Gender reveal to family

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I am 19 weeks pregnant with my third baby and plan to find out the gender at the next scan. I already have two sons (which we kept gender a surprise until born with both).

My SIL is due her first long awaited baby in the next few weeks and she doesn't know the gender.

Husbands family only have grandsons (we are currently on 6 grandsons) so everyone is hopeful that a girl might appear soon!

Also worth mentioning that no one on husbands side has ever found out the gender of baby before birth, so no gender reveals etc.

I told my husband I would like to wait until after SILs baby is born before we tell anyone the gender. I feel like if we were to have a girl and tell everyone, weeks before she gave birth to a girl would be stealing her thunder.
Husband says I'm being silly.

AIBU to tell family the gender of our third baby before the birth of SILs baby?

I am happy to wait! Husband is not!

Although I realise there are lots of ifs ands and buts to this AIBU..

If we were to have another boy, I wouldn't wait to tell everyone, because we have all boys anyway! We might not be able to find out sex at scan if I'm wrong position.. etc etc so all this could be a none issue..

So what would people do in my situation?

Thanks in advance

Don't ask your sil what she wants, she will probably say what she thinks you want to hear.

We found out at the 20 week scan but didn't tell anyone! We wanted to keep it a surprise but we were really struggling with girls names so wanted to find out so we didnt need to think about it anymore if it es boy. She was a girl

So I'd just find out and keep quiet.

OP that's so thoughtful especially after you said everything sil has been through to have this baby. I would wait until her bundle arrives then find out the sex. I wouldn't be texting everyone even then just mentioning in person when you see people

We found out the sex ourselves then told family later, I just couldn’t wait any longer to get an envelope or anything, I had to know! I don’t think you would be being unreasonable to tell them prior to her baby being born. If I was her I would be perfectly okay with you announcing it before my baby arrived because I’d know when mine arrived everyone’s attention would be on my baby so it really would make no difference. Personally, I couldn’t find out or wait to find out based on other people’s timescales so I’d just go ahead unless she was due within days of my scan

You sound thoughtful and considerate of your sister in law.