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My husband, row

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Rainingagaininseattle · 14/03/2022 13:01

My close childhood friend was murdered last summer. It is devastating for everyone especially her 3 sons (in their teens) and her elderly parents, made worse by the fact it was her husband who murdered her.

Last night I was talking to her brother about details of her memorial, he was very distressed and he called me. We spoke for about half an hour and it overran into a special meal my husband had cooked to say goodbye to my daughter who's going travelling soon.

I felt I couldn't just end the conversation (in the end I did) because of the meal as I felt comforting him was way more important.

My husband went into a monumental sulk because I was 5 minutes late for the meal. I'm really upset with him. I'm not being unreasonable am I?

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Rainingagaininseattle · 14/03/2022 16:56

It was a half hour call not 1 5 hours. My daughter didn't know it was a special meal. It was a roast, which we have every Sunday.

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Rainingagaininseattle · 14/03/2022 16:58

And no I haven't spent loads of time comforting her brother over the last year.

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caringcarer · 14/03/2022 17:17

He has no empathy and I would.be embarrassed to be married to someone like that. Your friends brother came to you for support at what must be a truly dreadful time and your dick head husband sulked. Is he 10?

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 14/03/2022 17:36

I'm so sorry for your loss OP.

Does your H often look for reasons/excuses to get annoyed and punish you by sulking?

VioletOcean · 14/03/2022 17:37

I’d have explained I’d had to go but I’d call back later the evening

WonderfulYou · 14/03/2022 17:51

I would seriously be questioning my relationship with him and whether I want to continue with it.

I could maybe see his side if you were going out for a meal and you overran and ended up missing the meal completely - but being 5mins late for a roast you have every week is absolutely ridiculous.

Are there always strict times for dinner?
Do you have any male friends?

He either doesn’t like the attention off him or he’s controlling but I don’t know if that’s with everyone sitting down for a meal when he says or because you were speaking to another man.

beastlyslumber · 14/03/2022 18:27

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. And I'm so sorry your husband is such a heartless, cruel and pathetic dickhead.

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