why they weren't wearing them. My kids were normal to petite still are as adults
I'm probably that auntie too 😬 they prob have a thread about me sizing up ! But they live abroad so not easy to exchange stuff.
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SnackSizeRaisin · 14/04/2022 15:24

Ours always get clothes that are slightly too small. Age 6-12 for a 1st birthday or 18-24 for a 2nd birthday. So it might fit just about for a few weeks. Aargh. I don't know why they don't get the next size up. Obviously they always remove the tags and don't keep the receipts.

CircusBaby · 14/04/2022 15:28

Yup had this with numerous family members. I'm obviously completely incapable of knowing what sizes my children need because I usually get comments like 'that size didn't sound right so we got xyz..' Yeah, you got the wrong size. Cheers.

DuchessofAnkh22 · 14/04/2022 15:37

@SnackSizeRaisin

Ours always get clothes that are slightly too small. Age 6-12 for a 1st birthday or 18-24 for a 2nd birthday. So it might fit just about for a few weeks. Aargh. I don't know why they don't get the next size up. Obviously they always remove the tags and don't keep the receipts.
You just give them back and say they need exchanging for the next size up....
Sprogonthetyne · 14/04/2022 15:38

Yes, so annoying. DS is 5 but massive, usually in size 7-8. He also has a cousin who is 7 and who he is taller then. PIL know this, they have commented on this befor, so why would they think he needs clothes 2 sizes smaller then his cousin (who's size matches his age, so usually gets clothes that fit)

thewhatsit · 14/04/2022 15:43

@gogohm

I had the opposite, clothes 2 sizes too big, then they would ask why they weren't wearing them. My kids were normal to petite still are as adults
Mine too but this doesn’t really bother me as they’ll fit eventually. I also don’t mind an oversized jumper etc. If it’s too small it’s unwearable unless there is a younger sibling it can be passed down too.

I always size up if in doubt because I figure it increases the chance it can be worn. This goes for buying for my own DC or buying as gifts.

Only exception is if people are buying clothes with a character on for instance because my DC are into that character right now in which case I obviously don’t really want something that won’t fit for 18 months.

Regenbogen22 · 14/04/2022 15:43

I don't get why you don't just tell them it's the wrong size!!!

LookItsMeAgain · 14/04/2022 15:49

Check the sizes and before they leave (or you leave) depending on where the gifts are handed over, hand them straight back saying "Oh dear, that's the wrong size for X or Y or Z. I do hope you kept the receipt as you'll need to exchange/return it for the right size" and hand the clothing back to them.
Stop accepting the clothes if they are the wrong size.

Make it the job of the giver here (as it is a repeated offence to just ignore the sizes when they've asked) to return the clothes for the right sizes.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that they are buying these clothes a few seasons in advance and hoping that they fit. Would they be doing that do you think? Buying in the sales perhaps?

Goldenbunny · 14/04/2022 15:56

My mum is a pain for buying the wrong sizes even when she's checked with me before buying she does not believe my 4 year and old needs a size 6-7 years or 7-8 years depending where the clothes are from.
My 15 year old dd told her to stop buying her clothes and few years back now she gives her money to buy her own.

NotThoseKindOfEggs · 14/04/2022 16:05

My MIL kindly buys my daughter (aged 2) clothes in a variety of 5-6 and 6-7 sizes despite her being pretty bang on average sized. We then have to store these clothes for the next 5 years. They’re average high street clothes and not a once in a lifetime bargain opportunity so I just don’t get it.

CruCru · 14/04/2022 16:15

I used to have a great aunt who did this. She lived in Australia and would send Australia themed tee shirts - but they would never fit. It probably cost a fortune in postage too.

RunningKatie · 14/04/2022 16:23

Sympathy - we get this too.
Sent a link to a top, right size, in stock, age dd is.
So they buy a size smaller than her age. Why???? Because their other saintly gd wears a size smaller so our dd obviously must Hmm

ffscovid · 14/04/2022 16:54

We have this. DD is 11 but is small for her age and wears age 9 ish. 10-11 is way too big but most people bought 11-12 or even 12-13 for her recent birthday. Previously it didn't matter if the clothes were too big as I'd just put them away to grow into but I rather suspect we've reached that age where fashion matters and future 13 year old DD won't want to wear the childish clothes she was given aged 10/11 by the time they fit her. Such a shame and a waste.

NotTheOW · 14/04/2022 16:56

I whack it on ebay and tell them it was too small but I've passed it on to a friend

YouHaveYourFathersBreasts · 14/04/2022 17:04

My ex MIL does this. I gave up years ago trying to get it through her thick head that the clothes she gets my kids don’t fit. At least when I automatically donate them to the charity shop completely unworn others benefit. I used to exchange them for sizes but she got wise to that and started cutting the labels out Hmm

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notsureaboutTAAT · 14/04/2022 17:05

I even done trying it on and then suggesting they return, which works better in person ( not with with my parents, who try to squeeze them in(
) . But more difficult with other relatives and I've returned a few things and not even had them replaced, one of those things I guess 🤷‍♀️

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NotTheOW · 14/04/2022 17:08

@notsureaboutTAAT

I even done trying it on and then suggesting they return, which works better in person ( not with with my parents, who try to squeeze them in( ) . But more difficult with other relatives and I've returned a few things and not even had them replaced, one of those things I guess 🤷‍♀️
Yes I tried the same. Some of them seem to think I can just shrink my child to fit!
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