To think DP should not be going out after testing positive?

[Imaysnapandfart]

DP tested positive yesterday and today went out to the shops - several, non-urgent - without a mask and we just had a huge argument about it. AIBU to think I’m in the right here? He maintains that because it’s not a LEGAL requirement (although government guidelines are to self isolate) that he did nothing wrong.

yes but you cant not go out just to cater to other people's needs. CEV people have to make their own judgement, you have to make ur own decisions and if u choose to go out then thats ok too

Jesus fucking Christ, I don’t even know where to start with this.

Your husband is being despicably selfish, OP. You are absolutely right.

@Imaysnapandfart

I’m guessing all these people saying “we just need to get on with it” haven’t lost someone to it and aren’t watching the rising cases on the news.

You guess wrong then.

YANBU. He is being incredibly selfish.

It may not be ILLEGAL but I think it is IMMORAL. Shame on him knowingly putting others at risk.

@Imaysnapandfart

But if you’re aware you have something that’s potentially dangerous to a vulnerable person, wouldn’t you, at the very least, wear a mask? I’m guessing all these people saying “we just need to get on with it” haven’t lost someone to it and aren’t watching the rising cases on the news.

Absolutely. This is the reality.

I'm cev and got covid for the first time, because parents are sending their children to school with covid! And the school can do f all about it.

There are issues with getting the antivrals in my area also. So it's bloody shit here. Given I also care for 3 others who are cev, it means I can't do this and have potentially put them at risk.

But it's bloody hard being sat here and feeling rough with a note of file that I'm priority for hospitalisation if it deteriorates any further.

@Chocolattay

YABU. It is other people responsibility now to be vaccinated.

I’m amazed that I’m still seeing this ignorant comment. There are vulnerable people for whom the vaccine is never going to work.

@Boood

To me, “living with covid” means we don’t all have to act as if every other person is a deadly threat to be avoided at all costs. It doesn’t mean if you KNOW you’ve got it you should carry on without a care in the world. You have a moral responsibility not to go round spreading it, so that everyone else can carry on.

This sums it up to me. The government guidance assumes people will have moral responsibility even if not legal. Would you send your child to school with norovirus or chicken pox? Most people wouldn't. Covid nearly killed me and I am doing my best to behave normally albeit wearing a mask where others do not. But to think that people wantonly go to busy public places knowing they are likely to infect others makes me so angry. The very least he could do would be to wear a mask which would massively reduce the risk to others.

Sadly he us not alone in his selfishness. A friend told me that her neighbour who had tested positive still went to a major sporting event, went shopping and had child's friends around to the house. Not surprisingly cases are on the increase even without most people bothering to test.

Why are people even testing?? No he's not unreasonable, we are done

Its selfish not to wear a mask when you know you have covid. I know several people who have been fully vaccinated, have still got covid, still been fairly unwell. Goodness knows what they'd been like if they hadn't been jabbed.

Chocolatty I know what you mean but although I have had three jabs I have almost no resistance to Covid due to an illness.

It is my responsibility to keep myself safe and I am pleased that other people are getting on with their lives. However I would like to think that the people do come into contact with are not knowingly positive.

I’m with you OP. It is really selfish. Just like it’s selfish to go out into busy places with any number of other infectious diseases.

Why did he bother to take test if he wasn’t going to be guided by the results? Makes no sense. Personally, I think he’s selfish, with no regard for the well-being of others.

Everyone saying "it's fine, we're done" - perhaps you could explain that to my hospital who will insist I give birth without my husband if he catches covid whenever I actually have the baby (which could be any time between now and the first week of May as they might have to come early due to being small for gestational age). I'm a first time mum, ivf baby and I have been advised to have a c section. I really don't fancy doing that alone, thanks.

Legal does not mean morally acceptable.

He’s a disgusting selfish arsehole and I sincerely hope what goes around comes around for him.

Assuming he has no symptoms so no, not selfish and YABU. Free testing ending soon so most people won't even be aware they have it, plus workplaces ordering people in and no entitlement to sick pay means we are going to see more of this.

And yes, I have lost a loved one - someone who spent the last year of their life isolated to 'protect' them, who then got admitted to hospital for a routine matter only to catch covid whilst there anyway and pass away. It's not going anywhere and life needs to get back to normal.

Seems stupid he tested if he wasn’t planning on self isolating..... saying that I’m not testing so wouldn’t know...

It’s morally wrong and in my opinion he should have stayed at home rather than spreading it

My sisters work place went ape at her for saying she wasn't coming in when she had covid. They told her if she wanted her job she should think about it. Its her dream job and loves it. She went in, she's 20 and shy didnt know whether they meant it.

Dh works wernt happy when he took time off either. He took 5 days he wasnt very ill with it. They said he could have soldiered on. He deals with the public face to face too.
They didn't pay him its screwed us up financially. He normally gets sick pay. But they said he could have gone in as wasnt ill!

I have to car share with a positive case. She has no symptoms and following guidelines.🤷🏻‍♀️

One thing I hoped would come out the back of all this is a move from the ridiculous British ‘soldiering’ in (esp in office environments when you can wfh). If anything it seems like for some folks the attitude has got worse.

We can’t all ‘live with it’. I’m CEV but quadruple vaccinated and in my case that’s probably sufficient for now. The very young, the elderly, the pregnant and the CV are not a small number when totted up. If you’re going out to an indoor public place with known or suspected Covid when you don’t have to, you’re a twat, frankly. Have some sympathy with those on the breadline although not ideal, couldn’t care less if you go for a walk in a field, but if you’re sitting about s restaurant or similar with known covid you’re a self-centred bastard.

He's a dickhead!

@LightSpeeds

He's a dickhead!

Yep.

@Chocolattay

YABU. It is other people responsibility now to be vaccinated.

And people with weakened immune systems to have been vaccinated but end up hospitalised anyway?

For the sake of minimising contact with others when infectious or at least wearing a mask. OP YANBU your husband is being a dick.

We have to move on, most shouldve had jabs, if not- why not?
I wouldn't go out if I knew, but if I had a cold I'd also try to keep my germs to myself.
Dunno.