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do you know anyone who got married very young nowadays

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lostintranslation12 · 02/03/2022 16:33

I recently found out a distant relative (who is now dead) got married when she was just 18 and her DH was also 18. This was a very long time ago and I know times were different but when I look at my DS who is 17 and although he’s a lovely lad the idea of him getting married next year seems beyond ridiculous. So I wondered does anyone know anyone who got married at a very young age (18/19/20) recently as in since 2010. How did it work out? Did they stay together? How did they manage finances ect?

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Franklin12 · 02/03/2022 18:55

How many couples get married at under 21 and are still together say 10 years later. Don’t get me started on young people having children under 21 and then not staying together. There are loads..

Would like to know %’s if anyone has them.

HereComesTheMum · 02/03/2022 18:55

Not in your timeframe but met DH when I was 17, married at 21, been married for 19 years. Atheists. He’s still my best friend.

HappydaysArehere · 02/03/2022 18:56

I married at 18 and my dh was 20. That was 1960 so nearly 62 years ago so not what you are asking. My friend also married at 18 to a very young husband. We have often laughed and said how mad we were!!!

Xenia · 02/03/2022 18:57

I married at 21 but I had already graduated and I had done my post grad law year and even in my teens was more like a 40 year old in terms of maturity. It just depends on the person.
I do not support the plans to increase the UK marriage age from 16 to 18 as in some cultures in our diverse UK marrying at 16 is fine.

QuizzlyBear · 02/03/2022 18:58

My sister married her childhood sweetheart at 20 and divorced two years later. I know of one or two others but all divorced now.

InsideTheNet · 02/03/2022 18:58

We were married at 23 although we got together when we were both 16. Now been married 38 years.

weegiemum · 02/03/2022 19:00

We've been together since 19, married Since 24 (27 years). Got married as we didn't wan5 to live together before getting married as we're Christians (though definitely not fundamentalist!

tyoy · 02/03/2022 19:02

How many couples get married at under 21 and are still together say 10 years later. Don’t get me started on young people having children under 21 and then not staying together. There are loads..

This is why despite meeting so young kids & marriage was much later. You change so much in your 20s

dollybird · 02/03/2022 19:03

I married at 22 in 1997, divorced and married my DH at 24 in 2000. My parents married at 18/20 in 1968 and are still together. I can't think of anyone young that I know of who's married more recently.

RhinestoneCowgirl · 02/03/2022 19:03

I got married in 2001 at the age of 23, DH was 25. We have two teenage DC now.

But a friend same age as me had an early 20s marriage and quickly divorced, then another marriage and divorce by mid 30s.

hopeishere · 02/03/2022 19:04

A friends daughter. She was about 23 but had not lived a life at all IMHO. Also a Christian so no sex before marriage. Only knew the guy for a few months before getting married. Two kids already! She's one of nine so I suspect she wants a big family although she has had two emergency sections with the first two so not sure how feasible it is. Gave up her job to get married. Won't ever go back.

wishful2012 · 02/03/2022 19:04

Was 19 married in 2002, still together

Itsthejourney · 02/03/2022 19:06

22 in 2006, divorced 2 years ago.

D0lphine · 02/03/2022 19:07

Lots of these aren't really "nowadays" 🤣

I think OP means people who get married young now, like 20 year olds getting married this year.

Not people getting married early 2000... that isn't nowadays guys... that was 20 years ago and the world is drastically different.

A580Hojas · 02/03/2022 19:08

I'm in my late 50s. I don't think I know anyone who got married under the age of 25 in my generation (maybe some of my cousins). Of my Uni friends who got married young, say 28 or younger, I'd say 90% are divorced now.

ikeepseeingit · 02/03/2022 19:10

Well, I got married at 23 a few months ago 🤣 Got together at 15. We're very happy! I don't envision us splitting ever, but then I wouldn't have married him if that was the case. My mum got married at 21 and my dad was 23, my parents are still together 30 something years later. I don't think anyone made any comments about our age. At least not that I heard! Not sure I really care what they think, it's my life and I make the decisions in it.

Ragwort · 02/03/2022 19:11

My DS is a Uni student and has already been to one wedding of his fellow Uni students (not graduates) and another planned next month.

I would honestly be a little disappointed if he got married so young.

lalafam · 02/03/2022 19:11

Married at 21 and still married 12 years later

oblada · 02/03/2022 19:12

I didn't get married at 18 but I did come over to the UK at 18 and met my now husband then. not really independent financially at that stage though as we were at university and depending on some parental support. We were living together when i was 20 and properly independent when i was 23. Married 2 years later, in 2010. We learned as we went along really. We were both quite clueless to start with.

Siepie · 02/03/2022 19:13

I know a few people who got married at 20/21 in the last few years, all to people they’d known for less than a year. That includes one person who had an online relationship during lockdown and got engaged the first time they met in person! They’re all Christians in churches where that’s expected, or at least fairly normal.

As far as I know they’re all still together, but then in circles where people are expected to marry quickly, divorce is generally also frowned upon, so I don’t think staying together always means that people are happy together.

SnailAndAWhale · 02/03/2022 19:13

Engaged at 18 in 2012, married at 23 in 2017. Not as young as what you mentioned but we both had quite a few comments from work colleagues etc (we’re both the same age) about ‘how young’ we were Confused

yoyobaby · 02/03/2022 19:13

My sister got married when she was 21. Had two kids within the first 2/3 years and they’re still happily married now, 11 years later. I guess it works for some people!

ghostmouse · 02/03/2022 19:14

Yes my exs daughter who is 18 has just got married to her boyfriend. He’s not very nice but she seems to be besotted by him, she has low self esteem and had a chaotic upbringing. Cut herself off from her family and is so sad to see

oblada · 02/03/2022 19:17

My parents got together when they were 17 and 20 and married 20 and 23 (my dad being the younger one). Kids early 30s though. Still happily together now some 47 years later.

londonrach · 02/03/2022 19:17

The only person I know who got married at 19..
.was separated and horrible divorce (no childre luckily) at 21. Everyone else didn't get married till late 20s

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