Abusive mum on school run WWYD

[duenextweek]

OH asked one of the school mums nicely to move up a bit 3 weeks ago as she was taking up 2 spaces with her car. Her behaviour was erratic straightaway and she starting going crazy. Some of the other parents warned us about her and they labelled her as "mad"

Any how after this we took DS into nursery and as we came back some of the other school mums caught her keying our car and she was trying to convince them that she was OH's sister and that he has smashed her house up. It was all very odd! But we was able to report her to the police and the other parents gave statements.

Since that altercation she has been collecting her kids from the school office a bit earlier. But today I had to pick DS up earlier due to my antenatal appointment so I bumped into her.

I completely ignored her on the way in and she started again sticking her fingers up to OH. She then followed behind me to the school office threatening to have OH "done over" and was racially abusing me I asked her to stop talking to me as the police are dealing with it.

After that I returned to the car where OH was waiting for us and her older child got out the car screaming and offering OH to fight one of the other parents had to restrain him. During this they are racially abusing me in front of everyone.

I have never seen anything like it the mum seems to have very erratic behaviour she is in her pyjamas everyday.

The school don't seem to bothered but have said they will look into it. I don't see why we should be abused every time we see this woman and I have started to think about removing DD &DS from the nursery.

I don't want to remove the kids as they are doing so well but I don't know where to go from here? I'm not great with confrontation but I want the school to take it seriously. She also doesn't seem fit to even be a parent.

@Jannt86 - er, I didn’t say mental illness I said mental health.

As in, her brain is not healthy, as in none of us know if she has a personality disorder, a head injury, or something else, but CLEARLY NO ONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND would behave like this?! When the other parents say she’s mad, that’s what they mean. Not that they know for a fact she has schizoaffective disorder or something!

I didn’t say it was an excuse. In fact I went quite a long way in the other direction, to say there was no excuse.

Jeez.

Get a dash cam- some will continue to work after the engine is switched off . Then if she tries to damage your car again you will have the evidence on camera.

@duenextweek

I will have to update the police again after today's incident. It's just so frustrating that the school are allowing it to happen they want no part of it.

What do you expect the school to do, it’s not their job to Police what goes on with parents.

What she’s doing is absolutely not acceptable and must be horrible for you. You need to report to the police every single time she does something. They can deal with her for harassment as well as the other offences she has committed.

Buy a cheap Dictaphone. They sell them in Argos for like £20-£30. Record her, I wouldn't film her as there's children involved.
Also keep a diary of her behaviour etc. No way would I change schools! I feel very sorry for all the children involved, your kids and hers.

@Feckaffoutofit

I would change schools. She sounds crazy and this could end badly.

What the fuck? You would actually remove your children from school and their friends over some racist idiot rather than stand up to them. How spineless.

The police won't come out to solve every fight at a school.

The school is likely aware of the woman. Her DH has likely informed them of whatever issue she has. They school won't be able to disclose it and they can't discriminate against her either.

They have likely informed them to pick up their child earlier to avoid conflict. Try to go a bit later to avoid her.

I don't understand how she can even be allowed to pick her child up they should ask for another family member.

They can’t do that, they have no legal right to insist on that. She has parental responsibility, she is fully entitled to collect her children.

They’ve tried to minimise her contact with other parents by getting her to collect from the office at a different time.

You’ve no idea what other steps or actions they’re taking because due to confidentiality they cannot discuss that with you. But I’d be very surprised if they’re “doing nothing”. I’m sure her children will be on a safeguarding referral etc.

Keep reporting to police, and to school, so this woman and her children get the help they need.

I’m sorry it’s distressing for you though, it’s awful to be shouted at and harassed.

I doubt the school can do anything as this is a police matter...report every single time.

If she's been racist that's an offence so keep reporting. If she's doing and saying these things in front of other kids then the school should be a bit more pro active tbh.

@PotteringAlong

. I don't understand how she can even be allowed to pick her child up

Because she has parental responsibility. They cannot refuse to hand her child over to her.

As others have said, school are making her pick up from the office and taking her out of circulation, but they are probably at the limits of what they can do. Report it to the police as a hate crime. Hopefully you get a resolution swiftly

@PotteringAlong

Yes they can .. they did with Katie price.