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Letting DS sharing his Easter prize

74 replies

DragonFlowers4 · 09/04/2022 19:09

Had a call from the school yesterday to say that DS(7) had won the school Easter raffle and could yhey put his picture on the schools social media page. I said yes and a few minutes later there was a picture of DS with a massive hamper full of different Easter eggs and sweets.

So I went to pick him up from school and the teacher asked me to come into the classroom where DS was sitting with his prize. DS declared he wanted to give some of his prize to the egg collection the school was having for charity but the teacher said he had to wait to ask me first.

So I talked to DS about it for a bit and he was still really keen to give some of it to the collection and ended up putting in some of the medium Easter eggs (around 5 in total)

DS then gave a giant Easter egg and a cuddly toy to his sister and a medium Easter egg for his best friend.

DS was still left with a giant egg and a cuddly toy for himself, a medium Easter egg and loads of little chocolate eggs and bags of chewy sweets and chocolate rabbits. He was really pleased with all thus and I told him how proud he was for sharing his prize.

Anyway so today the DCS went to ExHs house and I got a call from him at lunch asking why I had let DS give away most of his prize. He had seen the picture of social media and had asked DS about it and DS had told him what he had done.

ExH was really angry with me, he said I had let DS give away a his prize and DS would be upset when he looks back and realises that I didn't protect him form losing out.

I explained that it was DSs idea but Ex said I should have stopped him and DS will be upset later on. I gave up in the end cause we were just arguing around in circles so I hung up. But now he keeps sending me messages asking if I can get the eggs back and saying that he will buy the kids extra Easter eggs to make up for it.

So now I'm sitting here feeling guilty that I didn't talk DS out of it. While it was DS who brought it up I was quite pleased when he wanted to give some away. The DCS already get around 7 Easter eggs at Easter plus loads of extras from family and I wasn't keen for him to have double that again.

So was I being unreasonable to let DS give his prize away without stopping him or thinking about it more.

OP posts:
Easterisoffeggstooexpensive · 09/04/2022 19:12

Be very thankful your ds takes after you not his df...

Veryverycalmnow · 09/04/2022 19:13

What a kind, lovely boy. Ignore exh!

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 09/04/2022 19:13

If one of mine had won a hamper (guessing raffle?) I'd have expected them to share it with their sister. They often chose to share small prizes like those mini haribo bags. And proud of them for donating to food bank etc.

Flowers12345 · 09/04/2022 19:13

It's a lovely thing your DS did, I would be very proud too, ignore your ex-H he sounds vile!

Soontobe60 · 09/04/2022 19:13

Your DS sounds lovely! He doesn’t take after his father does he?

TheWitchersWife · 09/04/2022 19:14

What a wonderful boy you're raising.
I can see why he's your ExH.
I can't imagine there are words that will make him see what a twat he sounds, so I wouldn't bother trying.

Randomness12 · 09/04/2022 19:15

Your ex is an idiot. You have a generous, kind and thoughtful son, he (and you) did a lovely thing and it made him happy. That is what is important.

Ohquietone · 09/04/2022 19:15

I think it shows how wonderfully you’re raising your son that he’s thinking of others. His father however sounds like a complete tosser.

OutingHobby · 09/04/2022 19:16

Your ex has issues. Ignore him.

Snowdropsarelovely · 09/04/2022 19:16

What a lovely kind and generous boy you are raising. Presumably there's a reason his dad is an ex!!

Alwayspaintyournails · 09/04/2022 19:18

Your Ex is a tool.

Original poster
DragonFlowers4 · 09/04/2022 19:20

To be fair DS was more interested in the cuddly toy than the chocolate. Had I won it I think I'd have kept a few more eggs

OP posts:
Thumpkin · 09/04/2022 19:21

Your boy is lovely. Your ex…well, I see why he’s your ex!

DisforDarkChocolate · 09/04/2022 19:22

@Easterisoffeggstooexpensive

Be very thankful your ds takes after you not his df...
So bloody true. It's easy to see why he's an ex.

I love chocolate but I think your son has more than enough left.

FairFuming · 09/04/2022 19:22

Ex is a cockwomble. Duely ignore him and feel very very grateful that he is an Ex.

Travelwiththree · 09/04/2022 19:22

Just be thankful he's an ex.

Mumdiva99 · 09/04/2022 19:25

No kid needs that many egg. Your son was very kind sharing. He will always remember and remember how pleased he was to share the prize. Ignore the exh.

ilovesooty · 09/04/2022 19:26

You have a lovely thoughtful son. Take no notice of your ex.

44PumpLane · 09/04/2022 19:27

Your son did something lovely, he did the right thing and so did you by encouraging and praising it.

Your ex is a twat and will end up making your son feel bad about a great choice if he's not careful!!!

TooManyPJs · 09/04/2022 19:27

What is wrong with your ex?!? I think that was a lovely thing to do and is testament to your DS who did that lovely thing completely off his own back. He was also still left with plenty for himself to enjoy.

Ducksurprise · 09/04/2022 19:29

More enjoyment out of sharing than eating. Lovely lad.

Darkstar4855 · 09/04/2022 19:30

Your ex is an idiot. No child needs that much chocolate but showing kindness and sharing his good fortune with others is really impressive. The world needs more people like your son and less people like your ex. Who tries to take a charity donation back, ffs?

Heyisforhorses · 09/04/2022 19:35

You son sounds like a lovely kind kid, I would not discourage kindness like that. My kids get about 3 eggs, I put them in the press and they forget about them, they can only eat so many of them. Your DH isn't teaching your son anything positive, you did nothing wrong.

Nennypops · 09/04/2022 19:35

Tell him that your DS would have been far more distressed by being prevented from giving some of his prize away, and ask whether he realises that DS was still left with masses of chocolate.

MadeForThis · 09/04/2022 19:38

Your da sounds lovely. He won a prize and shared it so he made other people happy too. He would never have eaten all that chocolate anyway.

I can understand why exdh is an ex.

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