Nusayba Umar - 16 month old killed by mother’s boyfriend

[babywalker56]

I am honestly getting sick to death of reading stories about parents and/or their partners being reasonable for a child’s death. I just simply don’t understand how this happens.

This woman met this man on a dating site 5 weeks before he killed her daughter. She had moved herself and her baby into his house to help him with his dog breeding business??? He also had a history of violence against his previous girlfriends and their children. In what world can you meet someone and within 5 weeks you move into their house?!

I feel so sad for this poor baby. Nusayba Umar lost her life but it even started.
Rest in perfect peace🌹

Here’s the link for anyone interested,
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-60927082

According to the BBC report, the mother had her own home - they report that the murderer told her to take her child back to her own home. I don't think the option for her was living with him or being in the gutter.

I agree with those who say she should be charged - she permitted this abuse, she did have choices, she put this man before her own child.

She says she'll never forget hearing the slap, but it doesn't sound as if she actually did anything when it happened.

I'm a single parent and my job is to protect my child, she comes first. If I abused her, or allowed her to be abused, I would be a culpable as any other mother.

This mother failed her child, moved in with a monster and stayed when she knew he was abusing her child. She was not a helpless victim, women are not always victims.

I feel like every week there's another child, not to mention the wars all over the world/horrific crimes against children.

Everyday I feel helpless - these poor babies. This little girl who has had her life cut short.

@Soffit

I have made this point before (and it never went down well at all) but in the overwhelming majority of such cases, the parent hastily moves in with an abusive person whom they barely know which is a pretty compelling reason to keep adult relationships outside of the family home and take it extremely slowly (or otherwise, be held accountable for your choices further down the line if something bad happens).

I am a single parent and I agree. If living with a new partner is more important to you than putting your children first then you need to check your head.

The mother enabled the abuse of her child. She enabled her suffering and in the end, enabled her murder.

No sympathy. She should never be allowed near children or vulnerable adults ever again.

Why do we have to believe that all mothers love their children? They really don't.

I am nc with my abusive mother and all I ever hear is 'how sad, I bet your Mum is devastated'. How about me? I am devastated. I grew up unloved and suffering. I am the victim and my mother is the perpetrator.