...to think that the woman who found out that I am going through a miscarriage, should not go around school telling everyone, AND that then.....

[NatalieJane]

NO ONE should come up to me while I am with DS1 (5yo, obviously doesn't know about the MC) not to see if I am OK or anything, but just to get a bit more gossip, from the horse's mouth, as it were? FFS stupid bloody people

And, I am not a horse, so she can get her fucking gossip from somewhere else.

NJ as lapin says hold your head up high I found it really hard not to be teary when people asked me but now I think sod you I am upset and you asking is making it worse so you can see how it makes me feel

I don't really feel embarressed as such, it isn't them knowing, the whole world could know as far as I'm concerned, if it was me that told them, it is more that I don't think I can handle the little stares and whispers.

I suppose it will be old news to them by the end of the week.

Yes, to head up. And a nice short & snappy answer that is audible for any audience along the "I don't wish to discuss it in public and certainly not in front of my children".

However, if she apologises I would accept as it is possible that she was trying to prevent everyone else asking you. But an apology is not an excuse for her to dig for further information.

Chin up, NJ, it really does get better.

silly lady!
so sorry nj,cant imagine how your feeling.

we live in small place were every one knows everyones buisness and its horrible.like you said it will be old news by end of week,theyll have someone else to talk about.

and infront of your children

YANBU! So sorry for your loss. This happened to me too, one of the school support staff (I had to tell school as was rushed to hospital and couldn't collect kids on time) told one of the biggest gossips in the town who told loads of people when I was still in hospital. Gutted. Anyway hold your head high, they are the sad ones. I hate it when I hear people gossip about peoples tragedys, sick. (((Hugs)))

And now another asked ever so thoughtfully if "that is just wind under your coat?"

What is it with people? Bloody rude. And she is one of the friends of the two cowbags from yesterday and this morning, so she probably knew as well.

When will it go down? I can start to move on once I'm not waiting for the next comment.

My god, NJ, you must know the bitchiest women in the country. What a bunch of nasty harridans.

Have you gopt someone who can come to theschool with you for a couple of days to slap these women if they come near you provide moral support?

Hope you feel better soon.

They are just like vultures waiting for any little snippet they can run back to their friends with. They form the most part of the PTA so it seems everything has to be run by or passed through them. (not having a go at any PTA's, just how this little lot are)

Wouldn't mind but the one who asked me that this afternoon has only ever said about 3 words to me before, and I've seen her every school day for more than 2 years.

Well as it was, DH is home today, so he could have gone and got DS, but I said I wanted to go, because I didn't want them all to think I was staying away.

Fell like I am a child again, trying to face up to the big girls.

My god, my heart goes out to you.

Those women, i just don't even know where to begin! Normally my instinct is to give people the benefit of the doubt and say they must not mean it to be as insensitive as it sounds, but perhaps... they do?? which beggars belief, really.

If i were you, when you can face it, i would have a quiet word with the 2nd one, the mum & toddler leader, about how much her words had upset you -- she should know how tactless that was and be given a chance to apologise.

is it possible that the 3rd one didn't know anything about it and was trying to strike up a conversation with you?

not that this excuses it.

you did the right thing today - good for you.
hope you're feeling better soon, sorry for your loss.

NatalieJane I really feel for you. Your having a bad time anyway and really don't need these awful women making things worse. . One of the mums had a mmc during the holiday and it didn't even occur to me to tell anyone else when she told me today, it's totally private and personal.

It is possible she didn't know, but I expect it is very likely she would have known. Either way, I've had enough of it, feel like just walking in the gates and making a loud speech about how I lost our baby and I don't mind a single bit about who bloody knows it.

Well I don't really feel like doing that, but it would stop all the bloody gabbing.

what vile women.

at least you can feel far, far superior to them.

LOL, I'll supply the fruit shoots, and the faux Radley bags to hit 'em with

You squirt, I'll run, I'll need the headstart

can I throw the greggs

LOL Only if you nicked them with some nice ham from Waitrose.