To be a bit fed up of going to bed at 9 every night

[Thescentoftheocean]

My job absolutely exhausts me and that combined with a poor sleeping child means I’m shattered all the time and I need to be in bed by 9 really.

But I want to stay up sometimes, watch a film. I feel like I don’t get much (if any) adult time at the end of the day.

Does anyone else know what I mean?

Some people prioritise staying up and suffer from less sleep, others prioritise sleep and go to bed early. Most parents have gone through this stage.

I went with sleep and don’t regret it for a second, it doesn’t last forever I’ve barely seen my kids since school broke up (out with friends constantly!).

Ah I remember this well and it will pass. How old are your children? Do you have a partner so you could have one later night followed by a lie in one weekend day?

DS only coming up to 16 months so young … DH does let me have a lie in but it’s a drop in the ocean tbh!

As an insomniac I just really envy you being able to fall asleep at 9pm. Wanna swap?

You want to be woken all night, seriously?!

You want to be woken all night, seriously?!

Better to have slept and got woken than never have slept at all.

It won't last forever, go with the sleep for now, loads of time for adult life in a few years! I can't function on less sleep, especially when their still at the stage of waking you in the night.

I get you op.

I actually am in the habit of getting up stupidly early. I can fall asleep but not stay asleep.

Early morning is when I get my alone adult time. Today it was 4am.

I have done this since the kids were young, around 2ish. Both my kids were terrible sleepers but would sleep from about 3am to 7am from that age.

They are 18 and 11 now, getting them out of bed is the issue. Still go to bed earlyish get up early and have the house to myself, even now.

Early morning is my alone time, get up at 5:30 before the baby wakes up at 7. I miss my husband but I'll see him again one day 😂

I do know what you mean though, sometimes I'd like to just watch one episode to the end and not have to start getting ready for bed at 8:30!

@PinkSyCo

As an insomniac I just really envy you being able to fall asleep at 9pm. Wanna swap?

Seriously? Do you have no empathy or do you make everything about you? This woman is exhausted but you just try to point out you have it worse?

Going to be every day at 9pm seems excessive OP.

Unless you are awake every night in the night?

If you want to stay up later on occasion, just do so. Doesn’t have to be often.

Could you catnap in the day here and there maybe

Bit dramatic zonder
I don’t think that was the intention of the post you refer to.

Excessive tiredness with one 16 month child,
to the point of needing to be in bed by 9 pm every night sounds extreme tbh.

Sometimes a later night is worth it for a bit of time to do what you want.

Can you get a morning off sometimes at the weekend o go for a swim/coffee/etc?

And can we help at all with suggestions on how to improve your DS’s sleep?

This is me I work constant night shift and have a young child , on my nights off I'm in bed by 9 or I fall asleep on the sofa

I am totally f*cked and in bed early every night doped up on painkillers. You have my sympathies, OP. I miss being able to just watch a film with the family. Often fall asleep before 9pm.

I am up between 5 and 6am every single day so no idea what a long lie is - someone tell my youngest children!!

Blimey @Zonder I think PP was just trying t to be a bit lighthearted

@Quincythequince

Bit dramatic zonder I don’t think that was the intention of the post you refer to.

Excessive tiredness with one 16 month child,
to the point of needing to be in bed by 9 pm every night sounds extreme tbh.

Not really. I have always been in bed early when they were tiny, youngest is almost 5yo but I am still in bed very early. Need to be as it's my only respite time.

When my children were small and early risers I would go to bed at 9 as they were up by 5.
Now they are grown up and I have a full on job and am in bed at 10 as alarm goes off at 5.30

I’d get as much sleep in as you can if you need it

I'm 50/50 on this. I really feel the need to go to bed at 8 in order to wind down quietly in order to be able to fall asleep by 10. It's dull, I wish I didn't need it, but I do need it so it makes me happy.

I remember these days, and not fondly!
I used to go wild once weekly and stay up until 22.00 on the night that Ashes to Ashes was on with a glass of wine. It felt like the early childhood equivalent of going on an all-night bender.
You'll get there.

Ok, we are all different. But to e so exhausted with one 16 month old child so as to go to bed by 9pm latest, every night, seems unfortunate.

Is going to be at 9pm actually helping you, or are you still perms tired?

If the latter, then how much tired we will you be if you just stay up a little later and actually do something for yourself?

I am not budging btw, I find myself being very tired these days too, so have some sympathy.

But even 9pm every night for me, unless there are other reasons for not sleeping, would be too long in bed

Ah this bit ends OP. It really is a case of gritting your teeth and getting through it.

Ideally someone to take child for a day and a night, both take annual leave for a day and just spending time with other half can be a boost though. Not always possible I know.

His, so sorry for typos.

judging not budging

perma not perms

Sleep is essential for your wellbeing and many people don't get enough of it. I've just watched the Horizon programme with Dr. Michael Mosley on sleep. It was very interesting and clearly shows the effects of not getting enough sleep.
As for watching films and TV, you can watch most programmes when you want, on Netflix, Amazon Prime or YouTube.