Mother's Day disappointment

[isurvived3under2]

When DH had asked what I wanted to do today, I suggested a place for breakfast. Or I said anywhere really for a nice breakfast/lunch.

Of course he didn’t think of booking early so everywhere is fully booked. Instead he organised a lovely river BBQ/picnic, which is something he and the children love doing. We never eat out so I was looking forward to a proper meal out.

Am I an ungrateful, unreasonable cow for being a bit disappointed?

If you want to dictate every aspect of the day

She suggested a breakfast place or going out somewhere nice for breakfast or lunch. It's hardly onerous. Or fussy or dictatorial.

Rather than doing something he enjoys. Which is what he actually arranged despite ASKING her what she wanted and ignoring that.

YANBU! He asked what you wanted and then didn't do it, so did something he wanted to do instead. Selfish!

To me it seems equivalent to receiving a birthday or Christmas present- obviously you could guarantee getting just what you want if you sent someone a link, but what’s the point? I’d rather receive something the other person had come up with, even if it’s not exactly what I’d have picked myself. I just don’t see the point. Ask for suggestions, sure, but they’re just suggestions.

The idea of saying “I’d like you to arrange what I ask for next time” (as PP I was responding to suggests) just appals me. How rude and childish.

Sorry, that was to @MrsTerryPratchett

Nope it's the Homer Simpson bowling ball.

He did what he wanted. Not what she wanted.

I think we get disappointed by underwhelming mother’s days because we usually put in al the effort and love into mothering and it would be nice for that to be acknowledged and valued. I would be saying that you have Mother’s Day part 2 and 3 and 4 and have lots of other things happen that you want

@MrsTerryPratchett I think we’ll just have to agree to disagree. But it’s nothing to do with a low bar- it’s a different view of what this sort of occasion is about. To me it’s a chance for my family to show their appreciation in whatever way seems right to them- I’ll throw some ideas out if asked but I certainly don’t expect them to treat my ideas as orders. And maybe what they come up with will be better than my suggestions and maybe it will be worse, but it will be meaningful because it’s from them, which simply following my orders could never be.

Saying “I’d like you to arrange what I ask for next time” is the absolute antithesis of that. Awful, snippy, joyless and ungrateful.