People who dont smile at you when you smile

[PeterandSandy]

Most people smile if you smile at them when out.

The other day i did and the person looked away without smiling.

Wonder what that was about?

@saveforthat

I can see that *@MurmuratingStarling has some issues and should probably stsy away from AIBU and seek some help irl so I will stop responding to her nonsense posts. Just for the rest of you (become she's ghosted me!) I am 100% woman and have never once dictated how women should behave, I just expect everyone male female and anything else they call themselves to have some basic human manners. @MedusasBadHairDay* has it exactly right.

Didn’t you call her a “miserable soulless joyless cow”? 😐

Where are YOUR ‘basic human manners’?

@TracyMosby

Because you dont deserve a smile back?

Because smiling at someone and expecting them to smile back is incredibly entitled.

Because women dont owe you pretty.

Oh ffs. 🤣

@saveforthat

I can see that *@MurmuratingStarling has some issues and should probably stsy away from AIBU and seek some help irl so I will stop responding to her nonsense posts. Just for the rest of you (become she's ghosted me!) I am 100% woman and have never once dictated how women should behave, I just expect everyone male female and anything else they call themselves to have some basic human manners. @MedusasBadHairDay* has it exactly right.

Calling someone a miserable cow is not good manners!

If I am out, then I just want to be in my own "headspace and enjoy some solitude. It doesn't make a person miserable if they don't want to interact with every passer-by. That's why living in a city is generally good, because you can just get on with your life without any interference from others. I do find it very odd if I visit a friend in a small town & she is saying 'hello' to complete strangers.
Also, I agree that it is very patronising to assume that older people welcome approaches from strangers - the older I get, the more the idea of being a recluse actually appeals! 😉

I smile at people a lot because of my children. They attract strangers' attention and they smile at the kids and me and I reciprocate. I do think it's a bit strange if someone smiles at you for no reason and would worry I had toothpaste on my face or something. I smile back but sometimes it feels uncomfortable and I am actually quite outgoing.

I was out a few weeks ago and someone said good morning to me, I responded of course but that's rare in an urban setting now. It's a bit sad I think.
Try not to sweat it OP, keep being friendly. It's not always about you.

People are often in a world of their own so might not notice you smiling. They might look in your direction but not register the fact you’re trying to be friendly at all. It isn’t anything personal, people just have their own shit going on.

I usually do smile if I'm walking past someone and our eyes meet and they're smiling at me. But not everyone is the same, some people don't want to smile at random people and you never know what they're going through or what type of personality they have. So it's weird you think it strange that not everyone smiles at you.

I live in a small town and the vast majority when out walking/cycling/mobility scooter etc on paths will say hello or acknowledge you. Some don't, which is fine. They may avoid looking at me at all. Also fine. They may have anxiety or just not be in the mood to be friendly to a random stranger. What really annoys me is people who stare at me as if Ive got 3 heads when all I've done is given a little smile. I get paranoid they were staring at me because I'm on a mobility scooter.

@ddl1 and @Butchyrestingface thank you.

Not content with hurling horrible misogynistic remarks at me, that poster (saveforthat,) has followed it up by saying I am not right in the head and need to see a therapist. She really is an insufferable and unpleasant person, and that is why I refuse to acknowledge her now.

Gone a bit quiet after being called out by you both though! Probably for the best. She really needs to stop posting on this thread now; she's embarrassing herself, and is making herself look like a very rude and unpleasant person. Ironic really, seeing as how she is presenting herself as Mrs Lovely-Smiley-Pants on this thread. LOL! Yeah right!!!

@saveforthat

I can see that *@MurmuratingStarling has some issues and should probably stsy away from AIBU and seek some help irl so I will stop responding to her nonsense posts. Just for the rest of you (become she's ghosted me!) I am 100% woman and have never once dictated how women should behave, I just expect everyone male female and anything else they call themselves to have some basic human manners. @MedusasBadHairDay* has it exactly right.

She was right, and calling someone a miserable cow is not having manners or any high ground.