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was wedding guest a CF?

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UnsureCF · 03/04/2022 15:08

I was at a wedding venue yesterday. Wedding breakfast had finished, very very behind schedule, we were being ushered out so the room could be set up for the evening event.

There was loads of wine leftover from the lunch, many bottles unopened. I spoke to father of bride and advised that the wines were taken from the room and popped in the ante room for the day guests and evening guests to continue enjoying.

(At my wedding a few years ago, the different hotel cleared the unfinished wine in similar circumstances and it was never seen again, despite being fully paid for. I can only assume the bottles were put back into stock and sold again 😲)

I was chatting to another guest who'd just arrived for the evening party and explaining the situation and she grabbed an unopened bottle of rosé and said that'd be good for when she and partner return to hotel room later that night.

AIBU to think this was not acceptable? That wine was for all the wedding guests, not for someone to squirrel away for drinking later alone?

(BTW, the FOB didn't get the wine moved across and when I spoke to him at the end of evening, he'd got no idea whether venue had any plans to pass it on to the happy couple. Haven't spoken to anyone about it today)

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LightDrizzle · 03/04/2022 17:15

It’s really rude and greedy but it’s shockingly common. I find it depressing.
A friend threw a bbq a few years ago and invited family and good friends. He cooks fantastic food and while most of us brought a bottle of wine, he provided loads more booze, desserts and all food, all at his own expense. At one point I noticed his SIL and her friend hiding a bottle of (his) Bailey’s under SIL’s chair behind their bags “for later”.

Really appalling.

Swayingpalmtrees · 03/04/2022 17:15

Maybe she felt she had earned the bottle if the wedding was that bad, and she could drown her sorrows at the end at least Grin

OrchardBlack · 03/04/2022 17:16

@WalkingOnTheCracks

My raisin detre

All the time? Or just currantly?

@WalkingOnTheCracks I rarely laugh at puns but this was chefs kiss
waterrat · 03/04/2022 17:17

They were guest thr booze was for them ! So what. Good they enjoyed it.

drpet49 · 03/04/2022 17:19

* It was really rude and ignorant of her to pinch the wine for later.*

^I agree

AuntEater · 03/04/2022 17:23

Why is this anything to do with you?

lemongreentea · 03/04/2022 17:28

@DrManhattan

Are you going to be the wine monitor at every wedding you attend?
Shes a thief but also this.
maddiemookins16mum · 03/04/2022 17:30

Yabu, what has it to do with you anyway.

LightDrizzle · 03/04/2022 17:36

Wine is bought for guests to enjoy at the event, - at great expense to whoever is hosting and paying, to abuse that hospitality and to steal it to consume at home or back in your hotel room is really skanky.

AnnaBegins · 03/04/2022 17:46

I think you did a good thing mentioning that. My dad at DSis' wedding was so disappointed that guests and staff stole multiple unopened bottles of champagne, when people told him the next day. He'd have happily given it if asked!!

Gwenhwyfar · 03/04/2022 17:47

@burnoutbabe

very rude as one assumes they would get a refund but lost out on that one bottle - so thats a £30? cost. effectivly theft.
Quite possibly the guest thought it was paid for and would go to waste otherwise.
Mosaic123 · 03/04/2022 17:47

It's akin to theft.

They should have asked whoever paid for the wedding of it was acceptable.

catgirl1976 · 03/04/2022 17:58

It’s really rude but I don’t understand why you were talking to the FOTB (twice) and then the rose drinking guest about it. That’s the weirdest bit

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