My husband, row

[Rainingagaininseattle]

My close childhood friend was murdered last summer. It is devastating for everyone especially her 3 sons (in their teens) and her elderly parents, made worse by the fact it was her husband who murdered her.

Last night I was talking to her brother about details of her memorial, he was very distressed and he called me. We spoke for about half an hour and it overran into a special meal my husband had cooked to say goodbye to my daughter who's going travelling soon.

I felt I couldn't just end the conversation (in the end I did) because of the meal as I felt comforting him was way more important.

My husband went into a monumental sulk because I was 5 minutes late for the meal. I'm really upset with him. I'm not being unreasonable am I?

So upset right now

Didn't mean to enable voting

Your husband is being a massive baby. It ran on for 5 minutes and was an important call, hardly the end of the world. It isn’t as if you missed it and the effort your husband put in went to waste and I’m sure your daughter understood.

For real??

I’m so sorry for your loss. That’s really, really not OK of him.

Is he usually so self-absorbed?

We're having problems in our relationship. We're trying to sort them out. I can't believe his lack of empathy, I'm so upset

You know yanbu. You did the right thing and having that support from you probably meant more to your friend’s brother than you realise. I think his attitude is quite cruel.

And I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend.

Your husband is a self-absorbed arsehole, although I'm sure you're aware of this. No doubt he has form.

Embarrassingly in the end I had to end the call as I said something had come up ( I couldn't say it was a bloody meal). Can't believe he didn't understand that the phone call was more important.

Thank you. I think of her and her family all the time. The murder was actually worse than I've described but I don't want to out myself.

5 minutes when you’re speaking with the brother of a murder victim ? What is wrong with your husband? Petty, and tell him no one likes a sulker.
I’m truly sorry for the loss of your friend.

Thank you xpologog. It's such an awful situation and I'm devastated for her family. It's made me think my husband is totally self absorbed

He sounds like a selfish prick. Are the marriage problems related to him being a controlling dirtbag?

The marriage problems are related to a lack of empathy as far as I'm concerned

@Jvg33 are you joking?

*bring about

Jvg33 - you can't be serious..... his SISTER was MURDERED by her HUSBAND!! She was comforting him!! Are you deliberately trying to be goady?? It's not as if she decided to be late by washing her hair or something!! Honestly....

Don't feed the troll people.

Sounds like this is just the tip of the iceberg OP. A person who has no empathy for you or anyone else is not a nice person to live with or be married to. You weren't suitably grateful for his big grandstanding dinner (that was about your daughter anyway) is my guess.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, it must be such a difficult time! Especially with your husband behaving like he is. I'd tell him to do one even just to scare him into waking up!! He really needs to open his eyes by the sounds of it but I am a bit of a bull in a china shop if the situation calls for it

Please, please can people just ignore and/or report the the inappropriate poster, and focus on the OP.