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Original poster

was wedding guest a CF?

63 replies

UnsureCF · 03/04/2022 15:08

I was at a wedding venue yesterday. Wedding breakfast had finished, very very behind schedule, we were being ushered out so the room could be set up for the evening event.

There was loads of wine leftover from the lunch, many bottles unopened. I spoke to father of bride and advised that the wines were taken from the room and popped in the ante room for the day guests and evening guests to continue enjoying.

(At my wedding a few years ago, the different hotel cleared the unfinished wine in similar circumstances and it was never seen again, despite being fully paid for. I can only assume the bottles were put back into stock and sold again 😲)

I was chatting to another guest who'd just arrived for the evening party and explaining the situation and she grabbed an unopened bottle of rosé and said that'd be good for when she and partner return to hotel room later that night.

AIBU to think this was not acceptable? That wine was for all the wedding guests, not for someone to squirrel away for drinking later alone?

(BTW, the FOB didn't get the wine moved across and when I spoke to him at the end of evening, he'd got no idea whether venue had any plans to pass it on to the happy couple. Haven't spoken to anyone about it today)

OP posts:
Original poster
UnsureCF · 03/04/2022 15:10

I'm not a drinker so I've got no interest in the wine consumption. Just a sense of unfairness that's this wine had been purchased and not distributed to those who should have enjoyed it.

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Greensleeves · 03/04/2022 15:10

I couldn't get excited about it. BIL nicked a bottle of champagne from our wedding. It's only booze.

I'm surprised it bothered you enough to start a thread about it when it wasn't even your wedding/money.

TabithaTittlemouse · 03/04/2022 15:14

I’m with @Greensleeves I wouldn’t worry op.
It is rude to pinch the wine but it would also be none of my business.

luxxlisbon · 03/04/2022 15:14

This is a lot of different conversations about the wine at someone else’s wedding.

Just a sense of unfairness that's this wine had been purchased and not distributed to those who should have enjoyed it.

In many venues you can supply wine for dinner but not throughout the night. The venue need to make money and alcohol during the evening party is a big part of that.

Lavenderlid · 03/04/2022 15:15

It's possible they get a refund on unopened wine

Original poster
UnsureCF · 03/04/2022 15:23

You're all probably right, I'm letting the loss on my wedding day cloud my judgement.

Time to move on innit

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ICantRideABike · 03/04/2022 15:28

Fair play to the rosé drinker.

Swayingpalmtrees · 03/04/2022 15:47

Its really really rude!!!

Atomiccat · 03/04/2022 15:53

It’s really rude.

Pyri · 03/04/2022 15:55

It’s rude but not so rude I’d even give it a moment’s thought or start a thread on it

But people generally turn in to dick’s st other people’s weddings. I’ve seen perfectly lovely people do things like steal salt shakers from weddings. Just why.

Crazykatie · 03/04/2022 15:56

At one wedding I helped serve at years ago a relative of the bride was a French Countess who supplied the Champagne almost everyone had one sip then put the glass down.
There was loads left and nobody claimed it so we shared it out a couple of weeks later - it was OK diluted with orange juice.

burnoutbabe · 03/04/2022 15:57

very rude as one assumes they would get a refund but lost out on that one bottle - so thats a £30? cost. effectivly theft.

thisplaceisweird · 03/04/2022 15:58

You sound like a busy body

WalltoWallBtards · 03/04/2022 15:59

Checking fecking b'tard. And then some. Obvs she should have left it, not hers and to be shared amongst guests. But I've seen worst behaviour.

Viviennemary · 03/04/2022 16:00

It was really rude and ignorant of her to pinch the wine for later.

Ionlydomassiveones · 03/04/2022 16:01

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DrManhattan · 03/04/2022 16:03

Are you going to be the wine monitor at every wedding you attend?

Neverreturntoathread · 03/04/2022 16:03

Well the guest you were talking to, who swiped a bottle, actually prevented the hotel from nicking it back and reselli g it, so I don’t think she was a CF.

Total sympathy re your wedding booze, we had that at our xmas lunch. The hotels ‘disappeared’ all the unused bottles before we’d even finished eating, and I didn’t realise til later that we’d been charged for them!

LovePoppy · 03/04/2022 16:05

Mind your own wallet op.

You come across as crass

Sally872 · 03/04/2022 16:06

Guest is unreasonable to take it if it was being used later by all, but if that hadn't been sorted I would rather guest took it than hotel. (Though as a guest I would never do that!)

Original poster
UnsureCF · 03/04/2022 16:11

@thisplaceisweird

You sound like a busy body
Oh yups.

My raisin detre Smile

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Eggshausted · 03/04/2022 16:14

You bothered approaching the brides father about this during the reception? It would probably be the least of his concerns that a few bottles of wine may go missing, YABVVU to even speaking to him about this. Why try and spoil his total enjoyment of the day by telling tales on others? None of your business.

Kuachui · 03/04/2022 16:17

its rude. you ask, you dont just take it.

At my friends wedding they would refund and unused bottled of alcohol. she ended up with a £280 refund

1forAll74 · 03/04/2022 16:17

There is always a chancer or two at weddings, especially where booze is concerned.

ArtVandalay · 03/04/2022 16:19

I would think it vulgar and behaviour. But saying that, I couldn't be bothered to be bothered.

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