To leave job after just one day?

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Managers reprimanding staff members on first day in a humiliating way. Not to me as I would have walked immediately.

When someone shows you who they are you should believe them.

No one, not even someone who is having an extraordinarily bad day would think that humiliating someone on the shop floor was acceptable unless they were used to doing it.

Always always always go with your gut. If the door is open at your old place ask for your job back!

I considered leaving day 1 of a new job when they left me waiting in reception half a day due to hr cock-up. I really should have done, that was probably as good as the job got i did leave within months.

Well if you need the money but can return to your old gig, then arrange that.

But no, don’t just walk out if your household needs your wage, you are an adult.

Go with your gut on this.

I went against my gut in a job- knew after one day I hated it. My parents told me to at least give it a week. Stayed two months and my mental health was massively compromised and I ended up waking in the end with no notice or anything.
It was a horrible horrible place to work.

I don't understand sorry. You said it wasn't to you. But then you say you are going to leave after your first day?!! Sorry if I'm being stupid blush

Because I felt the staff member training me was competent and the manager who didn't even introduce herself was unprofessional and quite frankly came across as a bully.

I think after relieving a bit of stress I will return tomorrow. Not looking forward to it at all.

@Ifeelgoodgoodgood

I don't understand sorry. You said it wasn't to you. But then you say you are going to leave after your first day?!! Sorry if I'm being stupid

I think that the OP thinks that if such treatment is typical of the firm, it's not a good place to work.

Some managers just have form for doing this once in a while. We have one. Good at job in every other respect just has appalling social skills at times when comes to addressing an issue or something that need improving. We usually just eye roll then get on with the job as it's mostly a fab place to work with fab people

I left a new job after 1 day, horrible atmosphere & job nothing like advertised. Rang my old boss on the way home crying & she said I could go back! Was at my old company another 3 years after that. Do what makes you happy we spend too much of our life at work to not enjoy it!

I knew on a first day I’d made a terrible mistake with a job. Knew it had been mis-sold and my gut was telling me boss wasn’t a good person. I’d had this at interview but dismissed it because they gave me a good offer (after I had turned it down) I wrote it off as 1st day nerves but by week 3 I knew I couldn’t stay there long term. I lasted 5 months (I had just started applying for new jobs as I finally gave in to the gut feeling) but they let me go (they saw it coming along with thinking I was shit) just as my first applications went out. I should’ve listened to my gut and not swithered when I’d first turned it down. You will always be looking a reason to leave if your gut is telling you somethings not right.

Now I have a rule of 3’s- after 3 days and it’s still not right, stay until 3 weeks, if still not right then, look to leave by 3 months (obv depending on notice). Not sure why this works for me, but it seems to. I read somewhere if you are in a job less than 3 months, you are not expected to list it on cv, or no ones cares if you do. You can write it off as a bad fit or something. This probably isn’t accurate but would be easier to pass off provided your other work history was ok

I’d not had that gut feeling before or since either.

I like your rule of 3s @TheNinny. This gives my something to hang on to. I am going to try to give it three weeks and then aim to be out by 3 months if it is still toxic.

Thank you

DH started a new job on Monday. He came home Monday night and said he hated it for reasons I won’t bore you with, and he was thinking of walking (we can afford it). Much discussion later he decided to give it until our holiday in a fortnight. Each day this week was a bit better, and tonight he came home waxing lyrical about how wonderful it all is, and the issue on the first day seemed to be a one off. He could change his mind again, but for now, it’s looking good.

Maybe give it a couple of days, see if it improves ?

If you can afford to them yes. I worked in a toxic environment once, caused by a core group of people, we had someone who left after an hour, all of us who weren't in the nasty bullying group admired him for it.

He witnessed one of the bullies in one of her strops asked us "is she normally like that what's the matter?" and a few of us said something like "that's a good day" then the next thing he went and spoke to the manager and was gone.

Yes I think if there is another incident tomorrow, the rule of 3s may be hard to follow. I may just walk.

@DogsAndGin

Humiliation on day one leads to god knows what on day x. I have been physically punished in a job, in this day and age, in London! I knew they did that sort of thing, but I managed to avoid it for 5 years, but eventually it was my turn, and I was pretty much traumatised and had to leave employment entirely for several months.

Leave

Bloody hell. What line of work was that?

This happened in a school I went to work at. I knew there and then it wasn't for me and was out within the year.

You have felt the fear and are ignoring it. NEVER do that.

Your instinct is telling you to run for a reason. Your old job will have you back, so its a no brainer.

Call your old boss and then resign.

"Thank you for the opportunity but I can see that I am not a good match for your company and the way your managers work"

DogsAndGin eh?

@DogsAndGin

Humiliation on day one leads to god knows what on day x. I have been physically punished in a job, in this day and age, in London! I knew they did that sort of thing, but I managed to avoid it for 5 years, but eventually it was my turn, and I was pretty much traumatised and had to leave employment entirely for several months.

Leave

Where on Earth was that, @DogsAndGin?

Leave the job. I wish I did a few years ago after my first day. Absolutely hated it, the environment, the staff, very toxic atmosphere. I stayed because I thought it would look bad to leave but it affected my mental health and I did leave 2 months later.

But if I was in the same situation again, I’d leave after the first day. Put yourself first!

Good luck OP

OP if you do leave is there an HR department or someone you can inform about the humiliation?

If your old job is still open, don't hang around and let them fill it, get back ASAP.

Also...I left a job some years ago after it being totally sold to me. Family friendly, good hours, good bonuses etc. New manager walked in on first day and said she would book my training the next day, hotel etc. I must have looked confused because she said "Is that a problem" and I said that the person who offered me the job made it clear that there would be no overnights etc. She said "Well there isnt! Its just 4 weeks residential training"

Errr.....no! I was a single mother with no out of hours childcare so a) I cant and b) my DD was 5 months old at the time so I dont want to.

I went in the next day and resigned and she got a right one on me saying I shouldnt have accepted if I couldnt fulfil their requirements. The company closed a few months later so dodged a bullet there, I found out many years later that she was actually married to the owner which explained a lot.