do you know anyone who got married very young nowadays

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I recently found out a distant relative (who is now dead) got married when she was just 18 and her DH was also 18. This was a very long time ago and I know times were different but when I look at my DS who is 17 and although he’s a lovely lad the idea of him getting married next year seems beyond ridiculous. So I wondered does anyone know anyone who got married at a very young age (18/19/20) recently as in since 2010. How did it work out? Did they stay together? How did they manage finances ect?

I got married in 2002 at 21. Didn’t think it was young at the time but looking back it was, but we’ve just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. I would encourage my kids to wait a bit. Have a few more years just pleasing themselves.

Married at 19 in 2010 - pretty much a shotgun wedding, still going strong. We are expecting baby #2 (due in April, all going well) and are still as madly in love as ever.

Bit outside your time frame- me, age 19 in 2008. Dh was 21. Very much the norm in my community to get married very young.

Married in 2009 when I was 21, turns out he was abusive, we were together 11 years in total married only 6. It wasn’t our ages but I ignored all the red flags in the beginning thinking I needed to work at our relationship when in reality I could and should have ended it very early on.

@Ringmaster27

I was 19 when I got married in 2014. 3 DCs in the next few years. Separated in October of last year.

I got married in the late 1960s, I was almost 21 and I was the first of my group from school not to 'have to' get married!! We had been married for almost 52 years when he died.

I must be really naive, I'm really shocked at the number of Christian stories on this post. I didn't think it was that common nowadays for people to still be getting married young for the purpose of sexual relations and living together. Are these UK couples?

I know a few Christian couples late teens / early twenties who got married in the last few years.. still together but still early days I guess.
My parents met at 16 and married at 19, but that was in 1970! She told me one of the driving reasons was that they wanted to live together, and landlords wouldn’t accept an unmarried couple.
I married at 18 and it only lasted just over a year, and again at 25 (you’d think I’d have learned) which lasted longer, but I’m single again now.
Ds met his gf the first day of uni, they’re very happy, but won’t rush marriage or children, certainly not until after they graduate.

My brother and sister both did.
Both due to military commitments.
Brother is still together due a baby imminently. He is in the army and supports them.
Sister divorced. He wasn't very nice.

My aunt got married at 17. It was the 1960s and she was pregnant. 3 more children and 8 years later they divorced. My dad's step mother married her first husband at 19. They remained married until he died in his fifties. A couple of years later she married my grandad and they had a long and happy marriage.

My husband and I got married in 2008. He was 25 and I was 24. We had only known each other 9 mths too ( no I wasn't pregnant) so it is a complete shock to everyone that hears it

@TarcasticSwat

I must be really naive, I'm really shocked at the number of Christian stories on this post. I didn't think it was that common nowadays for people to still be getting married young for the purpose of sexual relations and living together. Are these UK couples?

The people I know - yes, all in England.

I expect it’s a small percentage of the population as a whole, but in some churches premarital sex would be very much frowned upon. The Church of England officially teaches that premarital sex is wrong, although I don’t think all congregations put much emphasis on it as they perhaps used to.

I have two relations, both in a non-mainstream Christian church, and they married their respective spouses in their very early twenties. I think the church would have kicked them out of they had shacked up together.

An old school friend of mine got married at 18 in 2014. He was also 18. They've just recently separated.

@Ionlydomassiveones ahhhhh back in the olden days of 2005 when dinosaurs roamed the earth and it was strictly forbidden for coquettish young girls to cast their eyes upon the strong young men who were destined for a life of hard toil to support their future womenfolk.

I have two uni acquaintances who married their high school boyfriends at 22/24. Both couples are still together now in their early 30s.
An evangelical Christian friend got married at 24 too. They are still happy together in their mid 30s.

Thinking about it, I know lots of people who got married in their mid 20s (myself included) Though I suppose that's just younger than average rather than very young.

A few people I went to school with got married at around 21 but that's the earliest I know except for people online.

Oh I'm 26 btw so that was in the last 10 years. But they already had 1-3 children with their partner so I guess marriage made sense.

My parents married at 17, they had me 2 years later. They have been married for over 50 years. Same with my Granparents. Married at 17, both died when aged 90. They died 1 month apart from each other.
I on the other hand was married in my early thirties. Nearly 20 years Been together.

I got married at 22 in 2011 - still married!

My friend got married at 19 to her then 21 year old husband. She’s now 30 and they have 3 kids and are going strong although they had a bit of a rocky patch 5 years ago. My sister got married at 21, divorced at 22

@TarcasticSwat

I must be really naive, I'm really shocked at the number of Christian stories on this post. I didn't think it was that common nowadays for people to still be getting married young for the purpose of sexual relations and living together. Are these UK couples?

Yep totally normal. I know a lot of Christian couples who didn't get married overly young (say, early to mid 20s) but who certainly didn't live together or have sex before marriage - very much of the belief that marriage came first. Nearly all of them are still together (between 8 and 15 years in).

I started uni in 2003 and I knew one couple through church who had got married aged 18 before going to uni. They are still together.

We got married when we were both 22 after a few years together. That was in the late 90s though so a bit earlier than your time frame. Had a couple of snarky comments about being too young at the time. It's our 25th anniversary this year, happier than ever.

Looking back now it sounds young, but we chose not to have children for the first 10years and so it was all just a lot of fun, a big adventure growing together with no stresses in the early years.

I'm so pleased we were lucky enough to find each other so early in adulthood. We have a few sets of friends of similar ages who also married young, all seem very happy. In fact the only people I know who are divorced married in their 30s 🤷‍♀️

One of my nieces got married when she was still in university, must have been 19/20? Just celebrated their 10th anniversary. Didn’t have children until quite a few years later though. She’s since qualified in a professional career, they’re doing well.