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Disabled spaces are for those with Blue Badges..

61 replies

Cantleave · 07/03/2022 13:50

It really annoys me when people park in a disabled space without displaying a Blue Badge! People either don’t care, or think that it is okay to park there, because they are only going to be a few minutes. Another thing is, that people also seem to think parking just in front of (or behind) the space, but overhanging it so it is impossible to actually get in the space is okay.

So today, when I went to the Pharmacy there was a car parked behind a tree, but overhanging the disabled space by well over a metre. There was absolutely nowhere else to park, within my walking distance. I did manage to squeeze in to the space, after a bit of manoeuvring, but it was a struggle and meant that I was quite close to the overhanging car.

While I was waiting in the queue to be served, a woman walked in and loudly said “someone in a grey car is blocking me in, I need them to move.” I turned and said “oh are you parked overhanging the disabled space?” She answered saying “I am parked in front of the disabled space.” I said that I was parked in the disabled space, but had struggled to get in because of how much the car parked in front was overhanging it. She then said that I would need to go and move it, to which I said she would have to wait until I got out. She got really stroppy saying she needed it moved straight away. I said no, she would have to wait until I had finished in the pharmacy. She then shouted that she had only parked there for a few minutes, while she went to the cafe and said “I am telling you to move, NOW, or I will phone the police.” I repeated that I was legally parked and if she had parked legally, there wouldn’t be a problem. I told her to go ahead and call the police and I would quite happily sit in my car until they came. She then said that she was going to get her car out and tough if she bashed mine while doing so. I replied, saying to go ahead, it would be her insurance who would be paying for any damage, not mine! By this time the person at the counter had went and got the Pharmacist, who came through and told her to leave, or he would be the one calling the police! She flounced out calling me a “fucking turd.”

I was actually shaking at all this, as I’m normally quite a quiet person. The Pharmacist told me to take a seat until he got my prescription and I felt okay. He actually said that this woman parks like this every day and hopefully she will have learned her lesson!

It was a good 10 minutes before I went out and got in my car. The woman was still sitting in her car, but opened her window and shouted “you had better watch yourself”! I got my phone and made a point of taking a photo of her number plate and how her car was parked, before getting in my car and manoeuvring out of the space, while she was giving me the bird! When I told my dd about this she said I should have just went and moved my car!

Before anyone says it, I admit I acted like this as I am completely fed up with not being able to park, because of the misuse of Disabled Parking! However, in my defence, I really struggle with my mobility and am uncomfortable standing. If I had went and moved my car, I would have had to walk a lot further, I would have lost my place in the queue and therefore would have had to stand again for longer as well, all to my discomfort!

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MintyFreshBreath · 07/03/2022 13:55

Loathe people like this. I’ve got epilepsy and have a BB. I’ve been questioned as to why I’m in the space! (I just ask to see their council/police ID) That normally sends then scuttling off. We’ve had to park a long way away because the disabled spaces are taken up by arseholes who don’t give a shit. With my condition, if I have a seizure I have to leave the shop right away and generally can’t walk far/at all. If the car’s too far (IKEA I’m looking at you!!) then DH has to see if they have a wheelchair.

Rainbowshit · 07/03/2022 13:57

You did absolutely the right thing. I wouldn't have moved for her either. Sorry she was such a dick to you.

SeptemberAlexandra · 07/03/2022 13:58

Unfortunately when someone has this mentality they are unlikely to have learned their lesson. Having said that I’d have made an impromptu visit to the cafe myself and made her wait even longer.

minou123 · 07/03/2022 13:58

I disagree with your dd. You did absolutely the right thing. You stood up to a bully, well done you.

In fact, the only thing you did wrong was to wait 10 mins.
I'd have waited 30 mins to an hour Grin

Cantleave · 07/03/2022 14:05

@SeptemberAlexandra

Unfortunately when someone has this mentality they are unlikely to have learned their lesson. Having said that I’d have made an impromptu visit to the cafe myself and made her wait even longer.
Unfortunately the cafe is a bit too far for me to walk there and back. Plus, I think she would have have been out of her car and giving me abuse pretty quickly!
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girlmom21 · 07/03/2022 14:06

I'm so glad you were able to take a stand OP. The entitlement of people is infuriating.

For a lot of people with disabilities the walk to and from the pharmacy twice, for them to move for her benefit, would be too much.

bloodywhitecat · 07/03/2022 14:09

I take my hat off to you for standing up to the bully. Well done.

Choppingonions · 07/03/2022 14:09

I feel your pain. I had a blue badge once. It seemed that people parked in the only disabled space on weekdays 'because I thought that was just for weekends' and the other way around, too. I regret not having the nerve to explain I was disabled seven days a week.

MyCatEatsPrawnCrackers · 07/03/2022 14:09

Well done for standing up to the inconsiderate arsehole.

Ragruggers · 07/03/2022 14:10

Well done you were brilliant.

Whatwouldscullydo · 07/03/2022 14:12

Good for you!!!!

CharlotteRose90 · 07/03/2022 14:14

Good on you . We need more people like you. I would have gone absolutely ape if someone spoke to me or my mum like that. People are ignorant sods who think the world resolves around them.

Sparticuscaticus · 07/03/2022 14:15

That is horrible for you OP.

The other woman was clearly in the wrong and verbally aggressive . Get your phone out and video record next time or even with what you have taken of her number plate etc you can report.

What the woman doesn't realise is by shouting at you she was causing harassment and since you are disabled -and it was related to her parking Over disabled space & demanding you lived your legally parked car from disabled space- it could be considered aggravated by disability discrimination.

You could report this incident to 101 online and ask the pharmacist/ pharmacy staff to be witnesses. (Give them a ring, get their full names and agreement to make a statement if police contact and give them your name as victim and reg of the woman who shouted).

theemmadilemma · 07/03/2022 14:15

Well done for not being a pushover. You were 100% in the right.

Errorschach · 07/03/2022 14:16

Good for you for standing up for yourself, and good on the pharmacist for their stance. If anything similar happens again, perhaps a nice soothing cup of tea would be in order before driving off.

Blue badge/ disabled spaces are a nightmare when abused by those who don't need them. Carer and child spaces too.

I have used them though, without a badge, and was very worried. I had sciatica on and off for nearly a year. Needed crutches to hobble up to the supermarket door and collapse into one of the shopmobility chairs they lend out. You don't qualify for a badge until you've had walking difficulties for, six months was it? It was a long time ago. I did ask in the shop to see if they could make it know to the car park people but they have no say over managing the car parks.

To go off at a tangent, the Sainsbury's staff in the big out out town super store were amazing. Came out with me to the car and helped me pack, then took the chair back. One person remembered I'd come in with crutches and had forgotten them going back to the car so he went to collect them for me. A smaller local (different supermarket) store were much less helpful.

WabbitsAndWeasels · 07/03/2022 14:16

This happens all the time where I work. People (mainly young men here) pulling into the car park as though it's a high speed dual carriageway, sometimes with friends or family in the car. Inevitably everyone except the driver piles out while they're taking up a disabled parking space. Taxis are also common although I assume they're off the job at that point. They just don't seem to able bothered to walk the extra 20 ft from the regular parking spaces or parent and child parking spaces. Fortunately I don't have to use a disabled parking space however I used to with my granddad in the car (now passed) and some car parks would be full of people sat at the driver's seat while I tried to find a suitable space (after all it's not just proximity buy extra space offered too) or be forced to pull into a taxi rank/pick up area to drop him off and find a regular space.

I wish private car parks had more powers to be able to deal with people who park inconsiderately. I'm glad you stood your ground and make her wait until you were ready and hopefully this minor inconvenience makes her think twice before doing it again although if I was free tomorrow at the same time I might be tempted to drive by and check.

Cantleave · 07/03/2022 14:25

@Sparticuscaticus

That is horrible for you OP.

The other woman was clearly in the wrong and verbally aggressive . Get your phone out and video record next time or even with what you have taken of her number plate etc you can report.

What the woman doesn't realise is by shouting at you she was causing harassment and since you are disabled -and it was related to her parking Over disabled space & demanding you lived your legally parked car from disabled space- it could be considered aggravated by disability discrimination.

You could report this incident to 101 online and ask the pharmacist/ pharmacy staff to be witnesses. (Give them a ring, get their full names and agreement to make a statement if police contact and give them your name as victim and reg of the woman who shouted).

Thanks for the information and the link. I’m not going to pursue anything this time, but if it happens again I will be prepared.
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Sparticuscaticus · 07/03/2022 14:30

I understand @Cantleave
But I hope it helps reassure you that you can. No one should shout at another person or threaten them "you better watch out" especially when she was the one who partied unlawfully. It's hard enough worrying about walking and getting to and from the chemist without worrying about being harassed due to your disability by an ignorant member of the public, she is clearly a deeply unpleasant woman who is getting herself a reputation as such.

Sparticuscaticus · 07/03/2022 14:30

*parked unlawfully
Not partied!

rhowton · 07/03/2022 14:34

All hail @Cantleave !! I wish I was as brave as you, well done.

HikingforScenery · 07/03/2022 14:34

You did the right thing 100%. Good for you.

Whatterywhat · 07/03/2022 14:35

You are absolutely in the right. Horrible that they behaved that way. I really dislike people like her
I would have stood shoulder to shoulder with you and taken photos too, just to back you up

billyt · 07/03/2022 14:39

Good for you, Cantleave.

Not sure if it's the same everywhere, but here you are not allowed to have any part of your car over-hanging a disabled parking space.

And they do issue tickets as a car near us has two on its windscreen (assuming Saturday and Sunday) Expensive mistake.

TheOnlyMrsMac · 07/03/2022 14:42

OP Flowers

Who are these unreasonable --polite term- 4%? Show yourselves.