Is 28 too young for a man to get engaged

[Cremeegg456]

After 2.5 years in a relationship, in full time employment etc?

If it's a 28 year old that slaps you in the face during a tickle fight and tells his parents about your personal spending habits within the same day just this week, then yes he probably is mentally too young 🤷‍♀️

It’s quite young. I’m 27 and the only married people my age I know are very religious. DP and I have been together for 6 years, own a house etc but I still think I’m not old enough for marriage!

No it’s not too young. But equally if a man isn’t ready to get married then he isn’t ready (or doesn’t want to at all) and you can’t convince him solely by pointing out what is or isn’t too young.

Are you his mum and think he's been talked into
It?

Of course not.
My dh was 18 when he asked me to marry him after 8 months together, we're late 30's now.

I was married at 22.

@Imperfectp3rf3ction

If it's a 28 year old that slaps you in the face during a tickle fight and tells his parents about your personal spending habits within the same day just this week, then yes he probably is mentally too young 🤷‍♀️

Oh shit I just did an AS.

This relationship isn't ready for marriage by a long shot.

DS bought a house with his girlfriend when they were 25 and 24, they got engaged just before his 26th birthday and married just after his 27th.

Both are graduates with good jobs, why would they delay engagement /marriage?

Would be on the younger side in my friendship group but not shocking at all.

We got engaged at 21 and 22 respectively and married a year later. Both of us have got stable jobs, at least one degree and have bought a larger home together after our first apartment together. No age is too young if you can make it work. In fact a lot of people would consider 28 quite late for engagement/marriage. I certainly didn't want my time wasted by a man only to move from relationship to relationship at 22 or 23 until finding the one. You'll know when you find 'the one'

The summer when I was 28, I went to five weddings of people I knew from school/university, so were about the same age as me. I remember it well because I'd just left my job to retrain and it was bloody expensive attending all these weddings! It was the first summer where that happened, and the next few were similar. So based on my experience, engaged at 28 is normal.

No. Seems pretty standard to me.

Myself and DH were on the younger side, 23 and 24 respectively when we got engaged, we were told we were too young and that was after 6 years together

I know quite a few we're married years at 28 so it's not too young. I was engaged by 25, married at 26.

God I was 19 when I was engaged, and married at 23. My oh was 21 when he proposed and thus 25 when we married. This was 5 years ago.

I have a varied mixture of marriage and unengaged friends. I don't think there's an average age.

I wouldn't say so, 28 isn't exactly young (I know it depends on the individual and how they behave, it isn't an age that I would say makes you a young person IYSWIM). So no, not too young to be engaged.

Surely it isn’t about age, but what the individual is ready for.

My husband was 28 when we got married, I was 33, one of us is quite mature and generally has everything together, one of us really isn’t (me obviously).

I got engaged when I'd just turned 28 after being together for 3 years (DH was 32)

DH was 22 when engaged to me. Lots of our friends were getting married at similar time etc as well

28 too young? Er no. Not sure whether I am meant to click YABU or YANBU though!

@deadlanguage

It’s quite young. I’m 27 and the only married people my age I know are very religious. DP and I have been together for 6 years, own a house etc but I still think I’m not old enough for marriage!

@deadlanguage

How bizarre. What circles do YOU move in, where people only get married in their 20s if they are 'very religious?' I have heard several posters say this on threads like this and i's very bizarre. I know MANY people who got married in their 20s, and not ONE of them is religious.'

Conversely, I know some 'religious' people who are 28 to 35 who are still single. A few are even older.

No it isn't too young, but then my DH was 25 when we got married and only 27 when he died so I suppose I have my own take on it.

DH was 28 when we got married

@MurmuratingStarling how old are you and where do you live? Most people my age I know (friends or work colleagues) are highly educated, professionals or recently finished/nearly finishing PhDs. I live in SE England and my friends are mostly in London with some in Leeds and Edinburgh. People generally want to wait until they have finished their qualifications and settled into their career for a few years.

I know one orthodox Jewish couple and I think three Christian couples who are married - one the week after we graduated from undergrad! As they wanted to live together for postgrad but that wasn’t allowed in their church. I don’t know anyone my age who is married and not religious. I know many, many more people who are still in the ‘having fun in a flatshare with friends’ stage of life.

My friend from NI says a lot of her friends from back home are starting to get married so maybe there is a geographical divide. But religion could come into it when comparing England and NI as well tbf.

None of my circle have kids either although I see from Facebook that some of the girls from my school that who didn’t go onto sixth form do.

Seems a little on the young side to me but not too young if that's what he wants. On the other hand, if he felt too young for that level of commitment that would seem normal too.

DH was 28 when we got engaged (I was 23) and we had been going out for less than a year at the time. We married 10 months later, do he was 29 by then and I was 24.

Must have been the right decision as we are still happily married 35 years later!