This week was supposed to go like this:
DH flying off overseas today for a work thing.
Tomorrow 9am my ILs arrive to look after DC (age 6 and 11).
I would then drive 3 hours to visit my terminally ill DM in her care home, take her out for lunch, spend the afternoon clearing out her house, stay overnight at a nearby relative's, take her to hospital appt on Wed morning, stay with her a bit and then drive home 3 hours Wed eve.
DH returns home Fri.
(Context: DM has no other visitors this week as others who have been fantastic at visiting regularly are all busy. She sits in her room all day if she has no visitors. I only get to see every 2-3 weeks)
However DS2 tested positive this morning so now DH can't go to his thing abroad (company rules) and we aren't prepared to let ILs look after DS when he's positive (friends and holiday clubs are out too, obvs).
So DH is now working from home this week. My plan can involve going a little later and returning a little earlier than planned but to make it worth going all that way I can't alter the timetable too much.
DH is annoyed that I still plan to go up in the morning and return early evening the next day, being away best part of 2 working days. I imagine he believes he has the right to a peaceful uninterrupted week of work (made possibly 99% of the time because I run around entertaining the DC, keep house and fit in whatever freelance work I can in the time left, while he sails on).
I'm annoyed because I don't think he's thinking about this from anyone's perspective but his own. He wasn't even meant to be doing his regular work this week (it was a separate work thing, not his usual job). Yes it will be annoying if the DC make a bit of noise while he's on a call but over the holidays I have to deal with it all the time.
He thinks I should change my plan so that I'm only away 24 hours. If I did that I'd be arriving with her as she's getting into bed tomorrow.
AIBU or is he?