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To pay my child to clean?

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CleaningForPocketMoney · 05/03/2022 18:38

Back story, I had a cleaner, I paid £35 a week. This is a luxury, we do not have much disposal income however this adds immensely to our lives and time with our children and stops the arguments over who does what. We have cut back elsewhere to have this luxury.

We have a 15 year old who wants to earn money, they have found a job pot washing but the hours are late and the money is similar. Our cleaner has retired, I want to pay DC to clean, DH says that is cruel. I know DC will do a good job and understands if they don't I will have to get someone else.
I do give them pocket money but they would like more.

Aibu to let my child clean the family house?

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Didioverstep · 06/03/2022 09:25

Maybe I'm cruel....but I think its a good idea if you can accept it won't be at a high standard. Teaches work ethic. Keeps dc from working difficult hours doing the same job and you get your house cleaned.

Not quite the same but my 2 eldest 7 and 9 go to work sometimes in the half terms woth their dad. They clean tables and the 9 year occasionally writes down a drink order alongside a waiter. They get some money at the end of the day. It's only a couple of hours. They enjoy it. They aren't forced. They asked too. They know a lot of the regulars too so it s a nice day for them. They have about £100 in savings each from the summer last year and the half terms. I have told them they need to save it as much as possible and to think for a week before asking to buy it. If they still want it then they can go ahead. So far they have spent I think £5 each. Others might not agree. But that's what we do. If we didn't have the business I would give them pocket money for chores

CleaningForPocketMoney · 06/03/2022 13:55

@WeAllHaveWings

I wouldn't.

My ds(18) has been able to do the cleaning jobs you listed for a few years but as part of contributing to the home he lives in. I have never confused or associated that with money, ds learned cleaning is something everyone has to do in their home.

Also an outside job will give her a wider experience.

Fair enough, I do expect them to contribute to household tasks but the tasks I've listed I don't want to do, dh doesn't want to do so would feel unreasonable asking ds to do them as part of living in the household. For years we did them and life is better now we don't, we all have more free time.

I don't expect as good a job as a cleaner but it has to be at least as good as I can do it.

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LuckySantangelo35 · 06/03/2022 14:46

I guess the poster saying it’s ridiculous maybe means that seeing as he lives there too and will benefit from having a clean house why should be paid to do it? IYSWIM

adriftabroad · 06/03/2022 15:06

It's a great idea.
I have recently started doing it. Kitchen and sweeping/mopping floors throughout flat. (no carpet)
DD (nearly 14) does an amazing job and I absolutely hated the cleaner coming round. It felt stessful for some reason.

She takes out rubbish and empties dishwasher as part of pocket money.

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