To be annoyed by this text from my sister regarding Alton Towers?

[Chocolattay]

I have no interest in the place. I have a young baby who’d come with us

@Chocolattay

There is a backstory of her being flaky with me over meet-ups, lunches out etc. Cancelling last minute.

Asking me to bring baby over whenever she wants a cuddle yet refused to have her overnight when something cropped up with DH etc.

Wait. She looks after your baby over night. You’re very lucky!

Grow a backbone and start saying no.

@Chocolattay

There is a backstory of her being flaky with me over meet-ups, lunches out etc. Cancelling last minute.

Asking me to bring baby over whenever she wants a cuddle yet refused to have her overnight when something cropped up with DH etc.

Bringing baby over for a cuddle and overnights are two completely different things. You can’t expect her to have baby overnight just because she loves her.

This sounds like a fun day and I’d be happy with the arrangement. You sound like hard work.

She’s your sister! Just text back that it doesn’t sound like fun for you, maybe another time when baby is older.

You don't really like her, so I don't think it would matter how she put it. Just decline.

You can tag team the rides so all queue together then one stay with the baby and swap then go on straight after.

Or leave baby at home. I like AT.

i think anyone coming to a new parent someone telling them "do X it will be a break for you is going to come off a bit annoying. She could say, what about doing [idea] would you find that fun? Would it help you relax as well as give me a break?

Put what you said in your op as your reply and you’re sorted

I'm not seeing the big deal, just reply "Sorry, not up for that at the moment, maybe when DC is older, thanks though" and leave it at that.

@Chocolattay

It’s the phrasing that annoys me. If she’d have said “Do you fancy helping me out with DN1, DN2 and DN1’s 2 friends at Alton Towers? I will buy you dinner.” I wouldn’t even have minded. And I’d have happily done it and left baby with DH.

But she phrased it as if it’ll be a great fun day and she automatically said bring the baby. She adores my DD.

It just sounds like a stressful, annoying day for me.

So don't go.

Easily remedied.

Just say your DC is too young to enjoy the day so probably a no for you. Unless of course you want to join in with nieces and nephews day and enjoyment as their aunt- which lots of aunties do.

Do you often do what your sister wants even though it's not convenient/not what you want to do?

Just reply "nah don't fancy it, thanks"

I hate being dragged round to do childcare for other children when i have my own to look after and who won't enjoy the activity i am being invited to.

I also remember my favourite Phoebe line (from Friends) when she was asked to help..,

"I wish I could... but I don't want to"

Tell her to invite you again when your (baby) DD is old enough to go on the rides.

or

No thanks.

Bringing baby over for a cuddle and overnights are two completely different things. You can’t expect her to have baby overnight just because she loves her.

I agree.

It sounds like you could be cutting your nose off to spite your face.

You’re annoyed that she doesn’t have your baby overnight so you’re not going to go out for the day thinking she might benefit from it.

If you don’t want to go then just say so (although I think you do else you wouldn’t have made a thread about it) or just go and have fun - maybe take DH with you so he can help look after the kids too and you all take in turns.

@Piggy42

Are you sure? I can’t see how much help you’d be if you’re already looking after a baby.

Sounds like the ideal person to help to me. Someone who can’t go on any rides anyway because they are looking after a baby, so any children who don’t want to go on particular rides can be left with her too.

I get where you’re coming from OP. I hate it when people insult your intelligence by making out they’re doing you a big favour when in fact it’s the other way around. She will no doubt find it pretty hard looking after 4 kids alone, but that’s her own stupid fault for offering to take extra kids and assuming you’d come along to help. If you’re not into rides (or queueing), just tell her you’ll leave it until your baby can enjoy it thanks but you hope she has a lovely time.

You won’t be able to ‘take it in turns’ on the rides as the queues are so long you’ll only fit about four in before you’re sick of either shoogling the baby or standing in a(nother) queue.
It’s not my idea of fun.

@Chocolattay

It’s the phrasing that annoys me. If she’d have said “Do you fancy helping me out with DN1, DN2 and DN1’s 2 friends at Alton Towers? I will buy you dinner.” I wouldn’t even have minded. And I’d have happily done it and left baby with DH.

But she phrased it as if it’ll be a great fun day and she automatically said bring the baby. She adores my DD.

It just sounds like a stressful, annoying day for me.

'Buying you dinner' will just be a greasy fast food place, unless it's improved and the park closes at about 5.30pm.

I honestly don’t see what she would benefit from this situation? Presumably her dc are old enough for the rides as she said you could take it in turns, if she didn’t go with you she could go on all of the rides and wouldn’t be stuck looking after a baby she also offered to pay for your lunch and as for the baby staying with you overnight I think you’re taking the p a bit.

I actually think it sounds fun 🤷🏻‍♀️

just say no or leave baby with DH and support your sister with her DC so they have a great day out?

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