To feel he loves his dog

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More than me. Been together 8 months and close for over a year. He got his dog just before we met when he was in a bad place. He says the dog saved him. He had a couple of dogs with his ex He never stops showing photos of to me too.

I love his dog. He's great. But my boyfriend seems to be so focused on the dog it's like I don't exist. He uploads his photos onto Facebook. He shares memes about dogs being better than humans. It sleeps in the bed with us. In the morning He gives him cuddles and kisses. Asks him how he slept. He play fights him and rolls about with him. He rarely comes to me for a snog or hug.

I sometimes think is this Normal. Or is he just detached from human emotions?

@JimmyShoo and @fairylightsandwaxmelts
Thank you both so much. Very kind.

@Bananabutter

It’s not normal. A dog is an animal, a pet. Not part of the family. Not a furbaby.

If he loves the animal more than you, run. Run fast.

I’d run fast and far from you and i’m not even a dog owner:

Anyone that says that an animal is not part of the family would be straight out of my house.

You know the saying, "Love me, love my dog." I agree with the poster who said love for a dog is complicated. It is also deeply rewarding and comforting. I can love my dog and my family, they are just different.

Cuddles, playing, walking and just being quiet together are a dog's forte.

Yes, Ii sing to my dog in the morning. Good morning to you, good morning to you, good morning, good morning, good morning to you.

He loves it and it makes me feel good.

Maybe OP you could try a bit of dog love craziness yourself. I'll bet your boyfriend would find that adorable. My DH is a bit of a non-emotional fusser himself. My heart melts when I catch him stroking the dog gently. So attractive in a man.

@BlueFlavour

My dog was the love of my life. I’m bereft without him.

I know just how you feel. My first pug was the doggy love of my life, I adored her. Losing her was horrific. I grieved bitterly for that dog.

I have loved all my dogs and I love my current dog dearly but there will only ever be one Lola and I will miss her for rest of my days.

I love my dogs more than my kids

My Oh has never posted a pic of me on SM. Only ever the dog. He loves the dog more than me I think. The dog is very loveable though!

He loves his dog, that's great! The intimacy with you is a completely separate issue to how he is with the dog. That's what needs addressing.

You're just not compatible.

@Bananabutter

It’s not normal. A dog is an animal, a pet. Not part of the family. Not a furbaby.

If he loves the animal more than you, run. Run fast.

I guess you've never owned a dog before?

My sis, her husband and son came to came to visit this past week. They brought their dog with them. I have never met her husband, son or the dog. Over the past week I grew to love the dog, he was such a sweet boy.

When they went out during the day while I worked he stayed behind with me. I realized that I preferred the dog's company much more than theirs. LOL and the night before they left I knew I would be relieved when they were gone, but I'd miss the dog more than any of them. LOL He was a sweet boy who didn't annoy me not one bit, but they got on my nerves after the first day and I was counting down to when they would leave.

I think it's just easier to love a pet.

Bananabutter
It’s not normal. A dog is an animal, a pet. Not part of the family. Not a furbaby.

If he loves the animal more than you, run. Run fast.

I guess you've never owned a dog before?.

I sincerely hope they haven’t.

My instagram is mainly my dog and cat, my children feature a few times, there is one photo of my husband.

My cat has been there for me for almost 13 years, she is my confidant, my best friend and the person who knows me the most.

He sounds like a nice guy. There is something attractive about people who are besotted by their pets.

@Bananabutter

It’s not normal. A dog is an animal, a pet. Not part of the family. Not a furbaby.

If he loves the animal more than you, run. Run fast.

Dogs are part of the family ! I live my dog just as much as my family members. I don't see an issue with how much he loves the dog but it is a issue his not paying attention to his girlfriend. He could do both

@Bananabutter

It’s not normal. A dog is an animal, a pet. Not part of the family. Not a furbaby.

If he loves the animal more than you, run. Run fast.

What a load of tosh

I love dogs, I think they’re brilliant company and really make a family. If I got into a new relationship and was expected to have sex and sleep in the same bed as a dog I’d run a mile. It’s beyond disgusting.

Thank you so much. He was everything to me. We knew and loved each other so much, I’m not perfect but he nearly was. The love he gave me healed me. He gave me strength. He saw all of me and he still loved me.

You're in a boat with him and the dog.
You're so far out to sea you cannot see the shore.
Miles between you and land!
The boat is taking in water and sinking fast.
There are only 2 life vests...

Well, imagine how this would play out, based on how you think he feels about you and the dog.

@Bananabutter

What’s not to like

@Pyri Lots. They’re smelly, dirty, they get in the way, the disproportionately expensive for what they are, they tie you down and stop you going and doing where you want and they usually come with deluded entitled pet owners.

Well yes, men can be smelly, dirty, get in the way and be proportionately expensive for what they are, they tie you down and stop you going and doing where you want.

And they don't even have those big sad eyes and cute, floppy ears.

@PinkSyCo

Bananabutter It’s not normal. A dog is an animal, a pet. Not part of the family. Not a furbaby.

If he loves the animal more than you, run. Run fast.

I guess you've never owned a dog before?.

I sincerely hope they haven’t.

Me too..I fear they are one of those who keep them in the back garden onna rope 🥺

I love my dog that my son and I adopted more than anything, so son first and then my lovely dog. If you only have his dog to worry about then you are doing good. It also shows he is caring and has empathy and that is a big plus and the dog gives him comfort and if I am feeling low our dog can sense that and just by rubbing her and her being close it gives me comfort. Dogs are nicer than people and more loyal so I understand how he feels. So don't be worrying about if he loves the dog more but see it as more of a therapeutic thing for him and it should not be a problem at all and just enjoy the dog. There is a very special bond between dogs and their owners and unless you have your own dog it is hard to understand, the way they look at you with their big sad eyes gets me every time.

We dance around the living room with our dog and have a special song we made up also, and we hide and she comes looking for us. Those that are saying that dogs should not be part of a family are lacking in empathy and have never felt the true love of a dog.

Aw Blueflavour am sorry to hear that. I just cannot imagine how you felt and are still feeling as our dogs are with us all the time and there is such a bond and love and comfort. Hope you are ok. You little doggy was so lucky to have had such a lovely companion and life.

I wouldn't get with a man who let a dog sleep in bed with him. I don't think he's ready for a full relationship with a human to be honest.

I'd be more worried if he didn't love his dog. He's only known you 5 minutes.