To live with my parents for just 1 month during the Summer?

[Ahsoka2001]

A recurring theme on many MN threads seems to be that adult children (18-21) coming home from uni during summer is to be discouraged unless they can find a job or other project to do during that time.

Slightly unrelated to my own situation - I don't understand how MN users expect these students to get a job in their hometown for 2 months? In job interviews, you need to demonstrate your loyalty to the company and express that you want to stay there as long as you can. How bad is it gonna look on you if you hand in your notice after 6 weeks?? I think many employers might even refuse a reference for that...? I know summer jobs exist but they're like a gold dust in smaller towns, and there are FAR more students than there are summer jobs.

Anyway, I'm graduating from third year uni this summer (I'll be 21) and my house share contract runs out July 1st. Like last year, I was thinking of arranging to stay in my uni town for July then coming home for August only. Whether I do a masters or not I'll be living/working in my uni town again from September.

Yes, I have a part-time job right now (10 hours a week, could increase during summer) but it's mostly WFH so I wouldn't be going out for that while back home. I'd be able to pay my parents rent (if indeed they ask for it) and will of course be doing lots of housework, etc. I might nip back to my uni town now and then for volunteering (I work with a film society too) or to see friends.

Now, I know my parents won't bat an eye if I do this. Just wanted MN's opinion, as so many comments I've seen sound pretty harsh about this sort of thing - e.g. "No way will my son live with me for even 2 weeks without doing something!" or suggesting that students spending summers with their family are somehow scrounging off of them? Think this is a bit harsh, especially as your own family should be happy to finally be able to spend lots of time with you?

I think you’ve read far too much in to a few Mumsnet threads

Yes, me too!

I work in a hotel and we have a group of staff that come back home for holidays from uni and work, it works really well as we are allways fully booked during holidays so we need the extra staff, also covers the working mums that need to take time off during the holidays to look after their children and staff that want to take holiday during holiday seasons

Both my sons, and all their friends, come home from uni for the summer. I love having them here and wouldn't dream of charging them board whilst they are in full time education although they always chip in with their share of shopping and utilities.

DS2 doesn't work during term time but he has a job at our local supermarket. The deal is that he calls them with the dates he will be home and they give him the shifts they want him to do. Loads of students are employed locally under the same arrangements.

I left Uni 20 years ago and then it was totally normal to go home during the holidays. Most people worked during the long Summer break though, bar work, pot washing ,that sort of thing. My sisters dc are in their early 20's and it seemed to be the same for them, we were gutted when her eldest stayed at his Uni city one Summer!