To be annoyed by this text from my sister regarding Alton Towers?

[Chocolattay]

I have no interest in the place. I have a young baby who’d come with us

Ffs pressed send to soon. I’m just going to ask MNHQ to delete the thread

What? Where's the text?

@thebellsesmereldathebells

I pressed post too soon.

Just put your OP as a comment instead!

In short though the post was that she’s ‘invited’ me to Alton Towers with my baby and her and her 2 boys (and the 2 friends of one of her kids) but I feel as though she just wants me there as childcare help. But she’s been disingenuous about it, phrasing it as a fun day for me.

Are you sure? I can’t see how much help you’d be if you’re already looking after a baby.

@Chocolattay

In short though the post was that she’s ‘invited’ me to Alton Towers with my baby and her and her 2 boys (and the 2 friends of one of her kids) but I feel as though she just wants me there as childcare help. But she’s been disingenuous about it, phrasing it as a fun day for me.

Just tell her then.

Say no or go and have fun.

Just tell her you don't want to go. Tell her you'll revisit the idea when your baby is old enough to get something out of it. It's an outrageous waste of time and money if you don't enjoy it.

I had a big bloody long post with more context and details but accidentally deleted 90% of it then in a mess I pressed post too soon. I’m that irritated that I cba writing it up again tbh.

So just tell her its not your thing and decline the invitation.

Channel Zammo.

@Chocolattay

In short though the post was that she’s ‘invited’ me to Alton Towers with my baby and her and her 2 boys (and the 2 friends of one of her kids) but I feel as though she just wants me there as childcare help. But she’s been disingenuous about it, phrasing it as a fun day for me.

sometimes if your honest and don't put an incentive it can put people off, sometimes as in the book by Dale Carnegie, if you begin with what's in it for the other person, you may get assistance

Just text back 'sorry I can't make it , hope you have a lovely day'

Nope you have been tagged as the nanny for the day when they go on the adult rides.
What the hell would you do with a baby at Alton Towers?!
Sounds like a nightmare for someone who LIKES the place.

Go or don't go. You might enjoy it. Plenty of others go with little babies as it's a family place. Maybe she thought it would be nice for you both to wander around while the older kids are on rides.

She literally said we could take it in turns going on the rides with the boys and then one of us would stay with the pram. So it would alternate. She said “It’ll be a good break for you.”

She also has offered to buy me dinner in the restaurant though I believe I’ll have to buy my own ticket.

I don't see the problem. She's invited you to Alton Towers and you don't want to go. So don't.

She doesn't have a gun to your head.

It’s the phrasing that annoys me. If she’d have said “Do you fancy helping me out with DN1, DN2 and DN1’s 2 friends at Alton Towers? I will buy you dinner.” I wouldn’t even have minded. And I’d have happily done it and left baby with DH.

But she phrased it as if it’ll be a great fun day and she automatically said bring the baby. She adores my DD.

It just sounds like a stressful, annoying day for me.

So just say no! Honestly, you don't want to go, it doesn't sound like fun so just decline the invitation.

It would annoy me too. Like those bloody wedding invitations that invite you to "leave the kids behind and let your hair down!"

No - you want me to pay for childcare so my kids don't clutter up your aesthetic. Just say so.

You know your sister and whether she's given to this sort of insidious crap. If she is, you're not wrong to be irked. The best way to discourage is for it not to work - just tell her that schlepping around a theme park with your baby and her overexcited crotchfruit isn't your idea of a break, nor is the prospect of some overpriced trans fats served in cardboard much of an inducement.

Can’t see that it’s worth getting worked up about, or even starting a MN thread about. You’ve been invited somewhere and you don’t want to go. Say you don’t fancy it, or can’t make it and leave it at that. Not worth falling out over!

Tell her I'll go?

I would find going on the rides pretty fun so I don’t see the problem in her saying that. It’s not like you could go on them without her there as you need her to look after the baby. She could go on rides without you though! Surely you’d need more childcare help than she would?

I think you're looking for problems where none exist

How about "TBH, I don't think taking it in turns to sit with the pram would be much fun for either of us. If you need help with 4 kids, then I'll happily leave baby with DH and come on my own. Otherwise, I'll see you another time instead"