Is 28 too young for a man to get engaged

[Cremeegg456]

After 2.5 years in a relationship, in full time employment etc?

Dh was 18 when we got engaged.

In my London circle it would be normal to slightly young.

Pretty normal amongst my friends.

Ds1 is 28, has just been invited to his first wedding of a friend. But I'd less than half of the people I know of that age are even in a long-term relationship.

Sounds normal to me.

The relationship is long enough for them to know what they want too

No. Not at all. I was married to my first DH by then. Had our DC at 29. He was 30.

We divorced (not because we were 'young'. We were incompatible!). I've always found it to be a London thing... these men who never grow up and then suddenly at 55 they've discovered Dad Yoga and they're carrying a baby sling like it's part of their Theravada Monk Uniform of Midlife Enlightenment, gliding through the streets of West London like they're wandering the corridors of Angkor Wat.
I have real issues with London men. Can you tell?

Had our DC at 29. He was 30.

First husband was 30... not our baby.

2.5 years in to relationship. How long have you been living together? Do you own a property? At that age, I wouldn't rush. If you're planning on being together forever anyway, no need to do everything now.

We was 20 when we got together. Joint mortgage at 22. Engaged at 25. First child at 26, second at 28 and married at 29.

@TheVanguardSix

Had our DC at 29. He was 30.

First husband was 30... not our baby.

DH proposed to me when he was 19, after we'd known each other for five days. I was 30 at the time. Twenty years on and we're still going strong.

28 doesn't seem young to be engaged, no.

Mine was married with 4 kids at 29

28 is not too young by a long shot. For a brief second I thought it might be a typo for 18.

28 is surely ideal if a couple is the same age and want to start a family.

Most people by 28 have become established in their careers.

However, an individual man may feel 28 is too young for him and that he is not ready to settle down. That is not wrong either.

My DH was 28 when we got engaged.

Nope. Think it's pretty average. My husband was a couple of weeks shy of 26 when he proposed after 11 months together

Depends if he really wants to get married in the first place.

Dont look at what other people do
Do what you guys want to do.

No, I was engaged at 21, married at 22 and five children by the time i was 28 - twins came along last! Strangely only one of my children have married, and I have just the one grandchild, which is fine.

Seems pretty standard. I was engaged at married at 27, my husband was 28. I think we were some of the first of people we know but that's probably because I already had a child from a previous relationship. She was 7 by then so we wanted to get a move on and have a second whereas most weren't thinking about children yet.

Didn't get married until 30 but got engaged at 21.

It's not too young if he's ready but if he's telling you he's too young he's not ready.

I dont think it's especially age related.

When my partner was 28 it would have been not right as we were only just living together and had lots of stuff going on.

When I was 28 we were house hunting etc and undergoing that stress

In the end I was 29 when I proposed.

I think for me it's more about relationship stability, financial stability and what else is going on

In my home town, 28 is late!

In London , 28 is a tad early. DH and I got married when he was 32.

Bit of a weird question, age doesn't really factor into it.

But, my husband and I were 26 when we got engaged and married at the end of last year at 28.

Most of our friends of the same age group are either engaged or already married.

My brother is getting married this year at 26, his fiancee is 24.

Isn't that about average now?
My husband had his 21st birthday on our honeymoon... I'm nearly a year older than him and he reckons I was a cradle snatched!

It's a bit pointless posting that your parents were much younger when they got engaged, times have changed... Agree it depends on social circle and circumstances but 28 is not 'too young'.