Page 10 | To think that babies with pierced ears is not a good idea?

Blackbootswithredribbons · 2022-03-13T13:38:43+00:00

I wouldn't trust a baby to not fiddle with their earrings, cleaning might be a difficult etc. And then there's the whole business of an infant not being able to say whether or not they want them done, the pain and having to hold a squirmy baby still while it's done. I also cannot fathom a single reason to pierce a baby tbh, when they're old enough to fully weigh the risks and benefits, that's old enough. What are your thoughts on this?

Cognoscenti · 14/03/2022 16:33

I don't like it, just unnecessary pain for the baby and imo looks silly. Agree with other posters who said it looks tacky, that's definitely the perception where I am. I feel it's become quite outdated though, I can't remember the last time I saw a baby with pierced ears.
I also have a family member with scarring from when their earring from being pierced as a baby caught on something at school and was ripped out their ear, which further puts me off.

MarthaFokker · 14/03/2022 17:16

@avamiah, you said...

My daughter is 12 years old now and I had her ears pierced when she was 5 months old

Then you said...

I have never Harmed my child and she is 12-years old and loves her pierced ears

Both of those statements can not be true. You had someone literally make two holes in her body that she wasn't born with, just so you could shove 2 bits of metal into her when she was a 5 month old baby.

At least own the harm you caused instead of trying to excuse it.

Ginger1982 · 14/03/2022 18:58

@wanttomarryamillionaire

I had mine done when i was tiny, and im actually glad it was done then. Can't remember any of it and have also grown up just knowing i could wear earrings. Had my daughters done when she was tiny as well.

Why though?

HRTQueen · 14/03/2022 20:23

I remember having mine done as I remember choosing the earrings (I was 3)

Can’t remember it hurting I’m sure it did for a second or two but remember the high stall I sat on and being given a lollypop

I don’t know anyone who is full of angst from having their ears pierced when they are young.

Only people I know who are so concerned (are all on mn) it’s seems to be down to children looking common or chavvy before the terrible punching of holes in children ears (not sure what pierced ears they are looking at but mine is a pin hole)

JudgeJ · 14/03/2022 20:30

@Tsuni

What popcorn have you all brought? Any salted popcorn?

I loathe popcorn and always feel undervalued on these occasions! Will a selection of Pringles do?

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 14/03/2022 20:36

It strikes me as odd that it's something we do to children, for no decent reason, which may or may not be abuse but does flippin hurt for a few minutes, just to decorate them. If another adult tried to poke a hole in me now just to make me look nice or whatever, and said it'll only hurt for a moment, I'd lamp them

HELLITHURT · 14/03/2022 20:43

@tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz

It strikes me as odd that it's something we do to children, for no decent reason, which may or may not be abuse but does flippin hurt for a few minutes, just to decorate them. If another adult tried to poke a hole in me now just to make me look nice or whatever, and said it'll only hurt for a moment, I'd lamp them

Good analogy!

StoneofDestiny · 14/03/2022 20:51

It's hurts, it's unnecessary, it can be unsafe and it's done without the child's consent.
What next - tattooing kids?

toomanydogsandcats · 15/03/2022 09:41

I cant believe 10 pages of people fell for this goad.

MaryShelley1818 · 15/03/2022 09:54

Absolutely vile.
Cruel and unnecessary practice and yes, it it is stereotypically from certain types of families.

toomanydogsandcats · 15/03/2022 10:06

I was pissing myself last night watching an episode of royle family when Denise announces she is pregnant. It was like mn bingo. Going to bockle feed, get her ears pierced so she's pretty for the christening, call her Brittney and more I have forgotten. Imagine how this lot would tie themselves in knots trying to say she's common without saying it

Sanada · 15/03/2022 10:07

I'm probably gonna get torn apart but I had it done with my daughter when she was about 5 months. I had it done as a baby as well, I just wish it could be done like they have it in Spain - where its done in the hospital with a needle instead of the guns.

toomanydogsandcats · 15/03/2022 10:09

@MaryShelley1818

Absolutely vile. Cruel and unnecessary practice and yes, it it is stereotypically from certain types of families.

Certain types of families....

Indian families?
Black families?
Mediterranean families?
Latino families?

Or do you mean common people.

Any way you look at it, not OK.

toomanydogsandcats · 15/03/2022 10:10

And I mean your words are not OK.

melj1213 · 15/03/2022 11:03

My DD was born in Spain, her ears were pierced before we even left the hospital.

She has never had any issues with earrings - we took care of the after care when we went home in the same way as everything else. She never once caught them or pulled on them etc, and pretty much every girl at her school had her ears pierced and nobody ever had issues with their earrings.

DD is 12 now and she takes care of the day to day earring care (regularly changing and cleaning them) and has done for years. She loves wearing fancy earrings for events but most days she just wears a regular pair of gold studs.

HRTQueen · 15/03/2022 13:17

I remember a few years ago that culturally it seemed ok. I pointed out that I had mine done as my family is Asian. I was told That was apparently ok I was not common or chavvy I guess that’s because Asian people don’t know any better

But apparently now I am common and chavvy too yay

MangyInseam · 15/03/2022 17:18

I'd not want to bother with it, but it's also not actually a big deal.

People don't like it more because it's a class identifier, and to some extent cultural identifier, but that tends to be under the surface. But if you dig into harms it's pretty benign.

MangyInseam · 15/03/2022 17:22

@HRTQueen

I remember a few years ago that culturally it seemed ok. I pointed out that I had mine done as my family is Asian. I was told That was apparently ok I was not common or chavvy I guess that’s because Asian people don’t know any better

But apparently now I am common and chavvy too yay

No, it's because they are exotic, it has spiritual significance. Not like those working class people.

aspargusaubergine · 15/03/2022 21:15

It’s normal and accepted in my culture. My DD had her ears pierced by a nurse when she was a baby. I am not common, tacky or uneducated. I could point out a few things considered “chavy” in my culture that are normal for a white British women. But I wouldn’t since it’s offensive and I am old enough to understand that class goes way beyond earrings.

alphabetsoup1980 · 16/03/2022 06:08

@toomanydogsandcats

I cant believe 10 pages of people fell for this goad.

Including you ?? 🤣

shrunkenhead · 16/03/2022 06:17

It's been a while.....

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 16/03/2022 08:14

Putting aside (reluctantly) cultural significance I still don't actually get WHY people poke painful holes in their non consenting child's ears. For literally no purpose than to look pretty. How many of us would be happy for someone to do that to us now, for literally no purpose, just because that other person thought it was pretty?

It's weird

oblada · 16/03/2022 13:10

@tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz

Putting aside (reluctantly) cultural significance I still don't actually get WHY people poke painful holes in their non consenting child's ears. For literally no purpose than to look pretty. How many of us would be happy for someone to do that to us now, for literally no purpose, just because that other person thought it was pretty?

It's weird

It is weird. To you.

To me it is giving my children the option to have earrings later in life without the faff of piercing their ears at a time when it's actually harder to ensure it is kept clean. I enjoy wearing earrings (why? Who knows) so I am giving that option to my kids in a way i think is suitable. By getting it done early. There was also a cultural element to it which i felt was appropriate to comply with because i think it is beneficial for my children to feel as close to their heritages. They are very happy with the choice i made for them. The only people unhappy about it are on mn and are not directly or even indirectly impacted by my choice.

Other things other parents do are weird to me but I don't go out and shout about it. It's weird that parents insist on schedule feeding or even scheduled naps. It's weird they insist on putting babies in cots rather than co sleeping. It's weird that they give them unhealthy food or food association and then complain about unhealthy habits. It's weird that they put babies in baby carriers but looking out rather than settled towards mum/dad. It really doesn't look that comfy! It's weird that they consider sleep training their baby. Or that they wait until 3yrs plus to consider stopping nappies.
I'm sure some other cultures find it weird that we put our children in outsourced childcare from an early age.
All those weird things are choices made by parents for their convenience and based on their view of what will benefit their child.
Arguably all those choices come with a risk of harm, mental or physical, most being a lot more significant than quick ear piercing properly done.
But it is done with the right intention (hopefully).

toomanydogsandcats · 16/03/2022 13:52

You sound really nice but also I can't imagine being you. We all make choices, hands on, hands off, devote life to mummies or going back to work and brushing your hair. All are OK, I get tummy ache thinking about your life, you probably get the same at me not being able to go more than 2 weeks before physically returning to work and handing over to nannies. We are all doing the same job in different ways. Most kids turn out fine unless they have Star type experiences. Vive la difference

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 16/03/2022 19:01

*Oblada
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Why is it harder to keep the holes clean once the child has agreed, yes let's pierce my ears?

As I say whilst I'm not comfortable with "cultural reasons " I can absolutely see your specific point about keeping your daughter close to her heritage. I kind of caveated such reason in the post of mine you've quoted.

Otherwise ear piercing as I can see is okaying inflicting a quick burst of pain on a child for vanity. There's literally no other reason than the parents vanity so it differs to many of the other comparisons you've given (many of which I'm with you 100%)