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Infinitemoon · 2022-03-03T19:46:03+00:00

Managers reprimanding staff members on first day in a humiliating way. Not to me as I would have walked immediately.

DramaAlpaca · 03/03/2022 22:18

I resigned from a job after witnessing the most senior manager be absolutely vile and verbally abusive towards a member of staff. I'd been there a couple of months and didn't like the job anyway, but seeing and hearing that was the final straw.

myyellowcar · 03/03/2022 22:18

Call your old job first thing and go back. You’ve seen the culture of your new place and it will not get better. You’ve nothing to lose by leaving but your mental health might suffer if you stay. I knew a job was wrong for me on the first day and I stayed four months while I transitioned into a new different job. I honestly used to hope for a minor car crash or hospital stay to keep me away from the hell hole.

TheRealityCheque · 03/03/2022 22:20

@DogsAndGin

Humiliation on day one leads to god knows what on day x. I have been physically punished in a job, in this day and age, in London! I knew they did that sort of thing, but I managed to avoid it for 5 years, but eventually it was my turn, and I was pretty much traumatised and had to leave employment entirely for several months.

Leave

Physically punished? In what way?

Aozora13 · 03/03/2022 22:28

I walked out after my first day of a temp job. I was an admin for a sales team. One of the sales chaps - imagine a bad caricature of an Apprentice candidate - was giving it the hard sell on the phone, and when the person declined his shitty ad space he slammed the phone down all huffy and called them a cunt. I couldn’t bear to be around any of them and their weird giant fragile egos so stuck it out to the end of the day, then ditched the job and the temp agency. Burned my bridges and wasn’t great financially but absolutely zero regrets! It’ll be harder to leave the longer you stay.

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Infinitemoon · 03/03/2022 22:57

The HR send aggressive emails with lots of red lettering. Oh man this does not look good.

I need to sleep as my shift starts at 7am :(

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PyongyangKipperbang · 03/03/2022 23:52

Or stay up drinking wine and fuck them off.....its an option!

regjamesanddemons · 03/03/2022 23:54

No, just leave. I worked in a place for five years where at the start there was red flags written all over it which I ignored. It was utter hell on earth, filled with bullying by colleagues but specifically the manager. If I could go back to the first couple of weeks in that job I would make myself run for the hills.

Porcupineintherough · 03/03/2022 23:56

Would you be ok if your dh quit his job just like that? If you can easily find other work, then do that before quitting. If you cant then what's the alternative?

burnthur5t · 04/03/2022 00:05

I left a job after no more than ten minutes once. Go with your gut

blameless · 04/03/2022 00:08

The Deputy CEO of a 'household name' children's charity told me how relieved they were that although a staff survey showed that 20% of staff had witnessed bullying, only 10% had experienced bullying themselves.
I pointed out that if, on a bad day, I had unfairly picked on a member of staff, there was the possibility to apologise and explain the circumstances. However, as for the witnesses to my bad behaviour, I would have no opportunity to explain myself to them.
The charity is now rather smaller than it was then.

DoorWasAJar · 04/03/2022 00:30

Is it care work? I stayed and it destroyed my mental health.

DoorWasAJar · 04/03/2022 01:13

@Ifeelgoodgoodgood

I don't understand sorry. You said it wasn't to you. But then you say you are going to leave after your first day?!! Sorry if I'm being stupid

Research shows that witnessing bullying has the same effect on the witness as the bullied person, mental health wise.

Monty27 · 04/03/2022 01:27

If you feel the same after 3 hours give him a piece of your mind in front of his victims and ideally seniors and walk

NumberTheory · 04/03/2022 01:48

If you need the money I would go back tomorrow but either immediately look for a new job or see about taking old work place up on offer to return.

When you're back at work tomorrow you can ask if that sort of treatment is a normal way for management to to treat people. I suppose it's possible everyone else was just as shocked as you? But assuming it is normal, I would definitely look for somewhere else. Giving something like that time doesn't make it any better it just slowly washes your humanity and dignity away so you feel as badly any more.

There is just no point

BitterTits · 04/03/2022 22:34

Have you made a decision op? Pure nosiness. You're lucky it doesn't matter either way.

Outhouse71421 · 04/03/2022 22:40

A bad manager is a bad manager, regardless of what day you notice their behaviour. Anyone behaving like this on the first day does not understand people management.

Newdad19 · 04/03/2022 22:41

I had this exact scenario a few years ago (except Inwas the one being pulled up). I walked out and never went back and had the area manager follow up with me very keen to understand why

nancybotwinbloom · 04/03/2022 22:50

If you are going to leave anyway and can walk back into your old job,, well go out with a bang and call it all out the n public loudly.

Might make it better for those that are unable or scared to stand up for themselves.

NotMeekNotObedient · 04/03/2022 22:59

I had this feeling on day 1 of a job.

I hacked it for 3 months but wish I hadn't bothered. It was awful. It really knocked my confidence going into my next role.

I'd start looking for something else - if it turns out this job is fine you can always turn down any other job offers.

Voice0fReason · 04/03/2022 23:03

There is no place for staff being humiliated in any workplace
If I had options, I would leave immediately.
If I didn't, I would be planning to leave as soon as I could.

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Infinitemoon · 05/03/2022 14:17

My day went OK thank you but only because I didn't see any Management.

It appears that most staff have recently joined the company in the last year and most of those ones have only been working there a few months. Not sure yet what happened to everyone.

I will look for another job now I think but keep working until then.

The thing that worries me is the HR department(4 people) is in a cliche with Management so I am not sure how any complaints would be handled? The HR creeps up to Management and send barking emails to the underdogs.

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Infinitemoon · 05/03/2022 14:18

*clique

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AvonCallingBarksdale · 05/03/2022 14:32

I left a job after a week and went back to my old role at the company I’d left. The new job had been misold and was much more junior than I’d expected, albeit for more pay. I checked that i could return and then spoke to my new boss v honestly and managed a good exit. It can be done. I remember some people saying “you’ve made your bed, now you have to lie in it”. You really don’t!

Sundancerintherain · 05/03/2022 15:40

I worked in a company for 13 years.
Someone utterly shite was pushed into a supervisory role ( because they had fucked up with her mat leave so wanted to appease her)
She started building her team for a new project, ran through staff like a dose of salts. One very memorable day she had 4 new starters and 3 left by lunchtime. This was not a minimum wage company, these people really wanted to work for the company but she was abysmal. She got forcefully shunted sideways within 3 months.

AlisonDonut · 05/03/2022 16:13

The thing that worries me is the HR department(4 people) is in a cliche with Management so I am not sure how any complaints would be handled? The HR creeps up to Management and send barking emails to the underdogs.

HR's job is to keep the company out of court.

It is not there for any other reason.

It's best to remember that with any employer.