Is 28 too young for a man to get engaged

[Cremeegg456]

After 2.5 years in a relationship, in full time employment etc?

It's different for everyone I know but just wanted some opinions

No, pretty standard

Would it be too young for a woman to get engaged?

I mean, you can be married at 16, so this is another 12 years after that.

Of course not.

What an extraordinary question.
FWIW, my DH was 28 when we got married

No i agree it wouldn't, but just seems like a lot of men wait until they're at least 30 these days

No, amongst my friends 28-30 seems to have been the average time to get married

Of course not

No

And I live in London where people leave it late.

Depends on the social circle. Could be seen as young, but not shocking.

Good to know :)

I’m trying to fathom where this question is coming from — are you the girlfriend who wants a proposal but Junior says he’s too young to settle down, even though you have two children together? Or a concerned parent who still think 28 year old Junior needs his washing done?

Absolutely not too early, DH and I were both 26 when we got married, engaged at 25. Most of our friends all got married within the 2 years either side of us so seems a pretty average age!

No I was the same age and length of relationship when I got engaged ( with wedding planned a year later) and dh a couple of years older. Late 20's was a common age with my age group.

@Cremeegg456

No i agree it wouldn't, but just seems like a lot of men wait until they're at least 30 these days

I don't think there is an arbitrary age people wait till People get engage when they feel settled ,secure in the relationship and believe it will last .wether that's 21 ,28 ,35 ,40 etc etc

It's a normal age to marry, but my now DH had a 'thing' that he didn't want to be engaged until he was 30.
No idea why as we were together 7 years at that point, so it's not as if he'd been living a single fancy free life.
He was true to his word though & we got engaged pretty soon after he was 30, married within a year.
He now says we should have done it 5 years earlier. No shit.

Bizarre thread.

Ideal age imo especially if you want kids

DH was 25 when he proposed, 26 when we got married. This was less than 10 years ago, the weddings in our friendship group started mid 20s and peaked around 30.

Dh was 22 (almost 23) and I was 20 when we got engaged. Didn’t have dc until late 20s though. That was 20 years ago and very unusual in our group of friends. Most got married in their 30s and the last few years (37-41) has been baby years for them whereas we have a dc 10-14 yo.

The average age of first marriage in the UK is 31, so getting engaged at 28 sounds round about average.

Eh? What a bizarre question. I was married at 25, my dh was 26. As long as you’re of legal age then it doesn’t matter

No, it’s an odd question, who are you in this?

DS is 27. As is his GF. They are getting married this year. They are one of the first in their social group, old chums, etc., but they are in love, stable and see no point in hanging around. Both have had significant others, gap years, been to uni, etc.

Earlier than us; future fil was our age, MIL is 8 years younger so a bit older than her.

I think they are ready because they have had very supportive and stable families and have no money issues.

Nope. My DS was engaged at 28 and married at 30. From London if that matters.

Not necessarily - DS married at 21 and 16 years later his marriage is more solid and happier than ever