DC is 7.
Once per week they do scouts/GGing (I won’t say which and I won’t say which section). They absolutely love it, have earnt loads of badges, done work outside of meetings to get more badges and talk about it all the time.
In theory they should be able to cope with 1 later bedtime per week, but they just don’t. It should only be 1 hour later, but they kick off, shout, scream, bite even when they get home so it can take 3 hours+ to get them into bed. I put them in their room and ignore but they just carry on until my neighbours text me to tell me they can hear them or they’re disturbing their DCs sleep (I live in a block of flats). It’s just getting too much.
Every time I’ve thought about stopping it for that reason I’ve convinced myself not to. They get so much out of it, and their teacher has insisted that they love it and get a lot out of it that I keep thinking no.
They’re not the most academic child, have struggled massively and was unable to access home learning during the lockdowns due to SN but didn’t qualify for a place at school (currently taking the local council to tribunal over their refusal to assess, school have had DC assessed at their own cost but can only go so far but the assessments told us there is SN there). At school although they behave they struggle with the basics; reading, writing and maths, and are still working 2 years below their actual age.
They often tell me “Scouts/GGs is the only thing I’m good at”. They have swimming lessons but are still in Stage 1 with children aged 4 and 5 where most of their friends are stage 4 or 5 or have stopped as finished, so I do want something that is just for them.
For context they do have meltdowns after school sometimes, especially if they’ve found something very hard, so it may not necessarily be related to scouts/GG specifically.
I don’t know what to do, WWYD?