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Dog owner angry because i walked away from his dog

181 replies

Mooo111 · 26/03/2022 10:26

I admit I'm a little nervous of certain dogs, I just think 'never say never'.
Anyway just before I was walking in the street and a pitbull type dog was off its lead walking past me. I moved to the other side of the pavement to let them past.
The owner (a young man) took great offence at this snapping, 'He's friendly, he wouldn't be off the lead if he wasn't, Jesus Christ!" Then walked off muttering obscenities.

I didn't respond just carried on walking. Has anyone else met this sort of situation? I'm within my rights to move out of the way of the dog if I want to. Of course owners will always say he/she is friendly but it can be intimidating when a dog you don't know runs up to you.

OP posts:
user842 · 26/03/2022 10:30

There are twats who own dogs and twats who don’t like dogs.

This is just a twat who happens to own a dog, nothing to do with being a dog owner.

Bananabutter · 26/03/2022 10:30

YANBU. Any sane person would walk away from those type of dogs.

knightsinwhitesatin · 26/03/2022 10:31

They’re all friendly til they’re not. I would do the same, and I have a dog myself. It should be on a lead really.

AndAsIfByMagic · 26/03/2022 10:32

It should have been on a lead. He's a prick.

Mooo111 · 26/03/2022 10:32

I've had it where i went to friend's houses and their large dogs jumped all over me, covering me in hairs etc and scratching my legs. I do like dogs but I just think that there definitely are some people who choose not to control their dogs

OP posts:
Mooo111 · 26/03/2022 10:32

I mean the minute i walked through the door their dogs ran at me

OP posts:
Bigfathairyones · 26/03/2022 10:32

YANBU. Some people don't want to walk past dogs on leads, never mind off leads. Some people don't like or trust bully breeds (I love them - best dogs ever, but that's besides the point). Your behaviour around dogs is no-one's business but your own. Daft man.

Onlyforcake · 26/03/2022 10:33

He's got no idea how you react to dogs generally. Dog owners and their entitled 'wouldnt hurt a fly' comments have zero idea about phobias and always take it as some sort of personal affront. Generally i tend to think they're trying to embarrass bully or intimidate the other person, looking for an argument.

LabelMaker · 26/03/2022 10:33

You can walk wherever the hell you like. His dog may be friendly but he isn't.

Pumpfive · 26/03/2022 10:33

Eurgh I hate this. I'll be honest, I don't love dogs. (I'm not scared of them at all) I just prefer cats. I coo over friends dogs because I feel I should but that's about as far as it goes. Why do some dog owners think that everyone should love their dogs? We aren't all dog lovers.

Leonberger · 26/03/2022 10:35

I love dogs, work with dogs and have dogs of my own.

I still don’t want to be bothered by or stroke them when I’m out. If I wanted to stroke a dog I would stroke my own instead.

Some dog people are just strange OP I wouldn’t let it bother you!

galacticpixels · 26/03/2022 10:38

You're not being unreasonable. A couple of times when out and about I've had people's "friendly dogs" jump up on me and get mud all over my trousers (with the owners seeing nothing wrong with this), so I always stay well clear.

Namelessnancy · 26/03/2022 10:38

I know it's not really the point your raising (YANBU though) but regardless of how friendly or well trained no dog should be walking along a pavement/road off lead. It takes a moment's distraction for them to cause an accident.

Eeksteek · 26/03/2022 10:40

This. Although in future I’d say ‘oh, sorry, I mistook it for the one that bit me last April’ And make him feel like a twat.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 26/03/2022 10:42

Whats it got to do with him if you cross the road. I'd be more concerned about that lunatic than the dog tbh.

OldTinHat · 26/03/2022 10:43

I had a beautiful, gentle staffie who I always walked on lead on pavements. Several times, people crossed the road when they saw me coming, often accompanied by shouting 'I hate those fucking dogs'.

I just ignored them.

You did nothing wrong OP, just ignore his comments as I used to when it was reversed.

MarthaFokker · 26/03/2022 10:43

You met an idiot who happened to have a dog with them. It happens.

babywalker56 · 26/03/2022 10:44

Some people with pets are so strange!

You could have had a dog phobia or just not like pets in general. Not everyone has to be a fan of his dog and you can walk wherever you like. Very strange imo

Georgeskitchen · 26/03/2022 10:45

What a twat. You owe him nothing. You can walk where you like. In light of this weeks tragic news of another baby being killed, I believe all dogs should be on a leash in public and only let off in specific designated dog areas. ( I don't dislike dogs btw)

FrecklesMalone · 26/03/2022 10:46

He is a twat. I have 2 big dogs and would have stood away from a big dog off lead. His behaviour further proves he is a twat.

EvilPea · 26/03/2022 10:46

I accidentally ended up with a “status” breed, I will trot out the “softest dog you’ve ever met” and he was. It used to make me so sad people would judge it and cross the road after one look at him.
Fair enough if you don’t like dogs, he wasn’t going to jump up at you anyway. But the immediate judgement made me sad. He had a soft coloured harness to look friendlier.

I have to admit I go out of my way with status breeds now to say hello, as I know the judgement they get

Porthia · 26/03/2022 10:48

YADNBU - I had a similar albeit more polite version when I was heavily pregnant and walking with my 2 year old to nursery.

Now, I am scared of dogs. I used to be properly phobic but I have worked hard to overcome it and now I would say I am cautious around dogs but no longer fully terrified. The reasons behind my phobia are likely many but it was fuelled by 2 dog related incidents when I was a child, one involving a Doberman when I was about 5 and one involving 2 German Shepherds when I was about 10. In the latter incident I ended up being bitten on the leg.

ANYHOO, my point is that no one just walking along with their dog knows any of this. So when a young off lead German Shepherd was running towards me down the pavement and I was encumbered by a very pregnant belly and a toddler I found it absolutely terrifying. This was on the pavement by the side of a relatively busy road - not off in the woods.

The dog was, it turns out, very well trained and the owner just whistled and he turned without breaking stride and returned to him. But I did ask the owner why he doesn’t please use a lead and he said - much like the bloke you spoke to - “if I needed a lead I would use one”

I have since seen them walking around quite a lot, never with a lead and, to be fair, the dog is always under control, but to someone like me it literally feels like seeing an enormous man eating tiger wandering down the road next to me and my toddler. And I’m trusting in the training of a stranger and the unpredictable nature of a dog I don’t know that nothing bad will happen.

Is that irrational? Yes, probably my fear is still irrational and I get that the man has probably put in lots of time and effort training his dog. But, I still think people should come first and that means dogs should be on the lead when on a road!

Sorry for the essay - but I think it’s important for people to understand how it can feel to see a dog off lead (and obviously it’s different in a field or dog park or something).

EdithStourton · 26/03/2022 10:48

I have dogs. If somebody wants to avoid them, that's up to them. That bloke was an arse.

iheartmybeachhut · 26/03/2022 10:50

@Georgeskitchen

What a twat. You owe him nothing. You can walk where you like. In light of this weeks tragic news of another baby being killed, I believe all dogs should be on a leash in public and only let off in specific designated dog areas. ( I don't dislike dogs btw)
No doubt there were people who thought this dog 'wouldn't hurt a fly'. I like dogs but they ALL have potential to turn nasty if they feel threatened or are in pain / ill treated.
StrawberryPot · 26/03/2022 10:53

People who walk their dogs off lead in the street are total twats. It's usually macho bravado. They're effectively saying that they are in total control of their dog and it wouldn't dare step out of line (always makes me wonder about their training methods 🤔).

If I'm walking one of my dogs in the street (always on a lead) and I see someone coming towards me looking a bit uncomfortable, I would always step out of their way and give them a friendly smile.

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