To feel he loves his dog

[Springhassprung3]

More than me. Been together 8 months and close for over a year. He got his dog just before we met when he was in a bad place. He says the dog saved him. He had a couple of dogs with his ex He never stops showing photos of to me too.

I love his dog. He's great. But my boyfriend seems to be so focused on the dog it's like I don't exist. He uploads his photos onto Facebook. He shares memes about dogs being better than humans. It sleeps in the bed with us. In the morning He gives him cuddles and kisses. Asks him how he slept. He play fights him and rolls about with him. He rarely comes to me for a snog or hug.

I sometimes think is this Normal. Or is he just detached from human emotions?

A dog is an animal, a pet. Not part of the family. of course they are part of the family. A very important part.
His love for his dog shows he is capable of affection @Springhassprung3, so I would say he isn't that bothered about being in a relationship.

The part where the dog is in bed with you would be the deal breaker for me. And I love dogs, but I could not sleep in a bed full of dog hair and smell and dirt from their paws. Unless he literally changes the sheets every day!

DH probably loved DDog more than he loves me. He was distraught when DDog died 3 weeks ago (as was I).

We used to joke, when DC were young, that DH would fight me for custody of DDog before he would fight me for DC!

Quite frankly a lot of dogs are an awful lot nicer than some people.

Cheeseislife8 has made a very valid point, it is not the dog that is the issue but how the lack of affection towards you is making you feel. So this is something that you should talk to your boyfriend about and take it from there.

@BlueFlavour I understand, I'm so sorry.

I'll always miss my boy that passed.

@sunisblinding
Thank you so much, and I’m sorry about your boy.
They give so much.

Some of these replies are making me chuckle - and realise that my new man is even more loveable than I thought. 😊

I'd love my dog more than anyone I'd known for 8 months too. A totally different kind of live of course. I don't think the dog is in any way relevant to your issue though. Is he a good partner in other ways but just not a snigger or is he generally detached?

I think the dog is a bit of a red herring. You’re unhappy about how he is with you and how much affection he shows to you.

Being kind to animals is a lovely attribute. My husband was desperate for a dog and I relented a few years ago. Now I’m totally won over. All my rules about not on the bed or sofa went right out the window. We both greet the dog when we get home before greeting each other We talk to her, sing to her, cuddle her. I like seeing how caring my husband is to the dog. It warms my heart. I don’t think this guy is for you, with or without the dog x

I couldn't be with someone who loved a dog more than me or my children