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To get back into bed after school run

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Howmanykidsadverts · 12/04/2022 09:47

Dd starts reception in September, I’ve had long covid for two years, much better since January, but still takes me a long time to get going in the morning.
We’ve always had slow mornings, I literally stumble downstairs, make a tea and her breakfast, if she lets me (started to want to go on her own) then sit for around an hour to come round.
The thought of having to be up, showered, dressed, ready, breakfast etc by 8.30 is filling me with anxiety.
Was going from being at home to the school run a huge change? Could I try to get through it and come back and lie down? I work some evenings and am fine by around 10/11 am
Aibu to feel sad to miss our slow mornings cuddled up in get together too?

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TheMarvelousMrsMaisel · 12/04/2022 09:49

Do whatever makes you feel happy/best? You don't need permission.

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Howmanykidsadverts · 12/04/2022 09:51

*Started to want to do on her own

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TabithaHazel · 12/04/2022 09:54

Firstly I would ditch the morning shower, then yes get back into bed after the school run if your lifestyle allows it, why not! :)

SayCheeseBoris · 12/04/2022 09:56

I've been doing the school run for 15 years and have never gotten used to it. I regularly go back to bed for an hour or so and it is bliss!

FetchezLaVache · 12/04/2022 09:57

That's what I'd do. I'd leave the shower until later and just throw on trackies for the school run. Or you might find that leaving the house and getting some fresh air perks you up.

Ponoka7 · 12/04/2022 09:58

You do what suits your lifestyle. I have post viral chronic fatigue and sleep when my body needs it. I was always a night owl, but you do get into a routine of being up and out.

AchillesPoirot · 12/04/2022 09:58

You might feel a good bit better by September.

Mouthfulofquiz · 12/04/2022 09:58

I was very sleep deprived when I first started to need to do the school run (4yr old starting school, 2 year old and a newborn) which I know is different to your situation but I understand the sense of dread part. It actually helped me quite a bit to have more of a routine and fresh air. Sometimes we came home and crashed and sometimes not. It might not be as bad as you think!

Mymindisnotmyown · 12/04/2022 10:01

It depends what else you want to do with your day? School doesn’t start till 9am; if you go back to bed, will you be staying in bed till lunchtime? Does that make you feel happy or do you want to do that purely because the long covid is making you feel you need to?

When DS starts school 9am will feel late to me but I’ve got used to dropping him at nursery at 8 and then starting my day.

Original poster
Howmanykidsadverts · 12/04/2022 10:01

*bed together

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Howmanykidsadverts · 12/04/2022 10:03

@Mymindisnotmyown In an ideal world and the way I used to feel, I’d be up and out, drop her off then take our dog for all long dog walk, shop, some lunch, tidy, dinner prepared, pick Dd up, Dh home, then out to work.
I really don’t want to waste the morning by being in bed

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Mymindisnotmyown · 12/04/2022 10:06

@Howmanykidsadverts ☹️ Really hope you start to feel better soon then. Sorry you’re not feeling like yourself.

pictish · 12/04/2022 10:06

I agree with whoever said to do whatever suits your lifestyle.

I’ll chip in that I don’t think it’s beneficial habit to start, just from a mental health point of view. You may get used to and made slowly despondent by spending the best of the morning in bed. We are creatures of the light after all.

pictish · 12/04/2022 10:07

Cross posted there.

HeyBlaby · 12/04/2022 10:13

I work nights so when doing the school run on my days off I always get a nap shortly after Grin

Furrbabymama87 · 12/04/2022 10:14

You'll soon get into the routine of it and you might even find that you enjoy having the time to yourself. If you're unwell then go to bed but if it's just a habit, personally I'd try to stop.

Hugasauras · 12/04/2022 10:18

I do this on nursery days! It's lovely. Back into bed with tea and a book and then a snooze. Just wait and see how it goes? Some days you might need it, others you might not. You don't need to plan for it now or be rigid about it.

Regenbogen22 · 12/04/2022 10:18

Can you reset your rhythm by going to bed earlier every night and therefore you would be able to get up earlier and take it slower? Or does your job not allow for that?

SophieSoSo · 12/04/2022 10:18

It’s not a waste - if it’s what your body needs to recover then do it x

LindaEllen · 12/04/2022 10:21

Me and DP love spending lazy mornings in bed when we're not working (luckily no young children anymore - youngest is at uni now!) and our family/friends take the piss out of us for it. The way I see it is that so long as we're getting done what needs to be done, the house is clean and tidy, and we're not cancelling social engagements, who cares?

What we do with our own time is our own business, and if you feel you want/need to sleep for a while after the school run, absolutely do it.

elbea · 12/04/2022 10:29

I do this after the nursery run sometimes. I work flexibly but some nights end up working until 10. My husband is working away from home for quite a few months so it’s nice to have an hour or two to have a nap or time to myself once nursery drop off is done!

BellePeppa · 12/04/2022 10:31

Yes and enjoy your nap. I used to do this when children little and at school at whatever time I felt tired. I’d put an alarm on if I felt sleepy in the afternoon to make sure I didn’t sleep through school end but I loved having daytime naps.

MargaritasOnMe · 12/04/2022 10:33

I'm sure loads of people do this - parents who work nights, pregnant mums or those with young babies who will nap on their return, people who are ill, people who've been out/are hungover, anyone who's had a bad night and so on. Don't worry about it! If you'd benefit from an extra hour in bed then go for it. Personally I love a good nap after lunch although sadly my kids don't agree.

Leftbutcameback · 12/04/2022 10:35

Absolutely the right thing to do. I have a chronic fatigue condition, and am part of a network with others, and we are all trying to learn how to manage our conditions best. This is a big change to your daily routine and a rest after the tiring bit at the start might help you manage the rest of the day much better. It takes a long time to do that and especially not to overdo it on the days you are feeling better. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Good luck

Greyarea12 · 12/04/2022 10:37

I understand the anxiety and dread around being up and out early every morning. I remember saying to a friend when I was pregnant (10 years ago) that I was dreading having to be up early every single day and never have a lie in or have that chance to catch up on sleep. Fast forward 10 years and I hate being up late and love be up and out early. I love the school walk when it a nice sunny day and your out and about and it is only 8.30am. You might find that like me you will start to enjoy it. However, nothing wrong in going back to bed if that's what you want/need. I do agree though that it won't be good for your mental health so I would try not to turn it into a daily habit.