To hav a day "off" from being a SAHM?

[ComeOVeneer]

Yesterday was the childrens' first day back at school/nursery and dh was at work. I decided to have a day off, so apart from the school runs and cooking supper for them and later dh an I I did nothing housework wise etc. DH was rather surprised when he got home (he assumed I would take advantage of the time to myself to spruce up the house after the chaos of the holidays). He occasionally takes a day off work and does nothing so why can't I do likewise?

"YOu wouldn't take an hour off without consulting dh and seeing if he was ok with it . I don't need dh's permission to have some time to myself. Likewise I don't expect hime to check with me if it is ok for him to book a day off work."

Well you've answered your own OP then.

Personally we don't HAVE any free time. DH takes his annual leave so I can work. If he took a day's annual leave to play golf I would have something to say about it!

But you've answered your own question, you both have plenty of free time so it's not a problem.

"you both have plenty of free time"

Where on earth did you get that idea from? I wish.

Xenia I am already planning to ask my parents to do some childcare precisely so I can go visit.

It's funny half the time the things you post make my blood boil, the other I agree whole heartedly.

I am a professional, well educated woman who has choosen to take time out from the work force to spend with my children etc and I sometimes find your comments quite belittling to SAHm's (like we choose to hand our brains in when we quit the work force).

Just so amazed that some couples have to check in and out with each other before deciding how to spend their days Why?

"I never like these separations. Most adultery is opportunity not because people are intrinsically bad".

That's a huge mind-leapo Xenia, from COV's DH going abroad, to him (or people like him) comitting adultery. Not the most tactful remark to place in her head !

You probably didn't intend it to read like this either but your very next sentence then goes on to say "I suppose if the deal is that he gets promoted and then you all have more time then it's acceptable".

Presumably "it's" not the so-far mythical and until now unthought-of adultery ??!

(leap, not "leapo")

Ladymariner if you don't have any annual leave that you can spend on anything other than childcare, NEITHER of you have any right to spend your annual leave without consulting the other!

I'm very of anyone who gets time off to do anything non-child and non-work related.

Dear lord, of allmy concerns, adultery isn't one of them. There has to be some real problems in a relationship for adultery to crop up just because a couple are apart for a period oftime. Does this concern extend to the person left at home. Or am I simply to busy knee deep in laundry and childcare to be remotely attractive to the opposite sex?

I've met you

I can confirm you are v. tasty

COV - perhaps we can try luring the postman or the window cleaner into our boudoirs

whilst the cat's away.....

I'm not luring the window cleaner since he caught me doing a poo with the door open

It's just the postman for me

mp - I thought you didn't have any free time to have an affair?

comeonveneer, there is endless opportunity, the postman, milkman, paperboy

DH works away a lot (currently only home at weekends, and soon will be away for about 6 months without a break). Like LoveAngel I class myself as a SAHM, not a housewife. Without DH here, and with a v.clingy 18 month old, I would spend all my evenings doing cleaning and washing. To combat this we got an aupair. Lots of people that don't know the ins and outs of our lives were shocked by this, but it works for us. This way I get a break in the evenings.

I would love to have a day off from being a SAHM too - I've had a few part days off, but I prep for them, and tidy up after them. I've had one night away in nearly 4 years (plus the 5 nights I spent in hospital with DS2, but DH had my mum to help then), whereas DH has had 100's due to work, and probably about 50 nights or more for fun. I'm keeping a mental record though, and when DS2 stops bfing, it will be payback time

So in answer to OP - not unreasonable at all!

Sadly it appears that I don't even time to have a private poo

mp

Have a postwoman, buy milk at supermarket and no window cleaner as apparently H+S doesn't allow one to do 4 floors of building.

well COV you will just have to pounce on the meter reader when he calls

Fair enough, mp, I agree entirely with you, but surely you don't have to justify how you spend your days? Oh bugger, this is coming out all wrong.... (retires to rethink how to phrase things in order to avoid saying the wrong thing when only trying to join in......)

Iota do you have decent looking meter readers? We don't. I am actually looking forward to having the tv to myself, eating very healthily to lose a stone and get seriously slim and sexy for our summer holiday, then ponce on dh

That sounds like a great plan COV. I try to lose weight when dh is away, so that he can fatten me up with wine and fabulous cooking when he is back.(hence the laughter at me not going to the gym -I'm all talk no action)

When you say ponce...

I had a seriously cute guy come to measure for blinds. Do you want his number.

did you pounce on him yogimum?

I'm the one who does the fab cooking and baking etc. I feel guilty giving dh fish and salad but I really love that kind of food.

For the first time in my life, no!!