@Chakraleaf
Mumsnet generally has a fear of frumpy and being older but in RL most people ate starting to embrace it
This is true.
I have lost count of the number of threads on here, with 100s of posts where women are claiming they frequently get mistaken for someone 15-20 years younger... (or more!) 37 year old women being mistaken for teenagers, (or their daughter's younger sister,) women claiming people are visibly shocked when they announce they're 49, because said 'shocked person' thought they were in their 20s, and multiple woman of 40-45 saying they are frequently asked for proof of age when they buy a scratchcard... so they CLEARLY look 15. All utter bollocks as NO-ONE looks more than 7-10 years younger than their age. Not when you look properly.
Some women on here act like someone thinking she looks her age is the worst thing that could happen to them. And weirdly, I rarely see people saying they get people mistaking them for 5-10 years older.
Also agree with a pp about mens attitudes. I am in my mid 50s, and I have men 37/38 and under being lovely and polite with me (I am probably their mom's age,) and men over 65 being lovely. (Probably a bit of totty to them!') But men roughly MY age (40s and 50s,) look at me as if they just stepped in shit. That's if they even acknowledge me.
They are never pleasant or polite, and I just get pushed out of the way by them, and ignored, because God FORBID I think he is interested in me/fancies me. 
I have been invisible for about 12-13 years now, and yet DH (late 50s,) who looks 5 years older than he is, and looks no better than me/is no more attractive than me, has quite a bit of female attention. Usually from women 45+, but still more attention than I get from men.
From the age of 15 to around 42, I barely went a single week without some kind of attention from a man. Yet now, nothing. TBH it's quite liberating to not be hit on all the time, but at the same time, it's like 'jeez, am I that hideous?! 
NOPE! I am just in my mid 50s and look it!!! 