[quote Queenie6655]@Neongoddess thank you so much for your response
How is it ok. To ask this??
And I love your responses !!!!!
Gosh some people need a good shake sometimes 😝😳[/quote]
Its not ok. It never has been. But people are twats.
I do genuinely believe some people are just quite interested. Like some people may point out that someone's accent is different and asks our of genuine interest.
But the issue is, they don't get what it's like growing up being asked this all the time. To them it's just a genuine question.
To dad's family and their wider community, me and dbro weren't 'Asian enough'. While mums family werent bothered at all, I got alot of white people feeling it was fine to point it out, usually to make me out to be less than. When you have grown up with people asking it in a derogarty way, being asked by someone who just trying to show some interest just puts me straight on edge. People who haven't experienced it, don't get it.
I did grow up in a diverse area. Lots of different ethnicities, but very few mixed race people. To many we were oddities.
Both mum and dad have had periods where they felt guilty for being together and having kids. They expected the shit they got. They didn't expect for us.
I am so very sorry you had to deal with this. Remind your dd that lots of people have different colour eyes to their parents. My mum's were blue, my dad's were Hazel. I got my grandads very dark brown eyes (mums side, he was white but greek). My dd has my dad's eyes.
I know it's not incredibly fashionable to tell girls they are beautiful. But do Remind her of that as well as all the other things about her brilliance. And try to make sure she see successful women who look like her. Actresses, business women, doctors etc. It helps.