To be upset

[mummysboy65]

Ok so dd lives a few hours away she's generally come back for birthdays, Xmas etc or we have come to her. She has a bf of 10 months who lives near us so she is back regularly to see him and us. It was dh bday recently but she didn't come visit as she had been back the week before for ds birthday and couldn't use holidays to stay the week and couldn't afford train fare. We were fine with this until she rang to say she was come home two days after dh bday as it was her bf dsis birthday. She had also said she wouldn't come for Mother's Day as she's back for her grans birthday (big one) the week after. Again fair enough. But now she's said she's going to seaside nearby with bf and his parents mother day weekend so another train back. Am I right to feel a bit put out?

I'm married and don't go home for everyone's birthdays . My mum's falls after my dd gets back to school after October break so I go see her during the holiday so we can see her before. My dad's birthday is a hit and miss, I always try but it's hard to book as a holiday from work. As for Christmas, Eid both sets of parents realise that we have to make it fair and that now we have our own young family sometimes we'd rather stay home and have them visit us.

I can see why you are put out but it was always going to happen at some point, she's just trying to balance all the important people in her life.

Though she won't be home on DH birthday or Mother's Day it sounds like she's only just visited and will be visiting again soon for her GM birthday?

I don't think you can expect her to come back 4 weekends in 6.