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Disabled spaces are for those with Blue Badges..

61 replies

Cantleave · 07/03/2022 13:50

It really annoys me when people park in a disabled space without displaying a Blue Badge! People either don’t care, or think that it is okay to park there, because they are only going to be a few minutes. Another thing is, that people also seem to think parking just in front of (or behind) the space, but overhanging it so it is impossible to actually get in the space is okay.

So today, when I went to the Pharmacy there was a car parked behind a tree, but overhanging the disabled space by well over a metre. There was absolutely nowhere else to park, within my walking distance. I did manage to squeeze in to the space, after a bit of manoeuvring, but it was a struggle and meant that I was quite close to the overhanging car.

While I was waiting in the queue to be served, a woman walked in and loudly said “someone in a grey car is blocking me in, I need them to move.” I turned and said “oh are you parked overhanging the disabled space?” She answered saying “I am parked in front of the disabled space.” I said that I was parked in the disabled space, but had struggled to get in because of how much the car parked in front was overhanging it. She then said that I would need to go and move it, to which I said she would have to wait until I got out. She got really stroppy saying she needed it moved straight away. I said no, she would have to wait until I had finished in the pharmacy. She then shouted that she had only parked there for a few minutes, while she went to the cafe and said “I am telling you to move, NOW, or I will phone the police.” I repeated that I was legally parked and if she had parked legally, there wouldn’t be a problem. I told her to go ahead and call the police and I would quite happily sit in my car until they came. She then said that she was going to get her car out and tough if she bashed mine while doing so. I replied, saying to go ahead, it would be her insurance who would be paying for any damage, not mine! By this time the person at the counter had went and got the Pharmacist, who came through and told her to leave, or he would be the one calling the police! She flounced out calling me a “fucking turd.”

I was actually shaking at all this, as I’m normally quite a quiet person. The Pharmacist told me to take a seat until he got my prescription and I felt okay. He actually said that this woman parks like this every day and hopefully she will have learned her lesson!

It was a good 10 minutes before I went out and got in my car. The woman was still sitting in her car, but opened her window and shouted “you had better watch yourself”! I got my phone and made a point of taking a photo of her number plate and how her car was parked, before getting in my car and manoeuvring out of the space, while she was giving me the bird! When I told my dd about this she said I should have just went and moved my car!

Before anyone says it, I admit I acted like this as I am completely fed up with not being able to park, because of the misuse of Disabled Parking! However, in my defence, I really struggle with my mobility and am uncomfortable standing. If I had went and moved my car, I would have had to walk a lot further, I would have lost my place in the queue and therefore would have had to stand again for longer as well, all to my discomfort!

OP posts:
Maggiesgirl · 07/03/2022 16:25

I get this, I go to a local park with my DGD and DDL. There are only 2 Disabled spaces amongst only 15 spaces in total. The disabled spaces never have BB people in them. I now pull up behind them and block them both in.

Usually I get someone come and complain and tell me to move. ( i have a walker so obvious who has blocked them in) I don't.
Longest I made them wait was an hour.

HumunaHey · 07/03/2022 16:33

Haven't rtft but in fairness to your DD, she probably just said thst through fear of yourself safety.

But good on you for standing up to that woman and her empty threats.

Satsumaeater · 07/03/2022 16:35

@bloodywhitecat

I take my hat off to you for standing up to the bully. Well done.
Me too - well done. Fed up with people who obstruct spaces generally but it is a special sort of entitlement to block a disabled bay.
HomeHomeInTheRange · 07/03/2022 16:38

God I hate the “only a few minutes” merchants. In the market town where my BB holding Mum lives all the town centre BB parking is on-road bays. You have to go round and round the one way system waiting for a gap between the ‘I’ll only be 5 minutes’ twats.

londonrach · 07/03/2022 16:39

Please report to police op. You vvv brave.

Cantleave · 07/03/2022 16:41

@HumunaHey

Haven't rtft but in fairness to your DD, she probably just said thst through fear of yourself safety.

But good on you for standing up to that woman and her empty threats.

I think you are correct in that she would be worried about me, but probably more about my Mental Health to be honest.
OP posts:
5zeds · 07/03/2022 16:43

I’m so glad you did that. Brave and in the right.

paisley256 · 07/03/2022 16:50

Wow you're a Star you should be really proud of yourself for standing up to her. Some people think they're too special to follow the rules unfortunately. Well done you Flowers

DahliaMacNamara · 07/03/2022 16:57

Again, good for you, standing up to an arsehole like that.
I have mobility problems and no blue badge, so sometimes I stay in the car while DH parks in a standard space and goes off to get the shopping. If we're facing the right way I can see the disabled parking spaces, which at my local supermarket are next to a drop off/pick up point. It's astonishing the number of drivers who wouldn't dream of taking up a disabled space, no sirree, but because, like OP's PITA woman, they're only going to be a few minutes, it's apparently perfectly fine to pull in behind one of those spaces, at least partially blocking it, and bugger off to do whatever errand they came for.
Soon after they depart, another thoughtless fucker comes along to take their place, like it's some kind of local convention that this kind of behaviour is acceptable.

sillysmiles · 07/03/2022 16:57

I think you are correct in that she would be worried about me, but probably more about my Mental Health to be honest.

I think you are probably in a better place (mental health wise) standing up for yourself, not being bullied and not putting unnecessary stress on your body walking back and forth to accommodate her.

3001signon · 07/03/2022 16:58

👏🏻 Good on you op.
I get sick of people yelling abuse at DH because he doesn’t ‘look disabled’ when he parks in a space with his blue badge. I also get sick of people without badges taking the space that disabled people desperately need.
It would be nice if she thought twice about parking there in future, but she probably won’t.

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