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To think my husband is gravely ill at the wrong time?

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MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 26/03/2022 13:12

Masses of confusion.

Husband spoke to GP yesterday morning and described his chest pain. He was advised to call an ambulance. My husband refused because he didn't think he needed one - thought he had chest infection or torn muscle.

He went to A&E - was sat in a corridor from 10.30am - he had ecg, x ray and blood test. He continued to sit on a chair in the corridor all day.

He was told he was waiting for blood test results. These came back at 6pm. Then he had to wait for a CT scan - then rushed to resus.

Dissected aorta from heart level to naval level.

I was called to be allowed to sit with him because I wasn't allowed to be in A&E. Was then told he was being blue lighted to another hospital an hour away for immediate surgery. I asked is this time critical? The answer was - yes life saving.

Paramedics arrived and told me to set off to this other hospital. There were three paramedics. One said 'I'm not taking him because I can't use that bit of kit, I'll lose my job if something goes wrong'. No advanced paramedics available and no doctor available to go in the transfer.

I was 15 min into the journey and then called back to the hospital.

No surgery.

Trying all day today to get him transferred. Nothing available.

He's critically ill.

I'm out of my mind with worry.

There's a saying about not being ill on the weekend. The standard of care is not the same. The 24hr cover appears to not exist.

I feel like we're being fobbed off with poor excuses big style.

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Bloodybridget · 27/03/2022 02:52

Thank god he is there now. I do hope everything goes much more smoothly now, and wish your DH the very best treatment, and a good recovery. And also hope you can see him again soon.

TheUnexpectedPickle · 27/03/2022 02:56

@MyOtherCarIsAPorsche

He's arrived.

That was intense.

Wonderful update, thank fuck for that!

Right, you, bed. He is in safe hands and you need some rest. Make sure you drink and eat something- no point making yourself ill too.

Best of luck and keep us posted.

SleepingStandingUp · 27/03/2022 03:05

Ah thank god he's got there op. Late to the thread but sending all my best wishes. Remember you need to eat and sleep too so you can look after him as he recovers x

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 27/03/2022 03:08

Thank goodness! Hope they can get on with his operation first thing and get him better again!

Iwassonaive · 27/03/2022 03:08

YANBU. Very best wishes Flowers

PartyPlan · 27/03/2022 03:15

Hope it all goes well for him and you can get some sleep.

AJGranny · 27/03/2022 03:17

Came along to check for an update. Hopefully things run smoother now.

MoFro · 27/03/2022 03:28

Sending much love and strength to you all, pray that he’s being well looked after x

Swifey40 · 27/03/2022 03:28

Sending you love and prayers.
Please try and eat something now, you will need your strength for the next few days. The last thing your husband needs is for you to keel over from dehydration and exhaustion. Maybe some sweet tea and some marmite on toast, or cheese on toast, just something to keep your body going. Sending tons of good luck xx

stonebrambleboy · 27/03/2022 04:15

Just checking your updates (can't sleep - covid), thank God he's moved.
Hopefully you are getting some rest now.
Sending you both best wishes x

Joystir59 · 27/03/2022 04:21

Hoping for the best for your DH and that you can know some rest and peace soon. Horrific situation.

Panda8383 · 27/03/2022 04:43

Glad to see your hospital is at the other hospital, sending you hugs and hoping your husband has a speedy recovery ❤️ You try and get some rest too

cutebutscary · 27/03/2022 05:52

I hope you manage to get at least a few hours sleep. I can't imagine how scared you must feel right now tho . Hope he will be ok x

Glassesareneeded · 27/03/2022 07:30

Thank goodness he's moved.

Hoping you managed to get something to eat, drink and some rest. Look after yourself too. Flowers

Sending every best wish to you and your family. Hoping that the surgery is a success and your husband recovers soon.

Take care.

Katyy · 27/03/2022 07:54

So sorry for what you are going through it’s truly shocking ! Fingers tightly crossed for you all. Take care and try and eat something.

Costumenonsense · 27/03/2022 07:55

So sorry you had to endure that OP.

Thank goodness the Dr went with him. Hope he has a good recovery.

Mindymomo · 27/03/2022 08:08

Best wishes to you and DH. We were in a similar situation with my DH waiting to be transferred for 5 days to a heart specialist hospital, he ended up going in the middle of the night also. My DH has just turned 65 and has had an invitation to have a scan to detect any abnormalities on his aortic valves, he had it on Thursday.

feb2016mummy · 27/03/2022 08:16

So glad he’s finally got to where he needs to be. Hope you manage to get a rest and something to eat and drink now. Please update us when you get chance. xx

VeryMuchFlaggingMinty · 27/03/2022 08:17

Glad there's been some positive development overnight. Fingers crossed he gets his surgery ASAP and all goes well 🙏

SouperNoodle · 27/03/2022 08:19

Thank god he's moved and thank god for that doctor.
I hope he gets the surgery asap and it all goes smoothly.
Please try and get some rest/eat something xx

Sunnyday321 · 27/03/2022 08:26

Hope you managed to get some sleep and you husband is getting the treatment required.

Reallybadidea · 27/03/2022 08:38

Great that he's there now. The fact that he was conscious when he arrived is a promising sign, but I hope you will feel up to complaining (about the lack of communication if nothing else) once this is all over. I hope it's been explained to you that this is likely to be a very long surgery, so don't panic if you don't hear anything from the hospital for quite some time about how it went - afternoon at the absolute earliest I would say. Could easily be longer. Flowers

user3837313202 · 27/03/2022 08:40

Thinking of you OP, and hoping for the best Flowers

SRK16 · 27/03/2022 08:45

Thinking of you both.

CornyAsACornyThing · 27/03/2022 08:46

I am so pleased that they recognised this as aortic dissection. My boss was sent home as having over exerted himself when his wasn't recognised. 45 he was. Recognising it makes all the difference in getting the treatment - hope he's on the mend soon.

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